i have to seek permission from him evrytime.he hits me also.he just wanna control me.i have done a lot for him n sacrifising so much.hellpppp
2006-08-27 22:37:41 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to tell someone. They have free and anonymous helplines. Your safety is the most important thing here, but know that you deserve to be happy too. There is absolutely no reason to put up with an abusive person. Your boyfriend is supposed to care about you and your feelings, not hurt you.
2006-08-27 22:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kami 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he treats you like **** and you still are asking this question means you love inflicting emotional pain and humiliation on yourself. And the forgiving act you perform each time he behaves badly is pity confused as love. You might be able to stick with his program for now, till you've actually realised he has drained you out completely you dont intend leaving him.
If you cant rid yourself off him. Go for an announced vacation that he doesn't know about. It's when you separate yourself from him that you'll realize what a gift it is being single and free to breathe.
As far as the sacrificing goes, love before you've killed yourself please wake-up. No amount of past sacrifices should force you to make more and more of them. No one can help you beyond the blab we all just gave you...you have to take a stand yourself and till him to PISS OFF !!! And this time you have to be firm and look sure as he knows he can get his way around you with all the emotional talk and alligator tears !!!!
2006-08-27 22:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by stranger's wife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that he is not your parent, and even if he was, you do not deserve to be physically or mentally abused by anyone. I know that you have sacraficed alot but its still not worth staying with someone that obviously doesn't respect or love you, despite what he says afterwards. Keep in mind that you cant change people they have to change themselves. I suggest that you get out this situation asap.....one day he may go to far. You deserve someone better and as I see it, you need to drop that zero and move on with your life.
2006-08-27 22:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by sgame00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you STAY with this guy???????
Don't stay for one moment longer. Or you will have a lifetime of trials. You might love him- but it doesn't mean you need to be with him. And believe me that control of his will get worse the longer you are together. Why haven't you left him? What about you lets you stay with a guy like this??????????
You deserve a good man. And why settle for anyone else.
Why let yourself be controlled????
What girl wants to be with a over posessive, insecure abusive bf???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
And he hits you?? that is against the law. What part of being obused is attractive for you? Next time he hits you call the cops.
You might love him but you will have a nightmare life with him.
Abusers are often very charming when they are in a good mood.
STep back and see this situation and ask yourself if this is what you want for your life. You only get one chance in this life...and you have choices. Take good care of yourself.
2006-08-27 22:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from the relationship as fast as possible .. in a addition get a protective order so he is fully aware that he is not allowed x amount of feet from you. Do not talk to him, accept his phone calls as well.
Hugs - Mel (Loving Memory of our son, our angel Zachary Aug 4, 2006)
2006-08-27 22:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to back the hell off, and if he doesn't, then you need to go the authorities. This is spoken as a member of the US Army Military Police...you need to find someone you trust, a friend, a family member, and make them help you.
2006-08-27 22:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD! i can not imagine that a gal cud take so much silently. please if u have any self respect walk out of this good for nothing relation. by hooking on to this guy u r not only degrading ur self but also shielding ur self to possible much better relation. after all u r not his slave learn to be independent this guy will emotionally blackmail u, physically harm u but please for ur own sake just shut the door on him. u will feel taken aback but believe me down the lane u will be lot more happy.
2006-08-27 22:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by made in indya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is simple! LEAVE HIM!!
He doesnt love you and if he says he does it is not true because then he wouldn't dare hurt you! Stop being stupid and leave him! You deserve to be treated better and there will be another guy out there for you that will treat you much better!
2006-08-27 22:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I WOULD SAY DUMP HIM. IF HES THAT WAY IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE. GUYS LIKE THAT DONT CHANGE. I DEAL WITH IT ALL THE TIME. THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOURSELF IS GET OUT. THEN IF YOU FEEL THREATENED GET A VICTIMS PROTECTIVE ORDER
2006-08-27 23:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by fireone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him. and call the police.don't threaten to call the police call them you might need to stay in a group of friends till you know he wont come after you. its best to stop him now befor he hurts some one.
2006-08-27 22:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by brakedown61301 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋