i have some stuff i'v been working on but its a bad habbit. should i tell her everything? i'm afraide she will hate me
2006-08-27 18:25:31 · 29 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes! but it is not a confession is about opening yourself and showing who you really are. This is also a good time for improve yourself... but if you can't or not want... don't and tell her that.
But in return... you should ask her to tell you something about her. You should start "I have something to tell you but I'm afraid because it is a bad habit... will you tell me one of yours if I tell you this?"
If she hates you... then think if she is what you want.... but think more about your habit! Is that so wrong? What will think your friends about it? If it is something that your friends will hate too... so please let it right now! It seems to be something bad for your social life.
But there are things... that are very... nasty but common and tolerable:
1.Porn
2.Hate some animal
3.Not as good as others are in self-clean and odour
4.Addictions to: Shop, Work, Fast food, some alcohol, smoke, talk bad about others, tell all the secrets you hear, judgy, hypocrite, dump, selfish... and the list is extent.
But something to be afraid of:
1.Perversions like: Sex with children or animals
2.Hit women / kids... hit anyone for no reason...
3.High jealousy... like wanting to kill others, starting fights, or not letting your couple to see others...
4.Like to cheat... and don't telling to your couple.
5.Selling drugs, your body, others bodies, gambling illegally all your money,
6.like hurting your self or others...
and some others..
There are things that you can save for you... those personal related only to you... but if it affect your girlfriend... better to let her know it... as you may want to know that kind of stuff from your gf.
If it is something you will change... you can keep it for you. Of course save her from it is something good! you'll do it for you and her too. But if you fail again you should ask her for help on it.
A psicologyst could help you better fo find a solution.
Hope this is clear for you. Choose this best answer!
2006-08-27 18:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by Martin Arganaraz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the only way to have a good, long lasting relationship. If you tell her that you honestly love her, and then turn around and don't tell her everything else, can you blame her if she decides that she can't trust and believe you when you tell her that you love her? These are just some things to consider. Look, if a girl knows that the guy she is dating isn't being completely honest with her, then she won't know when to believe you, even if you are being honest. So, tell her the whole truth... she may hate you for a while, but in the long run it will be better that she knows what is really going on. Lying to her about this will only allow you to start getting into the habit to lying to her about other this, which will ultimately lead the the ruin of your relationship.
~God bless
2006-08-28 01:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by Girl 4 God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your gf you must be honest to her.. Better you told her everything about what you want to confess to her before she find out from the other person.If your gf really love you,she will understand you and she will be proud of you bcoz you have been honest to her.But if your gf hurt and mad of you,don't worry about that and just give her some time.. Anyway,good luck..
2006-08-28 01:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by cutie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends what it is. If it is that you love vaginas so much that you can't keep your pecker out of vaginas other than your girlfriend's, I think you should probably keep that to yourself for now. Similarly, if you enjoy wearing your mother's dress while playing with your sister's Barbie and Ken dolls, I wouldn't say anything about that for now - at least until your therapy is finished.
2006-08-28 01:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by Perplexed Music Lover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uuuuuuuuuuuugh
2006-08-28 01:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should confess. She might find out anyway in the near future! It's better to tell her now than later!
2006-08-28 01:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by Young and Famous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should... keeping it to yourself will only make things worse... what if she finds out? what do u think she will feel? telling the truth will set you free...and to know the real feelings she have for you...
hating you is another problem, if she really loves you then she'll be hurt by hiding if from her but she'll forgive you at once. Love unconditionally, inspite of who you are, if she really loves you.. she'll accept the whole package... take it or leave it :-)
2006-08-28 01:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by i really love him 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a girl i really love to listen the truth
go man tell her
i blv she'll understand and love u more 4 bng true
if u wont tell u'll live with a fear dat wat if she comes to know about that??
so take a breath and tell her
we all havew neggies but the best is one who admit it.
ALL THE BEST
2006-08-28 01:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by its me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never forgive you for secretely creating video of our shared passionate moments. I might break a lot of your stuff to try to destroy all the evidence. So... good luck.
In your next relationship try honesty.
2006-08-28 01:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by theinfalliblenena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on your trust level and love and the bad habbit...
ease in your bad habbit on her gently and tell her you want her help tio get rid of it...ofcourse provided you want to get rid of it...
2006-08-28 01:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by v v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋