And we got past it, we made up, and it seemed like we were good again. Today he said he wanted to go visit the old outdoor camp he used to work at for the day and go climbing, I guess to mull things over. I didn't call him all day because I wanted to give him space to think. He called at 10 and said he'd met a bunch of old friends because camp hadn't let out yet, and he was hanging out with them, but he wasn't drinking because he was going to be heading back soon (it's about 2 hours away.)
He just called me back about 15 minutes ago, after having had too much to drink to be able to drive, telling me that he was staying over his friend Erin's lakehouse with the rest of his camp friends.
I'm glad he didn't drink and drive. But what is that? Why would he make a point of telling me he wasn't drinking earlier, and then call back rather sloshed at 1:45 am - when I thought he was on his way home.
I don't know what to make of this, especially since we had a fight last night.
2006-08-27 19:08:20 · 9 answers · asked by starlet_8 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been fighting alot and making up, and I feel like I am at the end of my patients for him. Im tired of this inconsistency in behaviour. It feels like he is testing me or something, trying to see if I get angry when he does stuff like this. I was waiting up for him all this time, thinking he was driving home.
How should I react? Should I pretend like this doesn't weird me out? Should I be upset with him? I dont really know what to do. I love him very much, and I dont want to break up, but I feel backed into a corner. Is he just trying to get out of the relationship? Then why doesn't he just say he wants out? He keeps telling me how much he loves me. I dont know what to do. Any advice appreciated.
2006-08-27 19:12:06 · update #1
Guys will be Guys!
There is no changing them. When they are alone with you, they can be romantic, wonderful, a pain, whatever.
But when you get a group of guys together, they forget everything and everyone else exists!
At the time he called you and said he was not going to drink, he probably meant it!
But as time went by, his friends probably were asking him about what he had been doing, etc. Maybe the subject of the fight came up, maybe not.
As I said, Guys will be Guys, he saw his friends having a good time and wanted to have a good time too.
Wanted to forget the fight, wanted to forget hurting you.
So he began to drink, and drank too much.
At least he called you to let you know that he was staying and not driving while he was drunk.
That is a sign that he cares about you, or else he would have just taken the chance without even thinking about it!
Hope things work out!
2006-08-27 19:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by babeee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is hard, especially because you didn't talk to him face to face. most likely his buddies talked him into drinking and it got a little out of hand. it's a good thing that he didn't drink and drive like you said. he is probably still upset over your fight but wanted to get over it, i'm guessing he didn't want your fight to really escalate so when he realized he was still upset he didn't say anything... best idea is to wait until tomorrow when he gets home and hug him and say that your glad he's home wait until he has eaten, i don't know why but this always works, and then ask him if your fight is still upsetting him, if it is then offer to talk about it, make sure to hear him out first before you get defensive, i know it's hard, if you resolve the matter good, if not ask him what you can do to help.. it's up to you from there... good luck i hope you work things out
2006-08-27 19:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have mysterious ways. Yes, he could have been drinking because ya'll had a fight, but is this the first time he has ever drank after a fight? If not, I would seriously reconsider the relationship. If it is a one time thing, I woudl suggest you talk to him about how it made you feel.
2006-08-27 19:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by princess_sam_21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we exactly dont know whats on your boyfriend's mind and we cant figure it out cause we dont know him, but you do, so what I would suggest you doing if you really want to know whats up with your boyfriend, ask him!
Tell him exactly what you typed.But do it in a considerate, tender calm kind-of tone because you might start another quarrel again and maybe this time might be the last.
Good Luck!
2006-08-27 19:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by 2cute4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem? He changed his mind and had a few drinks with old mates. At least he didn't drive back. Sounds perfectly innocent to me and you will do your relationship a disservice by reading to much into it - chill.
2006-08-27 19:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RELAX, SWEETIE. HE AT LEAST CALLED TO LET YOU KNOW WHAT WAS UP, SO YOU WOULDN;T WORRY ABOUT HIM. DON'T CLING TOO TIGHTLY....YOU WILL CAUSE HIM TO FEEL TRAPPED AND WANT OUT. MAYBE HE WASN'T GOING TO DRINK BUT ENDED UP DOING IT ANYWAY. DO YOU ALWAYS THINK YOU GET TO DECIDE WHAT HE DOES AND DOESN'T DO WITH HIS BUDDIES? IF SO, IT'S NO WONDER WHY HE DIDN'T INVITE YOU.....
SINCE YOU CAN'T CHANGE ANYTHING, YOU HAVE TO DECIDE TO LET IT GO, OR YOU CAN SIT UP ALL NIGHT STEWING IN YOUR JUICES OVER IT....
2006-08-27 19:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is upset that he fight with you and wants some time to be fresh all over again.
2006-08-27 19:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi , give some space to him dont be much possesive , we boys wanted to liveup to our own style which is not possible with opp sex ,gossh allow him and dont fight if he is honest to you
2006-08-27 19:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by Vineet S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i seriously dont know!
2006-08-27 19:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋