I think she seemed to like me (or be attracted to me) other times we had seen each other but we didn't know each other very well... We were out in a group and she got very drunk (I was less) and we started kissing and then I took her home and we had sex. I asked her to dinner the next day and it was ok but not even a hug when we parted. She said "ok well call me if you want to hang out again". So, should we talk about the sex thing? Or pretend it didn't happen? Basically I want either a dating relationship or if we are not compatible to date, I would be ok with just occasional sex from her. I don't want to offend her though. How do I get what I want?
2006-08-27 20:08:19 · 13 answers · asked by goof 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just figure out what you want to say first, then just say it. If it is
easier for you to do over the phone.....then do it that way. But
she's already screwed you, so why shouldn't you be able to ask
her out . But really, just take it slow, because you could scare
her off, thinkin u want to get serious after the first f*ck ??......
Keep open minded. And ask her where she stands with you, &
what she wants, what is she looking for ?.....Girls love to talk
about "relationships". lol
2006-08-27 20:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very interesting question. It seems to me that you are not sure what you want and how to approach the relationship with her.
You wrote "She said "ok well call me if you want to hang out again". So, should we talk about the sex thing? Or pretend it didn't happen?"
I don't see the point of pretending it didn't happen. However, what do you want to talk about? Do you want to talk about how she feels about you?
You wrote "Basically I want either a dating relationship or if we are not compatible to date, I would be ok with just occasional sex from her."
Now here is the crux of the problem - do you want to date her or you just want to have sex with her? Do you know what you want?
Why do you think you wouldn't be compatible to date? You have been on a date with her. Did you enjoy the date with her?
You wrote "She said "ok well call me if you want to hang out again". I don't know if her overture was a way of protecting herself from being hurt by you. In other words, she couldn't expect that you really want her for dating / girlfriend purposes - the best she could hope for is that you would want to hang out with her again (maybe that includes sex again).
So the issue is as follows: how do you feel about her and what kind of relationship do you want with her and how does she feel about you and what kind of relationship does she want with you.
If you don't know, I would say try dating again - this is a better, nicer, healthier, more rewarding relationship than sex only relationship. You give yourself a chance to have a real girlfriend and maybe even to fall in love. Isn't that better than "just occasional sex from her"?
2006-08-28 01:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by happy inside 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she likes you but is embarassed about what happened. I would say talk to her about it in an understanding way, but I'm not sure she should date you. You really shouldn't take advantage of someone who's drunk, and the fact that you'd be okay with "occasional sex from her" makes me think you really don't respect her much at all, which is no basis for a relationship.
2006-08-27 20:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by cynshyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pretend it didnt happen and the call her to hang out and then things will flow on there own, dont freak out if u dont get sex ALL the time! some gurls dont like that so ya just keep hanging out a lot and then give her a promise ring if u are really in love with her!
2006-08-27 20:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by Shayla <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to just say it. Tell her you thing you guys need to talk about that night........etc.
Ask her if she sees you guys as a couple. Tell her you know things were rushed that night and you want to get to know her.
If she continues to be cold, she might not remember the evening.
Or else she is so dang boreing unless she is hammered, which isn't all that attractive in the long run.
2006-08-27 20:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her again! tell her u wnna hang out and then surprisngly take her to somewhere nice and romantic ! nicely take her hand and ask her for the candle light dinner and is she wants to be with u she will say yes and when u have dinner .. ask her then .. would u be my gal ! and dont talk bout the sex u had with her !
GOOD LUCK !
2006-08-27 21:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by sandras 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind what you want first - sex or a serious relationship. Then take it from there. She said you could call her. Once you have made up your mind call her. If you only want sex you will defnitely offend her.
2006-08-27 20:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 dollars
2006-08-27 20:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're in her "stable" of friends with benefits. I think she might be ruled out. it's hard to go backwards after you've gone foreward.
2006-08-27 20:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her drinks. "Hang out" could also mean buck like funnies.
2006-08-27 20:11:32 · answer #10 · answered by Ken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋