I am a very self-conscious person, and I wasn't always like this. But, and I know this sounds somewhat arrogant, it's just a lot of people have told me I'm physically beautiful in my life. A lot. I was recruited to model, etc. but all of this has made me feel ugly and paranoid. I don't know why. It makes me start wearing makeup, looking into the mirrors all the time, etc. Seriously, my friends tell me to look away from shop windows etc. because I am paranoid something is wrong with my face.
Is this normal? I mean how can problems like this develop from compliments? How can I become obsessive over the way i Look?
I just feel that because people think this way, I can't let them down in this way. I don't want to have one moment of ugliness.
I really want cosmetic surgery too, to perfect myself. What the hell is wrong with me?Seriously I hate being vain or self-conscious or whatever people call it, but how do I stop?
2006-08-27 21:00:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think people who don't know me that well, some "friends" think I'm full-of-it because I'm so paranoid about mylooks. What they don't understand is that every time I look at my face, I think about what I need to change. I always think about what I need to change and perfect. It's like a weird obsession.
2006-08-27 21:00:48 · update #1
Have you ever heard of something called 'Body Dysmorphic Disorder'. It's closely linked to other disorders such as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and Anorexa.
It's where the sufferer has a distorted perception of how they really look and spend too much time preoccupied with their appearance, spending literally hours in front of the mirror, often starting at their face in shop windows, car windows, etc.
Also, they will often think about cosmetic surgery, what they can fix. Everyone around them may tell them they look fine, but they just don't believe it.
You are not vain, please don't blame yourself. I would have a look at the site below, they have a message board also and I think you would find it incredibly helpful. I wish you luck. Take care : )
2006-08-27 21:17:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sometimes compliments will make people becoming more self-conscious. Every compliment wants to make you feel and do better. It's quite normal. In your case, you have gone a little overboard and are becoming a bit emotional about your appearance. That's why you feel obsessed about it. While maintaining to keep your beautiful looks, you should also get involved in some non-related activities such as reading, writing, photography, cooking or baking, helping friends in their volunteer work (or you can get involved in some regular volunteer activity)
etc., Day after day and in a gradual way, you should reduce the time you spend on your makeup, upto a level when you feel self-sufficient and satisfied that you are looking beautiful and are able to maintain that. Also remember that beauty is just skin deep and what goes on inside your body, mind and soul needs more attention and when nurtured well shall give you more joy and peace for a balanced life.
2006-08-27 21:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is almost like, they have set the standards for you to stay at, ...and you are feeling like you will fail everyone if you don't stay beautiful like they are always telling you that you are...It is wonderful to be beautiful..but look at some of the most beautiful women in the world...They all have to age, and some of them do it with grace, and some of them do go get plastic surgery, and there is nothing wrong with that either...Although some might mistake your insecurity with being vain, I see it as someone who feels like they won't be accepted by their friends and family if they let their looks go for even a second...this is a horrible way to feel...You have to get over this and make everyone know that yes, it is a gift, and yes, you are grateful..but they better love you for who you are, ...not what they want you to be..and not keep making you feel that if you 'lose your guard' or gain a pound, that you will lose them as friends...look around you at who you can help be more beautiful...and stop worrying about yourself so much. Good luck and love yourself for who you are..
2006-08-27 21:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal for a 'fiften year old girl' to be self-conscious about her appearance. Or I'll be shocked by the fact she doesn't care about it at all. A naive mind, huh?
2016-03-26 22:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bonnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you find something you are intensely interested in and learn to focus on that, something that requires a lot of concentration, like learning to play a musical instrument. Learn to focus outward instead of inward. Unplug yourself from yourself and fling away the cord. Ever hear the phrase "Let go and let God"? You can apply it to your situation. Being intensely self-conscious is a heavy burden. Jettison that baggage and you'll feel a lot happier and lighter!
2006-08-27 21:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by galacticsleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Body-dysmorphic-disorder.
2006-08-28 00:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you might want to go see a psychologist. Most things like this come from something way back in your past. They might help you get through to the root of the problem.
2006-08-27 21:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your right it's an obsession, talk to your Dr. and be truthful, you can get help for this. Compulsive behavior is common and treatable. Be good and God bless
2006-08-27 21:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look in the mirror.
2006-08-27 21:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by blamurfen 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋