Im gay and im in love with my best friend. He loves me too, but just as a friend. He made out with someone else tonight and it hurt me really badly. He doesnt care about my feelings and says that if it hurt me then thats my problem. He wants a relationship, he just doesnt want one with me. Ive tried really hard for a long time but nothing that I do seems to matter. Its just me that he doesnt want and it hurts really bad to know that.
2006-08-27 18:48:28 · 22 answers · asked by bpstolemysanity 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you are just going to have to face that he doesnt have those feelings for you. It will be tough to try and get over that but there is nothing you can do. You can't force ppl to like you. Dont be wasting your time, find someone that will appreciate you.
2006-08-27 18:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gay or not falling in love with your best friend happens quite often. I'm so sorry for your pain but keep your hopes up, just not for him. There is so much more out here for you and it will happen in its own time. I think you could try to distance yourself from this friend, because it will only hurt you more if you have to see him with anyone else. Try to hang out with some other friends. Go do some "feel good" stuff for yourself. Spoil yourself a bit. It will help with the self- esteem part of it.
PLEASE REMEMBER!!! You are good enough! You will find that "special person" that was meant just for you! Life throws difficulties at you so that when the really good stuff happens you appreciate it that much more! Good luck :) *hugs*
2006-08-27 18:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel. But thats just how it goes sometimes. U win some and u lose some. But this should only make u stronger. Don't let it tear u down and apart. I think u should continue to be their friend. Some people are just meant to be ur friends and not ur lovers. And sometimes its even best that way.
Look at it like this... U probably saved urself from a whole bunch of heartache. Ur just lucky they were ur friend and just told u str8 up that being with you wasn't want they wanted.
Becuz the worst thing is to be with someone who doesn't love u back.
2006-08-27 18:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by Quin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then Instead Of Him Leaving You
You Leave Him
Simple
And Easy
Not Worth It To Wait For SomeOne Like Him
You Will Get Nothing In Return
Take Care
2006-08-27 18:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by Singapore_Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart really breaks for you because I am in a similar situation. (By the way, how old are you? I am twenty) I have no siblings like you but my mom is so nice and caring towards everyone but towards me she is just an evil person. | use to love my mom a lot, and some point we were really close, she is mentally sick and it really sucks. Getting back to you, did you ever ask her why she doesnt give you love and affection? Did you ever ask that she favours your brothers over you? Tell her what you tell us. Its not right that its not equal, and I vfeel so sad for you. You are a strong person from what I can read and its terrible that your mom is not acting like a mom towards you. TRY telling her how you feel. Maybe she will realize that she is be neglected towards you. I really hope it works out. It sucks when you try so hard but the parent who made you is so distant and unloving. I hope you it works out. Be strong.
2016-03-26 22:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak from experience,I would not want someone who doesn't want me. I know it is painful,and it really hurts,time heals all pain,move on,this is a sign,I mean move on and really do not look back.if it is meant to be then it will and if not then there is a lesson to be learned from this and hopefully you will know what it is,keep him as a friend,remember always friends before lovers,good luck!
2006-08-27 19:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by G. kravitz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He doesn't care about my feelings ...."
If he doesn't care about your feelings then how is it that he "loves" you?
".........and says that if it hurt me then that's my problem."
Well,,, I feel sad for you but unfortunately this is true. BUT just remember, no one can "make" you hurt unless you ALLOW them too. I realize you just got your heart broken, but remember that to let someone else "make" you unhappy(or even happy!) is the same as allowing them to have Power over you. You must be strong and be in charge of your OWN feelings.
Ya just gotta keep going. Ya just gotta "put one foot in front of the other" and continue on. Ya gotta be strong and eventually the pain will subside. Keep your chin up- I know there is somebody out there for you.
2006-08-27 18:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by Alias400 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to pick yourself up, and move on. It would be very hard for you to continue to be friends with the way you feel...so you may have to spend some time apart while you deal with your feelings. He sounds like a jerk, if you ask me....not your best friend. A best friend should be concerned with your feelings regardless of how he loves you....I think you should move forward...greater things await.
2006-08-27 18:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by loubean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...erm... ok I went through this, with a boy and I still can't get over him just try to find someone else....and forget about your crush on your best friend...sorry, I know it hurts but it will hurt worse if you don't forget
2006-08-27 18:54:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get too emotional. Just move on and find new friends. You will find life has more to offer.
2006-08-27 18:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋