I recently went out on a date with an extremely attractive and honestly nice woman that I met on a dating site. She's down-to-earth and a very genuine lady. We enjoy many of the same hobbies and activities, but she has experienced them to a scope well beyond me. I live in a mid-town home, she on the hill in a well heeled neighborhood. I drive a Ford Focus; she a BMW convertible. Is this East_West interlude doomed?
2006-08-27 18:21:44 · 17 answers · asked by spinning-out 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your salary has NOTHING to do with dating, unless the girl only dates rich people, in which case you prolly wouldnt of been dating anyways, I say if this relationship manages to start, Rich or Poorness wont effect it.
2006-08-27 18:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your tax bracket should matter. If it bothers you then the relationship will not work. If she is the type of person who is transparent and worries about how much you make, than maybe you are better off. If you feel your manlihood is being challenged because your not making more money than her, than you are in need of a wake up call. It is okay for a woman to be independent that shows you she can take care of herself and that she is very strong...it is 2006 not 1960.
2006-08-28 01:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it can work as long as you are both realistic about the situation and act mature about it (she can afford to pay more for dates than you can, etc.). Very successful women often have a hard time finding mates because most men feel intimidated or threatened by their intelligence and success. If you are secure enough in yourself for this not to be the case, you may be just what she needs in a relationship. Have a great time!
2006-08-28 01:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by M L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both too immature to get past the "who makes what money", then it is doomed.
If you are both (yes, you too) mature enough to understand what a real relationship should be about, then it will definitely work.
This stupid thing about the guy having to make more money than the woman in a relationship is a bunch of hogwash and perpetuates the typical male superiority thing. Get over it.
2006-08-28 01:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes. (My daughter makes 4x the salary that her fiancé earns. And moreover, she lives in NYC and he lives in Paris. And because his English is poor (she speaks French) he won't be able to work in his field in NYC until he has improved it. And they can't move to Paris although they have an apartment there because her salary would plummet.)
The key is their personalities. And the importance, or lack thereof, of money to the relationshp. The "poor" spouse may contribute something quite as important as money: education, personality, interesting friends . . . Or not, in which case the relationship is doomed.
2006-08-28 01:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If Money conquers:: extremely attractive and honestly nice woman....down-to-earth and a very genuine lady....We enjoy many of the same hobbies and activities:::::Then You Have issues dude.your in the new millnium.try it ...u might like it.
Good luck.and .....we mean that...work that mojo.
2006-08-28 01:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by koorvetteken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that she minds? Do you and/or her believe that the value of a person is directly connected to how much they make? If you think that a person's worth has nothing to do with economic solvency, and that there are more important things like values, goodness, etc., then your chance of having a successful relationship is unaffected.
2006-08-28 01:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Celeste A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work. Don't condemn the relationship before you've come to a full understanding as to whether she is understanding of your situation or downs you for it. If economics are what you or her base your relationship on, then get out before you burden each other with terrible memories.
2006-08-28 01:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by Big "D" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU DEFINE YOURSELF BY SUCH SUPERFICIAL THINGS, THEN YES, IT WILL BOTHER YOU.
IF YOUR WORTH AS A PERSON HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR SALARY, THEN YES, IT WILL WORK OUT.
BE DIFFERENT THAN MOST GUYS I KNOW AND DO NOT LET THIS CAUSE YOU TO FEEL BELITTLED OR CASTRATED. ANY JOB HAS DIGNITY. THE THING IS, ARE YOU WORKING TO LIVE, OR LIVING TO WORK? HOW ABOUT HER?
SOUNDS LIKE YOU COULD LEARN A LOT FROM HER. IF YOU REALLY LIKE HER, GIVE IT A CHANCE. AND DON'T THINK SHE HAS NOTHING TO LEARN FROM YOU. YOU HAVE A LOT TO OFFER THAT YOU FEEL IS OVERSHADOWED, BUT THAT IS NOT THE CASE.
2006-08-28 01:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y no? As long as both of u dun mind? Do u mind ppl talking behind yr back in the 1st place? If u do then i suggest u drop the idea of processing this relation! To me i dun bother abt wat ppl said or think abt me...as long as i think i nt in the wrong and hapi abt it....love dun come easy...specailly some1 tat share the same "interest" & "liking" as u...so y bother so much...
2006-08-28 01:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by D@ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋