There was this boy sending me mixed messages. I told him I liked him and he just wanted to be friends. Knowing this he continued to show like signs that he liked me, so I thought he still did. It's been like this for years and so now I can't be around him tooo long without wanting to hold him or his hand or tell him how I feel about him. Lately he's been ignoring me, so I am done trying to win his heart and I am going to focus on other things. Problem is it is very hard not to think of him, or how we could have been, sometimes this makes me upset. Also, about how he lead me on. Plus I still see him almost every week because we go to the same church, so I can't change that. What I need is some advice on how to keep him off my mind and to get over him. If I don't I feel like I could have a breakdown. Any advice?? Please!
2006-08-28 01:46:02 · 15 answers · asked by Irabee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do the 3 C's, cry, chocolates and chill with friends.
Forget about him, he's not worth it and pretty dumb for not realizing he's probably missing out on a good thing. Don't worry, you're gonna kiss a lot of frogs before you get to that prince.
2006-08-28 01:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try a new hobby, obtain some new friends, start getting out more and enjoying life rather than continually looking to "what could have been". The more busy you are in your free time, the least likely you are to think of this boy, therefore your time getting over him will be much more quick. And with new hobbies / friends, you never know, there may be someone there that is truly interested in you.
2006-08-28 08:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each time he pops into your head put another thought in place of it. you may have to do this a hundred times a day but its getting your thoughts use to another pattern. it takes practice. i know i just done the same thing. i thought about this guy in almost everything i did. so i immedeately would change my thought . so i kept doing this and now i onlty think of him maybe 5 times a day. its just a habit that you have to break. but he will never go away completely becuz he was in your life. god loves you and you have to love yourself also. ask your self would that guy have a nervous break down over you? no man is worth all that. good luck
2006-08-28 09:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here is what I would do. Get another good looking guy to come with you to church. Just do a little wave to that other guy. (Just a thought LoL!!)
What has happened to you with this guy has also happened to me. Just start going out with your friends more often and sooner than u think there will be someone else who WILL be worth it for you.
Just don't worry so much
Trust me on this one
From Toronto, Canada
2006-08-28 09:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that's going on is him jerking your around and loving every second of watching you slurp it up. He's what psychologists would define as a narcissist. Once you decide you won't allow him to treat you badly... he'll drop you for someone who will. Remind yourself of that every time you think of. or see him! Read whatever you can find on narcissistic personality disorder and be glad you've gotten that emotional sick person out of your life!
2006-08-28 09:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by IAINTELLEN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can onlt tell you what my sis used to do. (guys deal with this deffrently)she would have a good cry put in some movie that would make her cry more, then go to the mall buy some outfits includind shoes. if she didnt meet a new guy at the mall she would find a party and by the time she left she would have some poor sap all goo goo eyed for her lol
2006-08-28 08:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by steamroller98439 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was waiting for someone to pop this question..It's hard but you just have to learn to live with it.I think that you can't forget him because he's everywhere you go...Order your brain to stop thinking about him n find someone else!!!good luck =)
2006-08-28 08:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by Felicity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all comes from inside...if u feel some1 is not givin da true worth 2 ur love...wats da use 2 be wid sme1 like dat...be wid da 1 who'd value ur feelings....& care for u....not sme1 who takes u for granted...
u need 2 realise how he treats u...& r u worth dat ?
u kno ur not....
den y b wid sme1 who does not values u...
2006-08-28 09:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by moooooooovin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him about the mixed signals.
blast music very loudly
2006-08-28 09:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sunrise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know were it will lead if you don't get over him.......
not even friends.
find another, he has said the words......you heard them.......
if he changes his mind, he will tell you.
to many times the heart see's what it wants to see........
goodluck....
2006-08-28 08:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋