Does any of you feel scared that right person will never come your way?

Question

I'm so afraid that I'll be all alone in the end.. Not everyone finds his or her soulmate, there are so many lonely people in this world, and it wasn't their choice, life gave them that role.. When I meet someone it ends up with a disaster like the last cheating one, others got what I had and I'm here left to deal with that and struggle.. Only comfort that people give me is that someone special will come my way but since it hasn't happened so far it probably never will

Answer 1

I have felt the way you felt many times. I'm 38 and still haven't met the right one yet....have met plenty of wrong ones.

I've learned it's better to be happy by yourself (which I am) then to be in a relationship with someone where you are miserable and maybe they are too.

I also have a 10yr old which I think makes it more difficult. I don't date much and am very discreet about it because of her. My mother was always "dating" men, one after the other and I will not put my daughter through that and I think better of myself then that.

Read the book "He's just not that into you". It will save you a lot of game playing. Know what you want and will tolerate and not tolerate. Don't date out of desperation or fear of being alone.

Lasty, love yourself no matter what you look like. Others can't love you if you don't love yourself.

Good luck sister!

Answer 2

Trust me I have. My whole life has basically been spent worrying if I was going to be alone my whole life. Of course I would go out on dates and things and for some reason or another they would ot work out. I would get very depressed and people at my church along with my parenst would ask me when was I going to get married. It drove me crazy. It was a very tough time of my life, where all I had going on in my life was work and come home and worry and be depressed wondering why I could not find the right person and being alone. Then last year out of the blue I started chatting woth someone from yahoo personal. We chatted on there for 3 months and then started chatting on the phone. We met in July last year and I knew the moment I saw her that she was the one for me, a feeling that I had never felt before. We continued to date, I moved in with her in November, proposed in Jan. and we got married June 20. Believe me that the right person will come along for you. Keep your head up. You will know when that person comes along and everything will fall into place. I am 37 and see how long it took for me to find mine, but it happened and I have never been as happy, comfortable and in love like I am now. Hang in there things will work out for you.

Answer 3

Oh, sure. We all feel like that sometimes. Sometimes you feel it when you are alone, sometimes you feel it when you are with someone. You need to keep your eyes open, but don't waste your time waiting. The less you dwell on it, the more people will see you as you, instead of you when someone has had a bad effect on you. If you've ever played lottery tickets, you know that you have to go through some losers to find a winner. Of course, I hate to gamble, so your mileage may vary.

Answer 4

Yes, I'm very afraid of being alone the rest of my life. I have been seperated for 5 years now. THan God I have my kids, but once they get older and don't need me, what do I do next.

I hope I do find some one special to spend the rest of my life with. Let's keep the faith! and hope that what people say is true... Some one will come along.

Answer 5

Common don't think that way...I'm sure you could find a person right for you... :) Go out and make friends...guy friends...and have a good friendship with them...you'll be happy if you do that because who knows....maybe you'll end up with one of them...it takes two people who understand each other and respect each other to be in a good relationship together...Friend can become more than just friends you know...Its better this way too because you'll get to know the person first..but don't take my advice if you don't want to ...do it if you'd like to... :) Have a Good Day!!

Answer 6

I feel that way at times and it's worse cos all my friends around are either married or getting engaged so it is scary. But girl, i'm guessing you're still young so before you start thinking about your old maid days, make sure you get to know what you're about and what you want from life and spend time on your own to figure out yourself. only then will you be ready to love someone else, when you know for sure you love yourself first. Don't worry so much about it, enjoy life rather.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

yes, me too. but - you'll find your soulmate, have faith, and look for soulmate (but dont look to hard, ur soulmate could be right in your face) put yourself out there, online dating is not dumb (but not all that great either..alot of ppl do it though), its an easy way to find people in your area (hehe) but after you talk to them a few times, take it off the net (get my drift? no one ever has to know you met him on the net!) not all guys are scum, you'll find the right one someday, somehow...just look, and dont stress out, even if you never do find him, dont look back and regret your life, have fun, and live it up!!

Answer 9

don't be so doubtful, our lives are not in our hands
I use to feel the same way as you, but when I LEAST
expected it I met the man of my dreams, he has now
been my husband for 9 years. Don't give up God
will send you the right person when the timing is right.

take care

Answer 10

i have been there for over 5 years my self but just when i thought i would just give up for a while someone came my way but even know that i have someone i just do not know if it is tha real thing or not but tell they deside to move on from i i would just let thing be so there or someone for every one out there it is just sometimes u would have to just stop looking for a while then it my happen