shy girl won't make eye contact?

Question

what does it mean? what do shy girls do when they see a guy they are interested in? do they try to catch his eye or do they avoid eye contact? i am asking because the girl i like always looks away and pretends she is doing something else when i see her. i try to smile but she always looks away before i can. i am afraid she might not be interested so i don't approach her. i would if she looked at me, but i am so unsure!

so what do you think i should do? should i just ignore my feelings and just go talk to her, or should i stare at her until she looks at me, or should i just give up?

Answer 1

if she's shy,she might be scared for you to know,that she likes you.i'm speaking from experience,because i've always been very,very painfully shy.
as a shy person,i try not to make eye contact.i don't want someone to see me looking at him,and think that i'm staring.if he's busy talking to someone,and he's facing the other direction,i'll look at him then.but once he turns in my direction,and he looks at me,[i think he might sense that i'm looking at him]i'll turn away real quick.
if you smile at her,and she turns away,it doesn't mean she's not interested.it's just that,she's so painfully shy,it's difficult for her to smile back.shy people have an extreme lack of self-confidence.i don't even smile very often,if i'm around other people.because i'm self-conscious about my smile.
i would encourage you to talk to her.if you're not shy,and you can approach people easily,you have something she doesn't.since she's so shy and she doesn't have much confidence,you can provide for her what she needs.you can help her to come out of her shell,by taking special notice of her.us shy people really struggle more than you know.we live in a very lonely,isolating,tormenting world.we want to talk to people,we want to be more outgoing.but our fear really limits us.and that makes the situation even worse,when people think that we just want to be left alone.that isn't true at all.we want to come out of our shell.the thing is,shyness is a mental handicap,for those of us who are chronically shy.being around people can be very overwhelming,and can cause us to feel a lot of fear.that's why we try to hide ourselves,and remain invisible.because in social situations,we fear doing,and/or saying something to embarrass ourselves.
please don't give up on this girl.if you really like her,she could use a friend like you.you could take special notice of her,and meet her in her moment of need.you're able to go talk to her.she feels like she isn't able to talk to you.she's just too afraid.if you do something for her,that she honestly feels she's not able to do,you'll be giving her a precious gift.i've heard that love can be initiated,by anticipating a need someone else has.this girl has a very serious need.she's alone inside of herself,and she can't get out of that place without help.being painfully shy,is like being trapped inside a lonely,tormenting prison.a very special person came into my life once,who really helped me to come out of my shell.and he has forever made an incredible impact on my life.you can do the same for this girl,too.good luck.i hope everything works out.

Answer 2

You said a key word "SHY"
How do you know that she is shy? Because she won't look at you????
Sometimes, girls think that guys are looking at them and thinking only one thing!
Talk to her, say "hi" and see how she responds.
It could be that she has never had the attention of a guy around her age before, who might be seriously interested in her, for who she is, not what she has under her clothes!
If you say "hi" and she does not respond, try a little harder.
Ask her how she is doing? Where her next class is? If you could walk her to class? Something that is kinda general, nothing that really puts her on the spot.
Don't ignore your own feelings, you said yourself that she is "shy"
It seems to me that she is not the only shy person here. What would you do if the situation was reversed????
Think about it that way!
Saying "hi" to someone is a great ice breaker and can lead to something very nice!
I know, because I was a shy girl when I met my husband !

Good luck, don't give up, you could be losing the girl that may some day become your wife!

Answer 3

Oh please let me speak for all shy girls out there.

I'm like the queen of breaking eye contact because I'm shy, I'm not even kidding.

Shy girls...I don't know what it is about us that makes it so hard for us to keep eye contact, it's like a weird reflex and I guess sort of uncomfortability that makes us turn away. It's not because we're not interested, believe me. Unless we truly are disinterested.

You're going to have to take initiative and make the first move because, chances are, she never will. She's probably sending you mental waves all the time just begging you to make a move. Don't give up, and don't stare at her until she looks at you because that's too much and that could scare her. So just make an extra effort to talk to her and show her that you like her.

She'll love it :).

Answer 4

Be honest with her. Say "Hey shelly! How is your day?" Strive for her attention. It gets a girl going. But if she still looks away just appologize for talking to her and ask her why she dosn't notice you. harder said than done. but it will solve this. I know i just started a new job and there is this guy i find attractive. I don't know him so i'm too shy to say anything that doesn't do with work. he's talked to me once or twice and kind of complimented me. But I still look away when he looks at me. guess i'm not the "gazing in to a strangers eyes" kind of person. Go with your instinct and good luck. never hurts to know what is going on.

Answer 5

If she is interested she will sneak peeks at you, if not then she may just simply not want to deal with that part of life right now. The only way you can ever know for sure is to talk to her. If you don't talk to her you will never know and will always wonder. If you do and she rejects you, at least you will know and will be able to move on to something or someone else. Sounds easier than it is, but is the most likely solution.

Answer 6

I was pretty shy with boys that catch my eye. But not too shy not to make eye contact when I am approached. She sounds more like she is uncomfortable with herself or with you. Have you tried to talk to her or ask her about herself? I mean besides offering her a piece of gum. If you talk to her more, this may put her a little more at ease and she will slowly be able to look at you and you could bring her out of her shell. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 7

Just talk to her. Think about it. It's really hard to avoid eye contact if you're talking with someone. Worst case, she turns out not to be interested at all, but now you know, and you can find someone else.

Answer 8

Man, congratuations. I think she's kind of interested in you as well. As she is shy and introvert, she tried to avoid looking at you directly, but that doesn't means she didn't look at you, maybe casually she still throws some eye contact at you and you didn't realize that. Try to appraoch her aggain, keep on.....:-)

Answer 9

She is being exactly what you said: SHY! Of couse she's going to look away when you look back. She needs some encouragement and is too scared to do anything about it. So if you really like her maybe tell her or get to know her more to show her that you are interested. Shes hiding in her protective shell so she wont get her feelings hurt and you need to show her that they wont.

Answer 10

Go talk to her, she's shy, and sometimes, something simple as eye contact can be quite difficult to handle. Good luck buddy!