and my mom didnt say anything for a couple of seconds and finally said nothing she needs to be worried about. Im pretty sure my niece knows but we all know how some kids ask these questions just because. Anyways what would you have said? I kinda laughed in my head because I knew my mom didnt know what to say.
2006-08-27 20:28:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
well Jessica since you want to be a smart *** read the other queston and find out why
2006-08-27 20:42:02 · update #1
I bet she asked cuz she heard from her friends and wanted to know if they were telling the truth. I would have just asked her where she heard about orgasms from then told her what they are... in a very NONdescriptive way. I remember when I was in 4th grade, my mom and sisters and I were playing a board game in the snack car of a train(on the way to disney land) and i asked my mom what 'horny' meant. the cashier in the snack section started laughing his head off. We ended up being friends with the cashier. anyways, I was serious and wanted an answer so my mom just said I'll tell you later. she told me in private that night. point is, if its in public, wait till a private time. if its in private, tell them blandly.
sorry bout that ^^^
2006-08-27 21:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your niece is 11 years old, and unfortunately, children learn about these things far earlier that I did in my time. Information about sexuality is all over the place today, on the internet, on television, and all other forms of media. Kids hear about this stuff, and not sure about it, so they ask. Luckily for your niece she asked an adult that she thought she could trust. Your mom should be honored by that, and be thankful that she wasn't asking someone who would give her a rude answer. My daughter is 11, and has not asked me a question like this, but she started menstruating last year, and I took the time and gave her "the talk" I explained everthing I felt she needed to know in a way that she understood. I also told her that in the coming months as her body changes, she might have questions that she needed to ask, and not to be afraid to ask. I gave her some literature and some books about puberty, which included the changing body, masturbation and orgasm. She has been told since she was a little girl that she is a Gift from the Creator, and when I gave her the talk, I explained that her sexuality is a gift that was given to her and it was not to be abused. This was part of self respect, and the time would come in her life when she would share this experience with her husband and the father of her children yet unborn. The orgasm is part of the love and respect and the joy that two people share as a special bond. My daughter was happy with the answers I gave her, and is not afraid to ask me anything.
2006-08-27 20:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by brendalyn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she should have told your niece to ask her mother. That's the kind of information mothers should be discussing with their own child.
If, by any chance, your niece doesn't have a mother around and your mother is the caretaker then she could have said, "Some day I'll get you a book that will explain that and some other things. That's a question that a book would be more helpful with than I can." (and someday get an appropriate book for a girl that age)
2006-08-27 21:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are a few ways to handle this, depending on your family situation. Obviously your mother either doesn't know how to tell her, or doesn't feel comfortable telling her the answer to her question. If it was me, I would pull my neice aside and tell her that I heard her question and give her a frank and honest answer, as well as answering her other question relating to the subject. You just need to be careful that you don't go offending anyone. Your aunt might rather wait to talk about such things with your neice, or your neice might decide to walk around telling everyone what you told her. Either way, you need to decide it you would cause family chaos, if your neice is mature enough, and if you know all the answers to the other questions she will ask before you proceed.
2006-08-27 20:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by loudgrrl4_ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls at that age know a lot more than what we think...I would of told her what it was. Im sure she knows everything about sex and just wanted to be sure what that meant. Your mom is the grandma - that's probably why she felt so uncomfortable. Anyways, my question is - what would you have said if she had asked u?
2006-08-28 13:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather tell the truth. Telling a child with something along the lines of "the flowers and the bees" would just make him/her naive when the time comes.
2006-08-27 20:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by Cascade Ranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should have seized the moment when the girl was opening up about her curiosity about sex. by shutting the door to the conversation like that, she discouraged the child from coming to her comfortably with concerns she may have in that area.
i would have told her in basic terms and then asked the child leading questions.
the result would have been an open discussion about sex which would have encouraged the child to feel comfortable confiding in her in the future.
2006-08-27 20:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by anonymoususer987876 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, Gotta Love The Media, Movies, Cartoons Too LOL
2006-08-27 20:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by iLL_TeK_NeekZ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since she is 11 and has the presence of mind to ask, I would answer the question.
2006-08-27 20:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by jaks_studio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l would have probably laughed and given a similar reply, my four year old daughter asked me what a lesbian is, l told her l didn't know, she has plenty of time to find out and not worry about these things, l also had to stifle a laugh.
2006-08-27 20:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋