my bestfriend and my boyfriend made out three years ago, my boyfriend now my ex apologised and we became friends,but my friend neva did so we were not friends anymore but its been three years and i want to forgive her becos we now work in the same building and will be bumping into each other, what do u think.
2006-08-28 01:54:17 · 15 answers · asked by pOOhPhAT 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should just forgive her. It seems to me that you have been friends for quite a while now. I too was not able to forgive my friend which i have known since the 3rd grade (I'm 18 now) but i really wanted our friendship to last forever so i forgave him and now were the best of friends, they always say friends are forever and that is most true.
But you have to remember that if she accepts you as a friend again then you must trust her again because she knows she did something bad, but your friendship won't get better if you don't trust her anymore.
So just forgive her, I'm sure she'll accept your forgiveness. it's only going to make things better for the both of you, i promise you. It's always bad to hold a grudge.
Good Luck and I hope you can fix out your friendship.
2006-08-28 01:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really up to you to make that decision, whether to approach her or just let it go entirely.
We don't know whether she felt remorse about her action or not, so approach directly maybe inappropriate. However if you are determine to having this conversation with her, maybe started out by greeting her and having short conversation. Perhaps one day the topic will come up and you can tell her how you feel about it. That's only if she felt bad about it.
Another way to do it is to forget about it entirely, to forgive someone is more of a peace of mind and letting go; you really don't need her to forgive her past trespasses.
To error is human, to forgive is divine. Either way you're doing the right thing here, good luck.
2006-08-28 09:10:34 · answer #2 · answered by thsiung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be very kind of you to forgive your friend. I just want to say that if you and her do become friends again, then be careful to trust her because what she did in the past is bad and best friends should never even think about doing such a thing. Be careful who you trust!
2006-08-28 09:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you,if you will try to talk to her and clear the whole thing about what happen and make up for the lost times since you were best freinds way back,if your ex did why cant she.Its been three years start a new.
2006-08-28 09:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by AmandaNikolah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive and forget.Its done and over time to move on. I doubt your friendship will ever be the same as it was and if you two do become friends again keep her at arms lenght and watch her around any new man that you have.
2006-08-28 09:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why so she can make out with more of your bfs?
If she never apoligized then she is not sorry
my suggestion isgo ahead and hang with her at work, but dont let your guard down around you she already betrayed your trust once
2006-08-28 09:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forgive and forget. It'll make things easier for yourself by not holding on.
2006-08-28 09:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by Bunnyz C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it does not bother her. I think you should invite her to have coffee with you and get it off your chest. She might then understand and you can then be friends again or at least you can move on with your life. Good luck.
2006-08-28 09:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by Jaqs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her, not for her, but for your peace of mind. Good Luck. Peace.
2006-08-28 09:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the bigger person. Walk up to her and tell her " hey just to show you there's no ill feelings about you spreading your legs for my then boyfriend, i just wanted to come say hello. how you're doing girl?"
She'll feel like the tramp she is....
2006-08-28 09:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by julsgene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋