I'll try to make this quick.
I've always been attracted to my neighbor, I used to always borrow his keys for the storage and sometimes we would say hi here and there. He's helped me out in different ways such as helping me get rid of a christmas tree etc. Though just when I was getting to know him he has to move back with his family for a while. So I gave him my email to keep in touch and sure enough a couple of weeks later I get an email!
We started getting to know each other more and we have a lot in common till he asked my age. When I sent a reply saying I was 16, all of a sudden the emails stopped. The last email was a month ago.. I know he is not a day older then twenty one and I dont see why he would stop talking to me since I am only a few years younger then him. I sent him another email two weeks ago and no luck. I know he only checks his email once a week or so. Though what happened? I really enjoyed getting to know him and he was always friendly towards me.
2006-08-27 22:55:41 · 22 answers · asked by Skies 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are a few possiblities what could have gone wrong.
Sometimes when a girl is at an age younger than 18, it can scare a guy. We enjoy our freedom. We don't need a statutory rape charge and a year or so in the pokey. 16 is the legal age of consent in some states.
MAYBE sex wasn't even on his mind. Maybe it's just about preference, as far as who he considers a friend now, a lover later.
Sometimes, guys can just be thinking of maturity. Maybe he thinks you are immature because you are only 16. Maybe he was hoping it could go further, until your age scared him.
There are sooooooo many possibilities and maybe's. It's sad that you and him never exchanged your ages BEFORE things started to progress. It was awfully rude of him to just pretend you don't exist like that. If he were any sort of good human being, he would have talked to you about it. Obviously, feelings were growing inside of him about you. If he was thinking of you as a friend, he wouldn't have been bothered by your age. I am sorry about your situation. Maybe, one day, you and him can patch things up again. Good luck! But for now, go out and meet the RIGHT guy, for you!
2006-08-27 23:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by snafu1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, it may not seem a big deal to you (or me either to be honest), but maybe he isnt comfortable with the age gap... I mean, there is 12 years difference between my dad and step mum, when you get older stuff like that doesnt matter so much or sound as bad... Maybe if he was interested in a relationship with you he is thinking you are too young to have an adult relationship on whatever level. I dont really know what you can do, maybe try to contact him again but if he doesnt reply I dont really know what you can do, just whatever you say to him make it count and say what is on your mind and say what you need to say... Good luck!!
2006-08-27 23:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by buttafly_biattch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this turn good for you, he may have seen that you are a minor and why to spoil your carrer.
Let him go his way, why to fret for what is gone. My teacher once said, the loss of a men or women is not the end of the world,
you can get over all, but make your career first.
To be more free, i hve a son younger to u, but where r u, and how to get you as a neighbour, if to be friends with us.
Do not forget to perform appreciably in studies,
good luck.
2006-08-27 23:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by all2solvedstrss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's confused and so he exited to the nearest exit afraid his involvement to you might be condemned to the outside world and get branded as corrupting minors.Obviously,he likes you too but he can't allow himself to let his emotions flow freely and influence yours.Chances are if your feelings of attraction towards him when you're in your mid20s still remains,he might take that as a green signal and give it a go but for now I think your young age hinders him a little so he chose to abruptly put everything on hold.
2006-08-27 23:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by cascadingrainbows 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately or fortunately depending on who you are, some guys actually have boundaries for their potential girlfriends and one of them is definately an age limit. It could be that he thinks u r 2 young for him or that he is too old for you and he may be right in that regard. Give yourself a chance with guys yr own age, and in 4 years time when u r 20 and he is 24, thats probably the time you's wanna give him a call and hook up...
2006-08-27 23:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by darthmawler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still a minor, He is not. Legally he is obligated to avoid any appearance of impropriety with regards to anyone 16 or younger.Wait till your older and I'm sure He'd be happy to renew your acquaintance.
2006-08-27 23:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl, you are what men call jail bait, it is morally wrong for him to talk to you in a romantic way. What happened he probably likes you to, and didnt realize how old you are. He doesnt want to end up in jail sweetie your his ticket there. Maybe you can keep a friendship with him but realize pushing for anything more can get him in serious trouble.
2006-08-27 23:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is smart your 16 that's to Young for you to be going with a man over 20 he may be older then you think stay with kids your age
2006-08-27 23:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one can really tell the reason behind that but i guess, your age is one factor why he had to stop communicating with you. Maybe, he's starting to like you but then again your age gap bothered him. why don't you talk to him personally since he is your neighbor? talk to him casually/normally. start the conversation. but still, we can never tell the reason behind it. it would be best if you can speak with him personally... if you could approach him and start the friendship all over again.
2006-08-27 23:15:03 · answer #9 · answered by destiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wake up ... you are not going to wait for two years to sleep with this young man.you likely will the first chance that you have.... so forget him...because he does not want to go to prison.. and be considered a sexual predator for the rest of his life.....sex is good but not 20 years in the slammer good
2006-08-27 23:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋