hello all, ive always been good at giving advice, and taking my own advice, but this time im at a loss, so i think that maybe someone out there maybe able to help, im a mom of five and ive been threw the worst of marriages, im currently in my 2 marriage and at first everything was good, and he treated us well but for the last 6yrs he has been very emotionaly abusive, and turns everything around to make him self seem better, and faultless, well my oldest son has a learning disability and does not funtion well in the outside world, and he has moved back home with his soon to be, my husband is flying off the handle at me, for allowing him to even come home...so my question is should i put my kid out on the street, or should i do something about this husband, please help.
please excuse the bad spelling.
2006-08-28 02:00:02 · 15 answers · asked by mistysr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ms. Misty, Let me tell you, never put you kids out your life, no matter what goes on in the household because when noone else is there for you believe me your childrens are going be right there by your side. I am very sorry about what you are going through in your life and it seems like you have been through some rough days in your life. You don't have to be with someone that is going to emotionally abuse you, you deserve better, no woman should go through this Misty. I know that you love this man but it your husband, tell him he either straighten up or his butt is out the door. Take care of your child and his learning disability. I think the problem is your husband and he definetly needs some counseling. Only you can make that choice to make your life better than what you are going through. You deserve happiness. It always be like that relationship starts of very good and throughout time things just start fallen apart piece by piece. I have a question are all your kids living in your household, if they are old enough to get out and get a place of their own I think that could resolve a problem. I don't know I just was voicing an opinion if they all lived with you and was old enough to get out and have a place of their own. I hope for the best with you because you deserve to be a happy woman not to be lost.
2006-08-28 02:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are in an abusive marriage. You need to get rid of this man. He is not good for you or the children. As far as your son is concerned you should take him in. I would try to find outside resources that can help your son....there are places that can give him a place to live and help him learn the necessary tools to function in society. You will not be around forever. Help him help hisself. If and when your son moves in please be aware that your relationship with your husband will get quite ugly. So prepare yourself for this. If you depend on this man for total support......try and get a job or go back to school to gain some indepence for youself. Once you feel better about yourself you will then have the strength to move on and find someone who will love you and your children unconditionally.
Peace & Blessings
2006-08-28 02:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by grateful4today 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child has a learning disability. Your first concern should be your son. Your husband has no excuse except that he chooses to be abusive and sees nothing wrong with it. Yes, it's an illness, too, but in order to have a healthy marriage he needs to get help for his abusiveness. Both of you need counseling. If he won't go, you need to so that you can understand your options and deal with this impossible situation.
2006-08-28 02:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by clarity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a terrible situation.
I think I'd have to ask myself who needs the protection and comfort of home more: your boy, or your husband.
If your son has a learning disability, he will always need more care and patience than most of us. I vote for the boy.
I only know what you have written (and I'm sure there's a lot you didn't say), so I'm in no position to give any advice. It may be time to speak to someone in authority whom you trust.
I sure wish you good luck.
2006-08-28 02:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your child is your child.Although you should set a time limit on how long he can stay and what needs to be done so that he can be independent, he should always be able to come home. Sounds like your hubby is a different story altogether, you should perhaps look into marriage counseling or seperation.
2006-08-28 02:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Blood is thicker than water. Why are you putting up with emotional abuse? You need to put a stop to this NOW either by talking and giving HIM the ultimatum of giving you the respect that you deserve or he can get out.
2006-08-28 02:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are given 1 life on this earth. Its up to you what you make of it. If your happy living in a loveless marriage with a man that treats you that way, then great. If not get rid of him, tell him to pack his bags and go, you deserve better than this. Its all up to you. Good Luck
2006-08-28 02:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by lyndell v 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well having lost a daughter in a car accident you can never replace your children, love if he is the way you say he is move on with your life because not only should you sacrifice your children's life stop wasting yours there are more fish in the sea nad they will respect you and your children. Life is to short to waste it in unhappy relationships. All the best
2006-08-28 02:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by Paul I 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you married to my ex? Sounds like it. I was in the same situation, 2nd marriage. ...abuse...After years of his abuse he told me to give my children to my 1st husband. It was them or him. I thank God he gave me the choice. I took my kids and walked away. They didn't need to be in an enviorment like that. It was the best thing I could do for my kids.
2006-08-28 02:09:35 · answer #9 · answered by blueyes2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm sorry for your situation and good luck. Your children are you first and formost priority. You already know that your husband has issues, follow your heart and take care of your babies no matter what.
2006-08-28 02:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by seeotterdee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋