I am in a bit of a dilemma at the moment. i have been involved with this girl for 2 yrs now. i do love her. however, i recently got in touch with an ex who i never stopped having feelings for. we have known each other for 8 yrs and the reason we broke up is because i moved away to study. the thing is i love my g/f but im not in love with her. this other girl seems to make me feel complete. i cheated on my girlfriend in dec with this girl and recently moved back and i see her every weekend. dont want to hurt my g/f. but i live 800 miles away from her and the more i am with the other girl the more i realise i am in love with her and want to spend every minute of my life with her. what do i do and how do i do it?
2006-08-28 00:02:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the other girl is the only person i can see myself with. when im with her im happy and she seems to have always understood me. we stayed friends the whole time and and when im with her i feel like i belong there and she feels the same
2006-08-28 00:12:37 · update #1
I am now living 30 minutes away from my ex. we see each other every week and she feels the same way i do. i feel really bad. we broke it off because I would be so far away. we became close again and then it happened we fell for each other again.my current g/f and i lived together until i moved back. when im with my ex its like everything falls into place.i want her and she wants me but then theres my g/f whos feelings have to be considered
2006-08-28 22:19:22 · update #2
Oh boy. The only thing you can do is tell your gf how you feel. You can't go on pretending stuff for the rest of your life just to avoid hurting somebody's feeling.
Be honest. Be gentle. But there doesn't seem to be much future for you and your gf.
Good luck.
2006-08-28 00:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by lou b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do the right and honorable thing, break up with her. You'll be doing her, yourself and your ex a huge favor. It isn't fair to string her along if you're not going to be faithful to her. Cut her loose and then she can look for the right guy for her. You'll be free to make your ex your new girlfriend instead of just your girl on the side and you have to have guilty feelings about cheating. There isn't any reason to tell her that you cheated, by the way. It will only hurt her feelings and that isn't necessary. Just tell her that it is too difficult for you with all the distance between you and that you feel it would be better to end the relationship. Tell her you think she is wonderful and that you want her to be happy.
2006-08-28 00:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kami 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think u want us to tell u how to breakup with ur gf well sorry but if u and this girl did not last u moving away 2 study then chances r still going to up breaking up again.......U THINK LOVE IS A FEELING WELL SORRY BUT THOSE FEELINGS ALWAYS COME WHEN U SEE SOMEONE U R ATTRACTED TO love is a decision u make to stay with someone because maybe u don't love them but u need them.... u say u cheated on ur gf well sorry but nothing will stop u cheating on this one too........think of ur gf in someone Else's arms do u think u can take that? Well i know u r not going to listen to me because that is wat we do when we think we r in love watever ur choice good luck.
2006-08-28 00:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by tiffany j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound to me like theres a dilemma ,you know you exactly what you want to do ,,this isnt fair to your current girl friend you need to respect her enough at this point to tell her and end it ,,but why couldnt you have simply broke it off with your current gf before cheating on her , you want love but hurting people in the process is it all worth that?..
2006-08-28 00:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop using the poor girl and go back to your ex. Have a distance relationship. It works. Especially the getting back together and seeing esch other again.
2006-08-28 00:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dear,u gotta tell ur ex-gf tht u have moved forward in life and tht u have a new gf now who has made u complete and whom u love a lot.dont u think tht u r hurting ur gf who loves u so much and whom u also love.u can be frens wid ur ex but dont forget tht she doesnt have tht place in ur heart anymore which ur gf has taken and from where u wont like to remove her.u love ur present and ur present loves u.forget the past,live the present and let the future come by itself
2006-08-28 00:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You break up with her and do it now. Tell her that even though you love her, that there are things going on in your life that prevent you from committing to her and since you can't commit then it is best for you to break it off before this relationship goes any further. BUT I will go on and say to YOU STOP CHEATING on her until you break it off.
2006-08-28 00:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmmmm, lets see ????????? cheater comes to mind. Did you ever think about the fact that what comes around goes around? Let the other girl go. She deserves that much. As far as the one you are with now, don't be surprised if what you have done to your girlfriend doesn't come back to bite you in the @$$. Good luck.
2006-08-28 00:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me like you just want to hear someone say what you allready know - you need to finish it with your girlfriend - its not fair on her. Dont be so hurtful as to tell her you're in love with someone else - just say you dont see a longterm future with her and feel it best that ye both give love a fair chance with other partners.
You're going to hurt her no matter what you do - so be prepared for it.
2006-08-28 00:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shuold break up with your g/f now b4 she gets anymore attached. Try telling her that the distance between you is too great and you think it's only fair that you let her find someone closer to her that can give her what she needs.
2006-08-28 00:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sammy S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋