Be serious! What would you do if you were me?

Question

I have a son that is 20 years old and he dont live at home but bug the hell out of me all the time..He is so hateful to me and my daughter, and so disrepectful..He and his girlfriend has a baby, I mostly support the baby..cause he my grand baby and my first...but my son is rude and so disrepectful..Is he got a mental problem or what..One minute he treat you good and if you say something he dont like he go cusing and so rude...he disrepectful to his girlfriend to ...And they was in a car accident and now dont have a car, and think i should do evey thing and him talk to me like a dog..I gave his baby a bath and feed him yesterday and I ask him to not talk so dirty, an he go crazy..told me get the f--- out he dont need me, well he called yesterday, call all the phone this morning, he is going to cause me to have a nerves break down, My husband told me to not answer him and let him find his own way to do things, or walk....I have not answer him...he even call the hospial and give them cus

He keep calling me this morning! But I am trying real hard to be tough, but it hurt! Thanks everybody for answering my question..I have been though hell and back with this boy..and now he not at home he still give me hell..and giot a baby now..you would thin he grow up by now..And he girlfriend said yesterday it cause I send him over several times, no he send his self off, and she think that is why he disrepect me and my daughter..excuses to me, I was alway good to him and the only one that has ever been there for him...always...And he talks about me like I the bad person!

I think he uses my grandbaby agaist me and other

He is real good to his baby! He is over protective to him, and if any body did anything to his baby, he would hurt them, I believe!

Answer 1

Your husband is right...only thing is you want to be in your sons life and enjoy your grand son...write him a letter, tell him you love him but will not tolerate his disrespect, that you are trying help him but his anger and outbursts hurt you and you feel it is wrong for a child to grow up in that atmosphere, that you want him to be mature and if he continues this behavior he is not welcome...stand your ground.

Answer 2

The first thing you need to do is call CPS and let them know that the child is in an unsafe situation. If your son will treat you and his girlfriend that way, why wouldn't he treat the child that way too, later on?? Then, you need to cut him off, as hard as I know that will be. I had to do that, too. It's very difficult, and you'll cry a lot because you love your son so much, and you just wish he would be decent. But in these situations, tough love is the best love, and even though it feels backwards to your motherly instincts, cutting him off will help him in the end. Don't expect it to resolve itself in a couple of weeks. You can expect it to take maybe even a year or two. But I promise you, if you stand your ground, your son will eventually come to see that you're doing this out of love. Tell him he's not welcome back until he's ready to be an adult, and then stick to your guns. Don't let him make you feel guilty - remember, you aren't the one doing something wrong here! And when he does come back, and everything looks like it's goin' good, if he starts acting like this again, cut him off again immediately! He will learn, I promise, and in the end, he'll thank you for it. God bless you.

Answer 3

He needs help, but I don't think you can do it personally anymore. You can sit him down and try to talk to him, tell him your concerns, that he needs to be a better person for the baby at least, but if that doesn't work, then you might need to get him into counseling of some sort or have him evaluated by a doctor somehow. If he is violent, you can call the police and tell them what has been happening and they'll know what to do. But you are a good grandmother not to want the baby to suffer him and the immature mother.

Answer 4

It is so hard to have a child like this, hurts so. He knows how to push your buttons and get what he wants. We can set here and tell you what to do but I know it tears your heart out to do it. He sounds like he has big issues, like you and the world owes him something. Is your husband his dad or step-dad? Sounds like a step-dad, not that I do not agree with him. When our kids dome out of a split family they learn how to manipulated us t get what they want. He is 20 and out on his own, I know that it is your grand-baby and you want to see him, but your son will use this child against you. Write him a letter and express how you feel and let him know that you will be there for him when he acts like a respectable person, God bless you , be strong. Sounds like he needs to get some help from a counseling group if he keeps this up he is going to lose his wife, baby and you.

Answer 5

well for one if the baby is in a dangerous situaution you should let someone know and as far as the relationship with your son, you just have to leave him alone. hes not going to change until he realizes he is this way aand what problems hes causing. tell him your done helping him out, im sure hes going to be mad and say some bad things but just let him know you dont want to talk until he can talk to you like an adult. im sorry you have to go through this, good luck. and it might be stressful but it will get better.

Answer 6

Hi mom, if i were in your position i accept the things done by the son. He is struck with some internal problems, so u try to find out it or u just accept anything u r son says and try to love u r son as much as possible. And i give u the powerful mantra to chant. When u r son act rudely u just chant the mantra as much times. that would give u the relief. this mantra is common for all.

"AUM SAT-CHIT-ANANDHA PARABRAMHA
PURUSOTHAMA PARAMATHMA
SREE BHAGAVATHE SAMETHA
SREE BHAGAVATHEE NAMAHA"
OM (3)

TRY IT AND MAIL ME IF U WANT ([e-mail])

Answer 7

Listen to your husband on this one. This "kid" needs to grow up and stop using people. I understand your desire to care for the grandchild but if his mom has any sense she'll cut him off too. You may think that you're helping him but letting him treat you this way only cripples him.

Answer 8

let the ungrateful little Pr*ck do it on his own. to hell with helping him if he is going to treat you that way, you should listen to your husband, the next time he comes around asking for a hand out tell him no, tell him you have had enough of his crap, he has got to know he is being an SOB and he does it and oyu keep letting him get away with it, and he will continue to do it as long as you let him, I know you are his mother but enough is enough

Answer 9

Sounds like your son is using drugs or something. I know it would be difficult, but you should tell him he is not welcome to your house, if he is going to be rude and disrespectful. Then do not talk to him or allow him to your house for a couple of weeks. If he continues to act out, then keep him out for a longer period of time. Until he understands how he is supposed to act.

Answer 10

he knows how to get you and will continue if you let him.. lay down the law.. im a year older than your son.. i have a 7 month old and her mom is long gone.. she ended her life and left me with the baby.. now im a single gay parent.. try that one.. my best friend wants to be her other daddy.. he so special.. but yeah.. see what i have..