i spent the weekend will my friend and i ask him to decide whetther he wants to be a part of my life or not, he cannot make up his mind i told him that he might as well forget that i was ever a part of his life cause making this type of decision is not life threatning i need to know if i said the right thing by telling him to stay out of my life we rather be friends ?
2006-08-27 19:51:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe not.
You might be run over by a bus tomorrow.
2006-08-27 19:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by newt_peabody 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am going to try to help you here, despite the fact that I suspect I’ll be just wasting my time!!!
I had a read of your previous questions (all 13 of them) and am left wondering whether you even bother to read the responses that people are giving you. The vast majority of your questions have been left for Voters to pick the Best Answers; and all bar one of the Resolved Questions were also left for Voters to choose a Best Answer. That either indicates that you haven’t bothered to read the responses; or are too lazy to select the Answer that was most helpful to you.
From reading your questions, I am left wondering if you are ever going to make a decision in a relationship without seeking the approval of everyone else. It is almost as if you are trying to live an ‘online relationship’.
I said that I would try to help you… So I will.
Your questions was… Will I live to regret my decision?
To be quite honest with you… I hope you do!!!
I hope you are made to realise that if you try to force ultimatums on people, you are forcing those ultimatums on yourself as well, and that you too will have to face their consequences. As mean as it may seem, I hope that your friend (and I am using that term lightly, because friends don’t force ultimatums on friends) chooses to stay out of your life, and dumps you on your bum!!!
I don’t know how old you are, but I suggest you have got some serious growing up to do. And until such time that you are able to make your own decisions, without seeking the approval of everyone else (possibly you are after someone else to blame when you make the wrong decision), you have no right to force ultimatums on anyone else!!!
A final point, which possibly confirms that I am wasting my time, is the fact that you have added three more questions, and you haven’t even read this response.
Grow up, Girl!!!
2006-08-27 19:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule #1......NEVER give an ultimatum on something you don't want to loose.
Rule #2......Don't manipulate friends with ultimatums.
It seems you need to have things your way, or no way. Those are not qualities that make for good friends or lasting relationships. So, no.....I don't think you did the right thing. You would have been smarter to talk about how you felt, and what you wanted or needed. Now get off the floor and stop acting like a child having a temper tantrum.
2006-08-27 20:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you really put him on the spot he probably wasn't ready for, That's kind of hard for some people. So by this, I'd say yes you may regret doing it in that manner later on down the road. And also it depends on if you REALLY love this person, or just lust him...There's a difference. And most who LOVE wont put someone on the spot to make this big of a decision.
2006-08-27 19:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by Stars-Moon-Sun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No juicy... u were right! He ought to make a decision rather than waste yo time... telling him to stay out of yo life wasnt the best of words to use but if he asked, u could say you meant "staying out of your life as a lover and remain a friend". its good u spoke ur heart out.
2006-08-27 20:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the right move by requesting an answer to your question. His hang ups are hsi own and it's not right or fair of him to keep you waiting until he makes up his mind. You were decisive and within your rights to do so. Be glad you had the courage to do what was best for you. So few people do that these days.
2006-08-27 19:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel its a bit childish to ask some1 that!! i mean if its about true and serious love he should be part of ur life, but if he is just a friend!! i guess u dont have to ask such questions.. cuz he is ur friend PERIOD!! i rlly didnt understand ur question properly but from what i understood, ur decision and what u asked ur friend are both pretty childish!!
2006-08-27 19:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate the idea of "burning a bridge", because, like you, everyone is important and special, unique, one of a kind.
If he doesn't love you, or whatever, then consider if it is worth your time and energy to maintain a friendship/relationship with him.
2006-08-27 19:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by latenightuser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. It all depends on how he takes it but if a woman told me she wanted it all or nothing I would tell her that if our friendship meant that little to her then we had nothing else to talk about.
Yeah, you might live to regret that one.
2006-08-27 19:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not make sense.
If you want him for a friend you dont say stay out of my life
2006-08-27 19:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by witchfromoz2003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋