girls who've had parents that dont express there emotions around you while you were younger. i have a question

Question

if you had parents that never expressed emotion for eatchother, around you while growing up.
do you find it hard to express feeling while in relationships?

Answer 1

I find it hard because I am always anxious about the possibility of rejection.

Answer 2

Absolutely, cause you never learned how, never saw it done, in a relationship. It wasn't "normal"

I made a vow when I was young that if I ever had children, they would know what it was like to be hugged, to see their parents express positive emotions toward each other, to know in a very real sense what it was to come from a loving household. Can't bat a thousand on all that, but doing the best I can!

Answer 3

Nope not at all, I made a decision a long time ago not to be like that and not to raise my kids like that. I wanted that kind of affection for me and my kids so I just made a simple decision. I didn't even know families did things like hug each other or say they love each other but I went to my hubbies families for a holiday and they all did! I was stunned but loved it and decided right then and there that my kids would have that! My son is 21 now and still never leaves without hugging me and saying i love you mom. My mother actually got a little better, she moved away but when we would talk on the phone I started saying i love you at the end of our talks, eventually she caught on and got comfortable saying it too. That was nice since she died shortly after moving away. So yes you learn a lot from the way you are raised but as an adult you can decide to do different for yourself and your family.

Answer 4

My parents divorced when I was really young, so I never really knew my parents as a couple.

But no, I can't say that that has had any effect on my relationships. Not at all, actually. My parents are my parents, they aren't me, and I have different ways of dealing with things than they do.

I wonder sometimes what it would be like if my parents were still together, but in my own personal relationships, I can't see it making any difference at all.

Answer 5

My dad was always angry and distant... The distant part is even worse now. I never see my parents communicating, except to say bye when he goes to work.

I grew up really shy, closed up, and with major trust issues.. Now, im just alittle held back, still with trust issues. In relationships i get really needy for attention.... Almost desperate.. And it is hard to express.

Answer 6

i did not find it hard at all, as a matter of fact, i am very open with my feelings while in a relationship. dont know if parents non emotions had anything to do with it. i am what i am.

Answer 7

am nothing like my parents you learn from there mistakes. maybe the only reason that is hard to express any feelings its because of the previous relationships.

Answer 8

i'm a woman n i'm shy til u get to comprehend me. i will sit down at college quiet n no longer refer to every physique n wen ppl refer to me i'm getting worried...... yet while ik u n have been buddies i'm lots greater outgoing .... I in simple terms get worried around greater present day human beings n i'm getting scared..... adult men consistently calls me amazing n lovable cuz i'm shy, short, have been given a extreme-high quality physique, im sweetheart til u piss me off, stuff like that......

Answer 9

I'm the opposite...My parents were so full of emotion that I don't express emotion because I fear that that's the reason why they were all messed up...

Answer 10

yes sometimes...but it actually makes me do it more because i grew up taht way and wondered why were they so cold to each other and to their kids..i have a son now and i tell him i love him and hug and kiss him all the time same thing with my hubby..but at the beggining when i used to date i would be just as cold as my parents..no lie