Women offer me there numbers in bars etc. I text a few days later but no reply, can any1 explain this?

Question

I'm a handsome well toned 24 year old, my text says something like hey how are ya, what you upto blah blah, why give me there numbers if they dont intend to reply? please help!!!

Thet give me there numbers, I'm having a laugh with them in the bar (just a laugh) they say we should meet up and give me there numbers. So no more "sobered up" answers from people with faces like scrotums please!

Answer 1

try calling instead of texting. and make sure you get their name, too.

Answer 2

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Women offer me there numbers in bars etc. I text a few days later but no reply, can any1 explain this?
I'm a handsome well toned 24 year old, my text says something like hey how are ya, what you upto blah blah, why give me there numbers if they dont intend to reply? please help!!!

Answer 3

Their state of mind when giving you the numbers matter's alot in relationship.
secondly your text is so childish and unserious. A decent lady or girl will no a serious man through his words. How can u ask a lady whats she upto again after giving u her phone number come on men think!

Answer 4

Maybe your being too keen, i used to give my no just to get rid of blokes. Play it cool and dont be begging for her number, i LOVE men who are really interested in me and hate it when they go on about themselves. If your good looking and confident then maybe your coming over as arrogant, girls hate this its really off putting. I mean who wants to be with a guy who is more in love with himself than you? try and be a little more shy, ask her lods of Qs about herself, give some compliments(but dont go over the top) and mostly dont give up! Once a guy phoned me a week after i had given him my no and straight away i was put off by the long time it took for him to call, ignore the 'leave it a few days' rule and call the next day. Good luck, theres someone for everyone.

Answer 5

The reason is because when you met them they were in a state of enjoyment and relaxation and they probably thought....this seems like a cool guy I can give him my number.

Next day, when the excitment's gone and they have to think of real things, chores, jobs, etc they will not have the same emotional state as when they gave their number to you.

Personally, I never collect numbers from girls. You need to gain interest after first showing that you are unapologetically sexual man who MAY be interested in them but seems to give mixed signals.

Over a process of 20 minutes you need to give them genuine reasons why they think they've "won" you over. Now you can game on them and reel them in slowly but always two steps forward....one step back. eg......Escalate physically then withdraw and make them come to you.

You need to comfort build and if possible move them to a new public location (even another part of the bar) like another club or a coffee shop. It is possible to do a series of "mini-dates"with a woman in one night.

Resist the temptation to go for a kiss as this will activate her anti-sl*t neutralising defence mechanism. Instead, just tease her.....move in close......then back off.

Build sexual tension and social comfort over several hours then let her know that your doing something the next day and she's welcome to "tag" along (you'll be doing it anyway right!!!).

90% of the time they will say "yes" and even the 10% say no because they have a legitimate reason. In this case you have an exceptional reason to get a number by saying something like:

"this has been so much fun......what steps can we take so we can continue this another time"....wait for her to offer her number.

However...90% of the time you've got your next day meeting set up and she is being framed as an "extra" (less pressure on her) but she's still curious about your intentions.

It doesn't hurt at this point to delberately and very obviously give her the once over with your eyes. Let her know she's being evaluated as a woman in a sexual sense.

Of course....throughout all of the earlier interaction you should have been escalating the physical contact (remember two steps forward one step back). A lot of guys do nothing then suddenly "go for" a kiss and are surprised when they are knocked back.

Keep escalating the kino slowly but surely always leave her guessing.

Follow this advice and you will never get buyer's remorse or morning after the night before telephone feedback.

Viking xxx

Answer 6

If you think about how most people handle they're calls...

How many times have you received a text and not known who it's from? what did you do? Ignore it probably.

Same with an unknown or withheld number, probably ignore or reject them too.

Bare in mind they may have been tipsy.

Try reminding them who you are and how you got their number.

Better luck next time!

Answer 7

i think texting is not polite as the first contact. u have to call. while talking u can detect through the way she is talking to u how does she feel about u. u call and invite her for coffee. if she declines saying she is busy and doesn't offer u other day instead forget her and never call again. good luck
ps. i strongly suggest as a beautiful woman who had dated a lot do not follow the viking's advice

Answer 8

Well, i thought men only did this not actually replying to text messages LOL. Maybe its because of the same reason because they are scared of relationships and commitment!

Answer 9

Maybe they were under the influence at the time and can't remember giving you their number, or can't remember what you looked like? Just a guess.

Answer 10

In other words Dude' Don't expect any thing. It sounds like you are coming across allot of flaky women. Air heads maybe?

Answer 11

Don't ring text

and if it's just a number then forget it, you will need to have talked for at least an hour - otherwise they prob don't remember who u are!!