My ex and I are 20 have been broken up for a few months now. i wanted to end things because i couldnt give her what she wanted/deserved at the time because i was working two jobs, going to school, and about to take two summer classes. I'm back to working one job and school is going to be easier this year and i know i can give her everything she can ever dream of. We've been talking for a few weeks now and i told her how i felt about her but she is stuck on how she needs to be single right now to figure things out and school/basketball are going to be tough for her this coming year. She says she still loves me and still has the same feelings for me as before, but she cant be in a relationship right now. I feel like the only reason she is saying that is because she's just scared to be hurt again. am i right?. Why won't she open her heart to me again and give me that chance to make her the happiest girl again?
2006-08-27 19:00:24 · 4 answers · asked by whoa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The real question here is why do you want to waste your time with someone who does not want you? Lack of self respect and self esteem are not great things for leading a positive life. Move on already. She has. Find someone who wants you in return. And if she was really hurt by the way you treated her, she is smart to stay away. Learn a lesson from all of this, change and move on. If you blew it, well accept that and don't do it again but move on. Obviously, she learned her lesson with you.
2006-08-27 19:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by Island Queen 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sometimes we don't get second chances...
I would imagine she is VERY scared of being hurt again. Look at what happened last time you got to busy, you dropped her. You didn't find a way to stay with her through a hard time. What happens the next time you are busy?
She has every reason to expect you to do the same thing next time. So even though she might still have feelings for you, she isn't going to open up again until she trusts you.
If you want to still pursue a relationship with her, you basically have to start from zero. No scratch that, you are in negative land and need to get back to zero.
You have to build up her trust in you. This will take a LONG LONG time, and might never happen to tell you the truth.
So... If you really want to give this a try, you have to devote a lot of time and attention to her, and do whatever it takes to build trust with her again. You also have to just let her have time to start trusting you again.
If you won't comitte to this, then you should just move on.
2006-08-28 02:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by mindtweak 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU CAN'T MAKE HER HAPPY. THAT IS HER JOB, NOT YOURS. BACK OFF AND RESPECT HER SPACE. YOU ALREADY ABANDONED HER SO DON'T THINK YOU CAN JUST WALTZ BACK INTO HER LIFE AND DESERVE A CHANCE. YOU DON'T. JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN'T FIND ANYONE WHO WILL TOLERATE EVERYTHING BEING ALL ABOUT YOU, AND YOU ARE CRAWLING BACK TO HER, DO NOT THINK SHE OWES YOU ANYTHING. SHE DOESN'T. SHE WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU IF SHE EVER DID ONCE, BUT SHE LOVES HERSELF MORE. SHE IS KEEPING HER OPTIONS OPEN SINCE YOU HAVE ALREADY SHOWN HER YOUR TRUE COLORS......
2006-08-28 02:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forget it try it for other good looking
2006-08-28 02:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by myajitin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋