santa clause??

Question

what do you think the average age for your child to know that there is no such thing as santa. and how do you explain that to them. and why have we made up such a silly thing like santa any way. i have 4 kids and my oldest girls are 6 and 8. and i have a feeling it coming soon.

Answer 1

I think I was 8-9 when I found out and it broke my heart.. although it did here I am playing Santa for my own two knowing that they too will get their heart broke when they soon find out.. there is no easy way to say.. all these years we lied to you so you would be good LOL

Answer 2

I found out at 10. My daughter is about to turn 9 and has shown any doubts in Santa. She knows the ones at the stores and malls are helpers because the real Santa is very busy. Let them believe as long as possible. They grow up too fast as it is. They very well might have a good idea. Kids learn things alot earlier in life these days. Just let them hang on. When the time comes, tell them that Santa was created so that kids can enjoy being a kid. Santa is a special way of sharing presents for kids. It's not silly. Some people believe all their lives. There's nothing wrong with that. It's fun and it makes us feel good. It's just another way to share the birth of Christ and the gifts he received. Also, be sure when they do realize it that you don't let them spoil it for the younger kids. They have a right to enjoy it for as long as possible too.

Answer 3

I think it depends on the child. Sometimes kids are really mature for their age so they catch on and figure out things quicker. No dout I'm sure you oldest daughter has already been told by friends at school that there is no Santa, and I'm sure she's starting to figure it out. Wait to tell her until she shows signs of getting bored with the whole Santa Secret ordeal. Then one day in December, when she's at least 8-9 years old, take her aside so the other younger can't hear and explain to her that Santa is just mom and dad. She should take it well, she probably already knows. And remember to ask her not to tell the younger children because Santa is still fun for them. -And as a final note, you can remind her that she will still get the same amount of presents as her siblings!

Answer 4

Our daughter started becoming suspicious at 7-8 years old. We finally broke the news to her right before she turned nine since we hadn't really given her a direct answer for the past couple of years. She wasn't sad, just confused. She's 10 now, and every now and then she still asks questions about how we sneak the presents, who eats the cookies, etc..! I think a part of her still wants to believe there is a Santa Clause! It's actually kind of cute! It's a tradition that connects to childhood wonder and innocence. There's nothing wrong with that. My parents told me from the start there was no Santa, but I remember listening for him every Christmas Eve anyway. You can't take away a child's imagination, so why not encourage it?

Answer 5

well the average is about 9 or 10 and once the first child realizes there is no santa the other will begin to know there is no such thing but if the one finds out tell them santa is very old and is very sick and is not to tell your sister...

Answer 6

To be honest, the age when most children realize that there is no Santa is about 7. If and when it does happen, they realize that Santa is just a myth, its no big deal. That just means that you're child is losing their innocence, or more really they're growing up than losing innocence.

When they realize that there is no wacky fat guy in a big red suit, then they've caught you! No, but seriously, just sit them (who your talking to) down alone and explain to them what is real about this mysterious old guy. Also, if you want to, you may tell the one you have the talk with to keep it a secret from the other siblings, so as to not ruin the experience for the others. You don't have to put it the way I just did but that basically what you want to say to them.

I hope I could be of service to you.

Answer 7

Not until the child begins to understand both the idea of Santa and the idea of Christmas as a religious holiday. When they begin to question the existence themselves, but in an intelligent manner. Usually this is anywhere from 9 or 10 on up.

Answer 8

I told my oldest daughter when she was 9. I explained that santa was not real in a physical sense. But that he was real in spirit. That when people donate clothes and toys to the less fortunate during Christmas time, that was the spirit of Santa. She was a little crushed that Santa wasn't real, but she understood how helping others is in the spirit of Santa.

Answer 9

Santa isn't made up, not really. St. Nick was a real guy, and so are the legends based off of him, and i mean legends not the Ho Ho guy. Anyhow everyone is different, but its not a good idea to blatently tell them its a lie. whether or not you tell them they'll figure it out soon, and they'll either flip out of their skulls, be cool with it, or not care so long as they get their gifts.... hopefully they'll understand it and want to make Santa live on, perhaps not as a physical being who carries around preasents, but as the very essense of the christmas season, the kind that makes you just wanna sing and relax, the thing that makes us really wanna give gifts and all. Don't worry yourself over it, it'll all come to pass soon.

Answer 10

I'm surprised at 6 & 8 that they have not already discovered the truth. I worked at an elementary school for 9 years. I was surprised the first couple of years of just how many kids already knew. It's sad, but once a child starts school they learn so many things that you would want them to not learn for a few years. This is due to the difference backgrounds and raisings given to so many. I'd go ahead and explain the whole thing. Just like you, I'm not sure why we tell our children such. It's actually lying to them. Next you'll be dealing with sex questions. Good luck