How many 'protective parents' teach daughters self defence from and early age, plus suggest best under my roof

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How many 'protective parents' teach daughters self defence from and early age, plus suggest best under my roof policy with boys...

So from a young age learning self defence so by the time a teenager you have your 'buffy the vampire slayer type' Who can kick guys butt and fight dirty and sneaky and the guys know it.

Probably healhty and sport as well.


Plus like putting stabilises on a bike at first, are activiely involved in contraception... ie taking daughter yourselfg to have coils fitted or depro injections or other fail safe contraceptive in place they can't bals up easily as a rookie to old and experienced enough to be trusted to handle it themselves.

ie you the grown up who knows better so you deal with it not the nieve rookie clueless one.

Plus see to it that daughter has condoms ... ie grounded if goes out without the ones YOU brough (ie she does it herself as well fine but YOU make sure)

Make sure she knows all myths and bulshit which are not true etc.

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Plus under your roof with boyfriends pretty much hopefully when mid to late teens and above means

A) you live in the real world
B) Its a whole lot safer at home, ideally with parents who can deal with any ashole guys, contraception there and pepper spray etc behind the bead board and or a panic button.

Plus lots of photos (fake or otherwise of dad with army buddies, dad winning martial arts lessons, dad and biker gang mates etc).


Ie protecting daughter whilst helping her grow up and experience life.


Plus teach her to be resourceful and sneaky...

Ie set exercises to say get out of trouble useing whats around, how to use scoail skills to swett talk her way out of trouble etc.

Say for travelling if the country goes riot etc

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If not why do you bother with acedemic stuff as less important...

Getting pregnant or dead kinda has a greater effect on futures

Crispy not doing any more then ensuring the 'lifejackets are on board the boat.'


however I would be worried if duaghter or son by 16-17 was not dating as be afriend they would go suicidal due to being the ugly one that nobodybwanted or nurd who will end up alone and hurt and cutting wrists and oding on pills etc.

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So protection includes from the pain of a lonley life and missing out

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Barney thats it... morally bribary is bad but its what may be necessary to get out of a war zone...

Or similar trouble...


its saying teach your kid to lie if it means survival

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Not saying teach her to be a boy... you seen all the female hero role models...?

Tomboy ish punky types who still very much girls

Answer 1

only if the daughter is in to it
x x x

Answer 2

It's not as simple as teaching a kid karate will solve all his bullying problems. What if the kid is twice his size? What if the other person has a gun? What if it's in school and he faces automatic suspension if he hits another student for any reason? Violence isn't the answer. People aren't animals. Bullying is so harmful because of the emotional harm it does to kids. Depo is also not the answer to the worry of teens and sexuality. Half the worry isn't just the unwanted pregnancy but the AIDS, hepatitis, etc. Plus you don't need a 15 year old girl learning that casual sex is a great fun activity to do with strangers... this is like condoning her to become a prostitute or a **** who does it for attention. The damage it does to a young girl emotionally & physically could be immense. Sex is not a game or a toy. Depo is also not for everyone and not without side effects. It can result is major depression and/or weight gain for some people. I tried it and it made me VERY sick for months. It took probably 6 months for the specialists to figure out why I was so sick. And because depo shots take 3+ months to wear off, I had to suffer through more months of it with nothing I could do. I would never force a teen to take it! Why not teach them self confidence, people skills, responsibility, long-term planning, values/morals, and just generally being a good person? That's worth so much more than a karate class and a condom.

Answer 3

My daughter is 4 but we are already teaching her about protecting herself and especially about her body - ie what is private and personal.

We are teaching her Muay Thai as her Dad competes and I use to train in that sport. It's fitness training as well as basic self defence.

As far as sexual education goes - we'll wait until she's a bit older !!!! but she'll definately be educated on safe sex. I don't think it's any parents right to tell a kid when they are ready or not to have sex - it's a personal thing but if you are open about the subject you have better chances of raising a more educated, responsible and informed child who will be capable of making a choice that isn't 100% stupid.

Pregnancy is not as much of an issue as HIV or STD's and kids need to know the dangers of sex as it can kill.

My son will also be instructed in the do's and do not's of sexual education especially about how to correctly treat a girl. And my daughter on how to treat a boy.

I want to be able to talk about sex openly because it can be a serious psychological event in a young persons life and I want my kids to know I'm here for them. Life is hard, love is hard and sex is dangerous. But these are also all fun too.

Answer 4

And your daughter needs to have sex why again?

Feminism is a big ******* joke. Not only have females in America regressed into making themselves nothing but sex toys for the men but they have made it crystal clear that even though they can now go to college, be a straight A student, wind up married anyways because they cannot seem to accept responsibility for themselves, take care of themselves.

It would be nice if the women in America grew up and stopped expecting men to do everything for them. In short, tell your daughter to get a life, so she can develop her own brains and abilities, she'll be much happier for it.

Answer 5

We are trying to raise our daughters to be intelligent, independent, self-assured and compassionate people. This includes taking tae kwon do (they are ages 12, 8, 5). We want them to believe in themselves and to be confident. Yet we also want them to maintain an aura of innocence...belief that magic and miracles exist and to show them that they are connected to everyone else in the world.

This is not easy but along with the martial arts, we talk to them at their own maturity level about boys.We have also attended a same sex marriage in Canada....yes, i know we will get some flak from that, but gay people do exist and they are as diverse as hetrosexual people.

We teach them to figure out problems themselves and practice critical thinking. I expect that when they are teens, we will talk about birth control and about choices and consequesnces....like unplanned pregnancies...

We have not talked about prostitutes, porn, or pedophiles. We don't let them watch violent, graphic or scary movies. We don't watch a lot of t.v so they are not exposed to sponge bob, family guy, o.c, lost, csi etc....

We have talked about what a stranger might say to get them close to their vehicle..or what to do if they are snatched into a car or the trunk of a car.

We cannot protect our children from everything. We can only teach them to be aware of what is around them, potential dangers and how to avoid them. We have to trust that we are teaching them enough and to realize that it is important to teach them how to think, and make the right choices, more than it is to fill them up with facts.

If we can intill within them self respect, they will hopefully know what kind of behavior to accept from boys or other people.

People think raising girls is hard. We also have a boy and from what I understand that is also difficult. But I think self respect is key to their choices.

Answer 6

I agree. I know I am placing both my son and daughter in Bushido Kempo. My son is too young still, but he will be ready next year at 7. They are instructed in the use of martial arts weaponry, mainly numchuku and bo staff, and I am all for my kids learning ths discipline, and sticking with it. One less thing I have to worry about. I'm with you, man.

Answer 7

my daughter is only 6 so at this time iteach her about strangers to the best i can and i show her new things and teach her things for her age .
my sons who are teens have rules and know not to break them im open with the boys and answer all the weird questions that crop up and answer honestly and accurately as i can they have been told about respect and to behave.

Answer 8

Practice make perfect . Put her on the street , she will be street-smart, otherwise , whatever you say is in theory only, when the actual things happens , it all depends on her creativity . Nevertherless , it is better to be aware ot it than know nothing about. You can teach her all you can and the rest leave it to God.

Answer 9

You seem like a sane and caring parent. This is how we are hoping to raise our daughter, to be aware of the morals of a situation but to also approach said situation with pragmatism. No point denying it all exists.

Answer 10

Sounds all a bit over the top to me - your daughter might end up a bit paranoid. She might not want to be having sex with anyone, but you seem to be pushing it onto her.