this a concerned black mormon. how does one look to the future as a single adult with the question of interracial marriage still an issue for some members and most singles known to myself(granted members are humans and are capable of mistakes). marriage we believe is a very important aspect of our missions here on earth, but honestly prospects of marriage are dim for those of us with a different skin colour or originating from a different culture and please correct me if im wrong. not looking to discredit my church in anyway but it is a great hindering factor for family or friends of the ethnic minority who wish to know more about our church
2006-08-28 01:20:40 · 4 answers · asked by loretta_2006 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I can feel your pain. I attended BYU as a white male and it still took me several years to find a compatible partner for my wife, I can only imagine how difficult it could be if you are in a situation with significantly less options. Although the LDS church is not against interracial marriage, there definitly is the impression that racial differences can be a potential wedge issue in a marriage, as any potential big difference between spouses could be.
I have no proof to offer, but I get the impression racial differences are indeed a much smaller issue for the today's young adults than for previous generations. And I know for me personally I never made dating decisions based on race (I can also say the same for my brothers, as I believe we all dated someone not of our race).
My only advice is to stay close to the Lord, for he knows you and understands all of your needs and desires. He wants what is best for you and will help you find it. Also, be sure to use available tools to find potential dating partners that you might not otherwise meet, such as the various LDS online dating services.
Good Luck!!
2006-08-28 10:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by John R 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The question of interracial marriage is an issue for a lot of people in this world, not just within the LDS church. In fact, in the last general conference, the prophet laid it on the line that people who are bigots and prejudiced are wrong in every way and need to repent and change. That having been said, people are human and you'll always have some jerks around.
In my area there are at least four different interracial couples I can think of right off hand, and no one seems to care that they're different races.
2006-08-30 19:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Our stake president is a wonderful black man, with a white wife -- who is also a wonderful woman.
I am white, but my son adopted a wonderful black girl -- as did one of our foster daughters. We are delighted they are in our family, and love them as much as any of our other grandchildren. Three of my nephews have married members of another race, and they don't appear to be having any more problems than any of the rest of their generation -- and a lot less than those few who are not as faithful to the gospel as they should be.
Sister, you strike me as a wonderful, level-headed saint. If you've got your eyes open to the obvious problem of an interracial marriage, plunge ahead. Like putting together children from two families or marrying someone from a very different culture, sharing the same deep testimony of the restored gospel can be a great help in bridging cultural gaps -- but that doesn't mean it will be easy!
If others look down on you for marrying outside your race, they just don't understand the gospel as well as you do.
2006-08-31 03:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by Larry L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We are all equally accepted in God's eyes. The problem is with anyone who is prejudice. Try and find a place of acceptance if you can.
2006-08-28 08:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by yourdayscoming 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋