Why do guys do this??please answer me?

Question

I can’t eat, sleep, concentrate on my school work, I don’t want to go out with family, and friends I am depressed. My bf is the only guy I have been loved he made me full in love with him at first I was not into him at all, but know I feel like I cant live with out him. He talks about marrying me and want to be with me for the rest of his live but He doesn’t treat me right the way I want to be treated, he use to take me out all the time but not any more because he is always broke, he is not romantic at all we been together for about 9 month. But that is not the problem know. When ever he does something he blames it on me he will say u did this and I end up apologizing always. I am always soft and I feel like he taking advantage of that, like on Saturday night he called me and said how came u didn’t call me and I said I was about to call u and he said ok then talk to u tomorrow and hung up on me, so I called him back like 20 times he ignore me, Sunday didn’t call me all day, and today is Monday he didn’t call me yet. WHAT SHOULD I DO HOW SHOULD I ACK WHEN HE CALL ME I want him to take me serious. Please answer me please

Answer 1

More fish in the ocean!

Answer 2

Sounds like you're not a complete person without him. If you are not a complete person before getting involved seriously with someone else, you will seek to complete yourself with them. This is not healthy, it leads to longing and thinking about the person obsessively (so that you can't think of anything else).

I suggest filling up your free time with hobbies, hanging out with friends, learning new things, etc. Just pick something you don't know how to do and teach yourself. Probably something physical, too, so you can work really hard at it and put your entire focus into it. If you have lots of free time and he doesn't, you'll just obsess and smother him. In addition to having a full life, you'll treasure the time that you can spend with your BF more if it is something special.

You'll also not want to spend your precious free time with someone who messes with your head and treats you like crap, and you'll be able to more easily spot the ones who do this so you can get rid of them. Plus, if things turn sour, you'll have other activities that you can focus on to take your mind off it.

Answer 3

You gave up the advantage when you changed the way you were in the beginning and turned into a different girl. He saw the change and took control now he thinks he can do what ever he wants and you'll be there waiting. Do your self a favor find the other girl a bring here back then get ride of him.

Answer 4

what you should do is go to your room and open up your school books, start studying and start worrying about your future. I ain't trying to lecture but what is it with females these days thinking that their stupid b/f's are the beginning and the end of their lives. For ****'s sake, there's so much more out there. and it's always about the loser boyfriends. Quit whining and get a life, am tired of hearing " oh, he doesnt call me, he doesn't tell me he loves me,blah, blah, blah" if you don't like what he's doing, ******* dump the asshole! there are some many more problems in the world why do we gotta waste on scrubs.

Answer 5

Once again your just stuck on him cause he's your first love.There will be others if you want it, you should be tired of being taken for granted and being emotional abused. You know you haven't done anything wrong but yet you stay,the relationship isn't working out but you don't have the guts to break it off. Your going to have to accept it's not going to work,you deserve better and the only way to get that is to leave and move on with your life. When or if he calls back,break it off with him,change your phone number so he gets the hint and move on.

Answer 6

First of all, this guy sounds like he needs to grow up! How old is he? U/16? Your problem is, is that you are chasing him! Let him chase you instead!! He will respect you more for that. If he feels like he has you in the palm of his hand, he can throw you around and do whatever with you! However, If you "play" his little game and let him know that there is more to life than "just him" and that he may lose you if he doesnt shape up, then he may change. Who knows...he may have a few more girls he is doing the same to! Just be careful with this poor immature guy, and if you intend on marrying him, then I would call the dr. for a prescription of Zoloft for him :) Sounds like he has issues....

Answer 7

A lot of guys do this! They only do this because you allow them to! Stop taking this boys sh*t and start putting your foot down! If your boyfriend cant be romantic anymore after 9 months how is he going to be after 2 years if yous have to date that long?? It will just get worse unless you can put your foot down and tell him what he needs to start doing! You should also stop apologizing to your boyfriend for something you did not do! This is wrong and you should not do this! Your boyfriend is walking over you like you are a piece of rubbish! Your boyfriend is taking advantage of you because you are soft hearted and this is wrong! If your boyfriend puts the phone down on you again don't try phone him back! Leave it and wait for him to phone you!

When your boyfriend phones you again be angry and upset! Tell him that you and him need to talk face to face and tell him what you would like him to change for you. Ask him why he treats you so badly and if he cant change his bad ways or carries on treated you like dirt then im afraid you're going to have to leave him before it gets worse and harder for you.

Answer 8

the thing in a relationship is...slowly n slowly ur partner starts taking u for granted...as it grows...
till u take a stand for urself...he will always blame u for everything..these r very small things 2 fight bout...but still it hurts,,,
u have 2 b bold & talk things out wid him...2 have patience & be cool wid u....
u cant let ne 1 n every1 take u for granted & make u feel insecure n insulted....
always memba..a person who loves u...wud never ever give u tears or hurt u....
small fights do occur...but da best is 2 patch up if u really want it...
if he acts pricey....u need 2 take ur stand n dnt talk 2 him for smetime...if he really needs u...he'l call u..n den u talk things 2 him...if he understands its fine...n if not...its better 2 be out from a guy who does not values ur feelings...
ur pretty young....i can make that out...ur gnna find loads n loads of guys who wud wanna be wid u...

Answer 9

Sweety, there is no right or wrong answer for you.
It's called 'life' and we've all had to go through it. Everyone has tried one approach or another and most have failed- if it's meant to be- they say.
I would just recommend you let go- let go of your thoughts and fears and let your true heart make the choices. BUT- make sure it's your heart you're listening to and not the voice of treason.
Good Luck- As Chumbawamba said: When I get down, I get up again, no one's gonna keep me down!

Answer 10

Get out , this is going badly and will only get worse. It is your first and he is taking advantage of you. You shouldn't feel depressed or anxiety. You need to do well in school. You are too young for a serious commitment.

Answer 11

SERIOUSLY....why do you want to be with a guy who treats you like crap!? This is who you want to marry? You want to do this for the rest of your life? Ask what the problem is...or get out now! Yes you love him and it will hurt your heart, but he's not the one for you! As hard as it is to hear (or should I say read) you have to move on and find someone who respects you and loves you for YOU! It sounds like you're enabling his disrespect of you.....get out! Good luck with your decision.