see me and my bf have been dating for almost two years well his and my parents both hate us dating and so they make it really hard plus hes a drop out and a smoker and im neither! so today i told him we should take a break and he has always been totally respectful of my decisions so he said hes fine with that intill i can make my decision (hes so loving like that) but see the thing is i hate smokers and i want someone whos going somewhere in life. we plan to get married and some people are saying if we dont date other people now we will prob. end up having marriage problems and get a divorice!! please help me what should i do! i said i would get in touch with him in a week please help me!!!
2006-08-27 20:23:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You didn't mention your age...but I'm going to assume you're in high school. So you don't like smokers. And he's a drop out. And by stating that you want someone who will go somewhere in life....you've basically solved your own problem. His habits repulse you. His future is unimportant to him. You think he's a loser. I don't see why you want to mend this relationship, as this person is obviously incompatible with you.
2006-08-27 20:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by Cthon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your heart isnt in it hun, then its just not in it.
Ask yourself why you are trying so hard to hold on.
Is it because you love him like no other? Love him but not in love with him like you used to be? Or.. is it because its habitual after 2 years and you are afriad to let go??
How old are you? are u early 20's or younger? if you are let it go if you think thats what you really want..
Put aside your fears of lonliness, your fears of never finding someone - thats not true it just feels like it because of the situation you're in.
Go with what you feel will ultimately be right. Take the week and write a list.. re-evalute your goals and future..
Follow your intuition, Girl!
2006-08-28 03:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by Avah Belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can't change despite what hollywood wants you to believe. List the good things and bad things about him and evaluate for yourself. If there's something bad about him that you absolutely cannot stand (like his smoking), then chances are you won't be able to fully love him to develop a healthy, fulfilling and long-lasting relationship or marriage.
2006-08-28 03:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by Xens 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FLUSH THE TOILET AND GET A NEW GUY THAT EVERYBODY LOVES, AND WHO SO GOOD TO YOU THAT YOU WANT TO CALL ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND BRAG ABOUT HIM.
2006-08-28 03:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, you dont like guys that smoke, secondly you sound more confused than me i dont know what you want us to say
2006-08-28 03:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋