i was with a guy but we broke up because i said i was not ready for sex he said that its important to have sex as thats how the feelings develop. i seem to always have this problem as nowadays everyone has sex within a few weeks of dating and i dont give it up. what should i do? im 27 and have not been in a serious relationship as i dont have sex and men seem to get scared that they will never get it.
2006-08-28 02:07:49 · 38 answers · asked by sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats because they only want you for sex. They assume by your bleached hair and fake **** that you are easy.
2006-08-28 02:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by dickencider 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
But have you ever had sex, in other words are you still a virgin??? There is nothing wrong with that of course, but at your age sweetie you want to inform the man you like that you are not easy and that good things are worth waiting for but shoot, are you seriously believing in getting in a serious realtionship with a man and not give him any...Please consider the issues, always be safe and protected but hey next guy you really like inform him of the wait and in a few months you should be in a real relationship, you know a "real" commitment with sex and all...
2006-08-28 02:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know that most men are liers! They will use you and take advantage for their own selfish wants and needs. However, there are gentlemen in the world and when you meet one and form a relationship he will give you the time you need before you consent to having sex. Life is short and sometimes we need to be reminded that you have to take a chance now and again otherwise you'll never know. Dont do anything your not comfortable with, goodluck!
2006-08-28 04:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by filmstu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok giving the male view here, i''ve been going with a girl now for 6 months, when we started to date SHE was experenced and i wasn't i had been in many a relationship that well things just never felt right and we didn't have sex, when i started dating my well my now fiancé we just went slow and there was never any pressure, after about a month with her, she was getting pissed off with her work, and well i was to so i suggested that she took a day off work and with me getting 5 days off every other week we went away for the weekend and well we both went away without the intent to do anything, it was just going to be a nice relaxing weekend away, but it happened on that weekend and well things cant be better between us now, what im getting at is there was no pressure with this girl, and well we did talk about it but it was alway in a i dunno more of a how we felt about it and that, and well she knew that i hadn't done anything and well if a guy does love you he will wait till your ready cause it feels so much better when u do wait till you have found the right guy (in my case girl) and well just dont give up till your ready and with the right man
2006-08-28 02:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by passtheremote2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't prepared to give up your virginity, then a man should respect that. But if you haven't found someone by 27 that you have at least thought of giving it up to, then maybe you are looking for too much in a man. Expectations can be set too high, especially in a person for the "first time". If this what has happened to you, or you just sincerely don't want to give up your virginity hoping for marraige first? Cause I'm sorry to say, this will probably not happen. Men want to sample the goods first, before purchasing the ring (unless you are more fortunate than the rest of us).
2006-08-28 02:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I respect what your saying. You can find someone that doesn't mind to wait... But to be honest to you it's going to be very difficult. I think that a relationship needs sex. We need to know each other intimately. You don't nee to go to bed straight away, you can have fun playing sexy games and tease him and try to find out if he's ready to do it when your ready. I was very pacience with my current girlfriend expeccially because she was a virgin. After she told me that she was ready she didn't wented anything else. We are together for 4 years and very happy. Feelings grow not only with sex but also with the love that we show to the our half. Your 27, try to find someone that is can wait till your ready, but don't make him wait to long... You might lose him.
2006-08-28 02:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by Paulo V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you do other things? like everything but sex? cause if you are the type of person that thinks even kissing is too heavy then maybe you shouldnt be in relationships...and are you saving yourself for marriage or just for the right person?
cause if you guys can still fool around just without going "all the way" then they need to mature and realize that you will do it on your time...and if you are saving yourself for marriage then these guys who are trying to pressure you are probably not the right ones anyway...it is tough when everyone else is having sex...im 20 and im the only NON-virgin of my friends but i can see both sides of the story...and i think that all of my friends who are waiting willl probably find someone before i will! so just give it time, the right one will come along.
2006-08-28 02:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how long do you leave it before giving it up? What are you waiting for an engagement ring? Most men like to "try before they buy" which doesn't mean you have to put out on the first date..but eventually you will need to become initimate... if you feel the relationship is going somewhere... most women know when it feels right to go to the next step....
2006-08-28 02:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up there is nothinh wrong with what you believe, knowing a person for few weeks and jumping into SEX mean the guy just want you for that purpose. Not all guy are same there odd to be someone there for you.
2006-08-28 02:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by vosy2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your beliefs, girl. if you feel you're not ready, then you arent, no matter how old you are. I actually wanna applaude you for not giving in to peer pressure all this time. it shows you have a strong will. you should have sex with the right person, whoever that could be. you will know him when you tell him you're not ready to sleep with him and he tells you it's alright cos all he cares about is being with you. Good luck
2006-08-28 02:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's sex without love, then it is not LOVE...don't give up, and don't give in. he is so so so wrong, that is not how feelings are developed. if he really loved you, then he would wait till it's right for you, that would be love.....his version is not love but lust. he's gotta go.....don't ever give up what u have for some cheap***
thrill, it's not worth it.....being faithful to ur-self is a great thing. i've been that way for almost 3 years. just makes you feel good inside. you will know when the right one comes along..then it won't be sex....it's called making love..goodluck and God Bless
2006-08-28 02:17:45 · answer #11 · answered by justmenothinelse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋