need advice
2006-08-27 19:49:38 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and i live with this guy as i have no where else to live and i also enjoy having sex with him but i think i am getting tired of having sex with him everyday for the past 5 weeks that i got with him
2006-08-27 20:09:05 · update #1
just tell him
2006-08-27 19:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm amazed that people are saying things lilke "he needs to grow up" "he's using you", etc.
This is utter nonsense. I would say for a man in his 20's or 30's daily sex with a girlfriend is a very healthy and normal need if not more on occasion.
This is simply about mismatched libido's. I suggest that you do not prejudge or condemn your man because of his healthy desires (like some of the other respondents hav done). This will just result in him feeling resentful and disapproved of and when that happens the legendarily fickle male sex drive will disappear in an instant and he will lose all interest in doing it with you.
The key here is to make sure he doesn't take your rejection personally (men have frail egos) and also that you NEVER, EVER resort to using his need for sex for your own purposes (which many women do)by manipulating him.
I suggest you make it a fun game and tease him a little bit and tell him he has to hang on for a few days for a really special treat (if he's a good boy!!!).
He will love the sexy, sassy atmosphere and will love the fact that you're initiating it even if you're making him wait for a while.
Always make these things positive, make sex a fun thing to look forward to. Daily sex can become a drudge but it is perfectly natural for him to want. it.......as a woman you have a huge amount of influence as to how you manage his drives so you can both have fun!
Good luck,
Viking xxx
2006-08-27 20:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by Viking 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem!!!!
My boyf is constantly after sex and i tried to go along with it for a while but you really really can't!!
i just said to him that although it's good, i'm just too tired to do it all the time (which is the truth) as i also do everything else,
I.E go to work, do the washing, cooking and cleaning.
he seemed to understand that, so what i'm trying to say in a very round about way is, just be honest with him, he shouldn't mind.
After all, it's not as if you're saying you never want it ever again!!!!! lol
And if he doesn't take it well then get rid of him
2006-08-27 19:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by Trolley Dolly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The age old question. First of all, it seems men will often want it more than women. We are more tied to our emotions, so if we don't feel great, our drive goes down and we are less interested. If he is pestering you , tell him to bugger off. You don't need to feel badly for not giving him something that is consentual.
So if he is a good guy and he is not annoying then just be honest. "Hey, i am just not into doing it as often, though it is great when we do. I will hint and flirt with you when I want to." Then alternate initiating it. if your drives are VERY different, then I think it best you part ways. There will be resentment that will creep in. Relationships are about feeling good, not resentful.
2006-08-27 19:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it may not be easy to confront your boyfriend about this sort of situation, but he must know exactly how you feel and you should not hold back on telling him. After all, when you don't want sex..you tell him no. If he really cares about you, then he will respect your decision.
The important thing to remember is you being happy and not the other way around because you feel that you have to. Just say no.
2006-08-27 19:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by cool_dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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etc. I wonder why you are making this mans life hell.....
2006-08-27 22:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by lunapilot 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he really loves you, you should be comfortable communicating with him about anything. If you aren't comfortable something is wrong with the relationship.
I am gay. There is someone I love but cannot have because of choices that he made and my willingness to drop it. But I told him that if he is 50 years old and alone, get back in touch with me.
No one should take advantage of you, regardless of beauty, muscles, long one, etc. You are important and special: No one else is like you. But if you are just in it for sex, then you're probably heightening his libido.
2006-08-27 19:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by latenightuser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don*t become like lots of woman ,a sex object ,and then when the next young chick comes a long he*ll be in there like a scud missile
and plucking her feathers...men say any thing that a woman wants to hear and then it s on to the next
2006-08-27 20:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by ralphthemouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard. Men think sex is part of love. You can tell him your feeling, and he understands but ....
Maybe try to not see him as often as you were, then you will enjoy.
2006-08-27 19:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by plokiman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
I am assuming you mean full penetrative sex, yes? Well if this is too much for you then try satisfying him using manual techniques with additional lubrication such as baby oil or your own juices such as saliva.
2006-08-27 20:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say, I don't need sex as much as you seem to and I don't want to have it EVERY DAY! If you can't deal with that then you had better find someone else.
That is what you say.
2006-08-27 19:52:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋