Too soon for more kids?

Question

I am 25,happily married, and I have 2 children. Ages 4 and 18 months. I am wanting another baby. Is it too soon?

Answer 1

I would wait until your youngest is completely potty trained and doing it for 4 months. Make sure your youngest is also off the bottle and pacifier, before bringing a new baby into your life.

Answer 2

I think It's to soon, only b/c I have a 3 year old, 10 month old and I'm 8 months pregnant, for me and my husband our daughter was a complete surprise, but were both very happy. We were hoping for another baby later on down the road, I was very sad and mad to learn that I was pregnant only b/c I just had a baby post-partum 3months and I wanted my 10 month baby boy to have all the attention and to be the baby for awhile now he Is not going to be the baby and I feel bad. There Is nothing wrong with having children, but remember you can strain out your body with having children so close together, not only that, but you have a 4 month old let him/her be a baby for awhile before you throw another baby Into the mix. ((GoOd LuCk)) and I wish you and your husband the best In your decision, remember whatever you choose that you really can't go wrong only b/c baby's are a blessing!!

Answer 3

Its a lot of stuff for you to take into consideration like your financial status, your availability, enough space in home etc! I guess only you and your husband can make the best discussion! Its good your children will be close in age and your 18 month old will not require so much of mommy when and if the baby comes!

Good Luck

Answer 4

That's between you and your husband. If you feel like you can manage another, go for it. People certainly have children closer together and manage it quite well (I have several friends who have children 9 months apart . . . which would mean you would be due any day with baby number 3). A medical study out a few months ago suggested the best time for another preganacy was between 12 and 60 months, with the healthiest children/easiest conception between 18-23 months.

Answer 5

Yes it is too soon! I think a 4-year gap between children is the most ideal. It gives parents time to recover emotionally and financially, plus, the gap encourages a more harmonious environment when the children get older. If the gaps are too close (less than 2.5 years), kids then to compete with each other when they grow up. Sure, they can have lots of common friends and can go out together and share belongings, but each child has to feel special and have his own identidy, rahter than just doing everything that the other sibling does.

Relax and dedicate your time and energy to the two children you already have. Take it easy.

Answer 6

I don't mean to sound sexist, but in my experience, the mother normally tends to feel the first major signs of a baby's growing Independence at about 18 months. What you should ask yourself, is are you ready practically and financially for another baby. If the answer is yes, then it would be better to have the next one closer to the same age as your last. It will help them as they grow to have less of an age gap.

Answer 7

That would be a good space between them, as long as you are healthy and are able to give them all what they need. If you are happy and both you and your hubby want another then go for it. Just make sure to involve the others in the whole process. My sister had a shirt made for her 3 year saying "I am the big sister" then the baby had one that said "I am the baby sister" . The three year old was the proudest one in the hospital with that shirt on.

Answer 8

no it is not too soon (in society since of the word)
but you how do you feel, it will be hard
Advise: take every help that is offered
and when your husband get home kiss him with a smile and run for the bathroom take a long shower relax (even if you don't feel that you need one)
make everyone have same nap time (that will be your break)
talk a lot to the 4 year old (because that will be your helper)
always say thank you to (him or her) and what a wonderful person he is for helping mommy
Good luck

Answer 9

Why would it be too soon? If you have the money you could have one every year if you wanted. Your old enough to make up your own mind why would you ask us? My sister in law has 3, each one is a year apart. Lots of people think thats too soon, but it works for her.

Answer 10

Goodness. Do what you do. It's your body. Since you asked for this myriad of opinions, I'll give you mine. It's very early. I'd never have 3 kids because 2 is all we can comfortably afford. That's just me. Even once I go back to work and add my salary of about 45K+ each year to my husbands current salary, still, no way. We have bills, mortgage, and are saving for these two to go to college, even though they are 6 years old and 8 months old. Then, I consider them both eventually needing a vehicle for transportation and insurance...nope, I couldn't afford it. But is certain things aren't important to you, or you are rich, hey...go for what you know. Just remember, there is more to babies than diapers and milk. They grow up. QUICK. Their needs change almost overnight, and before you know it, they'll be applying to colleges and looking to mommy and daddy for help, asking for cars, and laptops, and books...oh boy, hell no, I could never afford it. I don't like to borrow money if I can plan ahead and wisely adjust my life.