wats the use in trying to get on with inlaws ???

Question

right we have all been there and some of us are still there the partners parents !!! they can be so hard to get on with shoutin an bein evil any tips on how to calm the stormy inlaws

Answer 1

Be civil whenever you have to deal with them. Avoid them when you don't.

Answer 2

I have found out the best way to deal with unsociable, unkind, unpleasable, inlaws or relatives, Just stay away from them, If your spouse wants to know why tell him you would like to live out the rest of your days and life with him not considering murder or suicide. LOL j/k. We all have them and there is nothing we can do about them, just be you and be the best you that you can be when they are around, avoid confrontation whenever necessay. If a topic is being discussed that you really don't want to be involved, go outside or take a walk. Do they cause problems with your spouse and you? Unwanted daughter and son in laws are usually their favorite entree. There is no written law that we HAVE to put up with it. Be careful that they don't cause to much tension between you, this will eventually cause major strain on your marriage. We can pick our nose but we can't pick our relatives, but with boogers or family, we can always put them in their place and where they belong. If it keeps up, wash your hands of them all together. there are more important things in this world than wasting time with people that have nothing better to do than raise hell or problems everytime some walks thru their door.

Answer 3

You do what you have to do when you are dating, but when you put the rock on her finger start to back peddle fast. All the jokes and the comments you hear do not even begin to tell the true death struggle you are about to enter into. I hired her father off the books because he is on 3/4 from the NYPD for some mysterious back ailment. I am always in the field now. Not to mention the 3 married sisters and their totally whipped husbands. My family is no prize I admit , but at least they are in different states. Take a xanex before you go to Sunday dinner which is now an hour away because they all had to move to a different county because of financial pressures.

Answer 4

Phase 1: Choose a time when things are relatively calm but 'a comment' has just been made. Remind them politely and simply that they are your in-laws and then ask them this question, 'Were YOUR in-laws as rude and over-bearing to you as you are to me?'

Then just stand back and let the silence stretch out - don't be the first person to speak.

At the next suitable pause in whatever has followed the first question, say this, 'I was just wondering whether you are getting your own back for what was done to you or if you just didn't learn from experience'.

This should make them think. If it doesn't work...

Phase 2: never, ever respond to their verbal abuse; if they can't get a rise out of you eventually they will get tired of the game.

And it is a game, which, IF you respond in like terms or get upset THEY have won.

Answer 5

I say get to know them and take interest in their interests because these people are going to be a part of your family for the rest of your life. Create a family atmosphere when they visit. Avoid getting on topics that cause bickering feuds.
Play board games around the table. Board games always bring family together in a positive way to fill the room with laughter. Always have some kind of family fun activity to keep tension down.
Strike up conversation about recipes and cooking. Talk about foods and what you like.
The idea is to distract them from these outbursts. They need to be entertained.

Answer 6

Learning to "rub shoulders" with `family' can be pretty major! I mean, not all human beings come into this world knowing what to do, or how to handle getting on with your guy or girl's family/ies!! It takes a person who's big on the inside, to take it on, and find a way to get on and to bring about peaceful relations with everyone concerned! And get rid of the trouble makers: pile them into the car and `take them to the zoo' and they can then walk off the bad energy instead of crippling everyone around for miles with their evils!!! Good luck!

Answer 7

Have a chat with your spouse or partner. Tell the inlaw's or patner's parents where to step off. If you can't kill them with kindness, be sure they know what line they will not, under any circumstances, cross.

Answer 8

well my inlaws are stuck up and iv done a few naughty things that may make them look down on me. Best way to move on is concentrate on ur partner its them you need to impress no one else should matter! but of course they always do coz they interfere! do jst be urself around them dnt get too nervouse! be well mannered, buy flowers, chocs etc

Answer 9

You can't. The inlaws will never like you especially if you are having sex with their daughter.

Answer 10

Don't bother mate .. the only difference between "inlaws" and "outlaws" is that outlaws are wanted...

Answer 11

I'ts you that has the problem and my advice is to just be yourself and they can take you or leave you. Things will eventually work themselfs out trust me. If not well just be civil and respect them for who they are.