me and my gf have not seen each other much for the past 4 weeks. ive been writing her a letter each day practically except for maybe a few days i hung out with her this past wednesday for a couple of hours. the thing i wanted to ask you guys is im writing these letters everyday and i know shes not doing anything like this at all. while im writing these letters she's most likely watching tv. it just makes me feel like **** that she's most likely not doing nething like that and im sitting here writing these letters. kinda makes me not want to write them. but i still do cause i really miss her and love her a whole lot. it just pisses me off that in a week when we see each other like everyday she wouldnt have done nething sweet or something to show me that she missed me you know what i mean? its not like shes shy or something to do things like this or what not, i love her a ton and i know she does tot kinda pisses me off and hurts as well wat u guys think? wat would u do?
2006-08-27 17:47:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if it bothers you that much, then stop writing her. If she isn't showing you any acknowledgement, then you are just wasting your time.
2006-08-27 17:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things in my opinion is happening. She might be one of those girls that are just not that mushy (I'm like that) and doesn't want to write sweet nothings everyday. If this is the case it doesn't mean that she doesn't love you to it just means that she's not into that and you may be over doing it with her. The other is that she doesn't care for you as much as you care for her. Either way if it bothers you that much you should ask her if your over doing it with the daily letters. If she says yes and leaves it at that then just simply write your daily letters but only give her the best out of every five letters. If she says no I love your letters than keep it up and try to get used to the fact that your more romantic than she is but she loves the attention and keep doing it. The last thing she could do is breakup with you because she doesn't feel the same way and you will need to find some way to move on. Hopefully it is just that she is not a mushy girl. By the way if she says it's too much and you keep doing the daily letters but picking the best out of 5 to send her keep all of the others. When you marry her it would be a great gift on your wedding day to show her how much you love and respect her wishes but still found an outlet for your love for her.
2006-08-28 01:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by Janet J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I hate to say this, but it sounds as though she's letting you do all the work in this relationship to keep it together. The hard thing about that, is that it's going to leave you feeling fustrated all the time. You'll question if she really loves you, if she thinks about you or even cares. Do you really want things to be this way all the time? Stop writing her the letters. If you need to express yourself, get a journal...but no more love letters for awhile. Force her to make some advances, by not making any to see if she's really in this relationship. It also wouldn't hurt to just come out and ask her.
I know alot of people are going to tell you to dump her, but this may be a different problem for her. Maybe she's not good at expressing emotion. Maybe she wasn't raised with the loving nature you seem to posess. It could be alot of things. But you'll never know until you let her know your concerns.
And once you do, you'll be better situated to make a sound decision about your future with her.
2006-08-28 01:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you as much as you say she does, doesn't mean that she's a sentimental sap and would like to write you every single day.My boyfriend and I love each other very much, but don't feel the need to spend every waking moment together. or feel the need to write love notes every single day to let each other know how we feel.
2006-08-28 01:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize I am not a guy, but this is my take on it.
This is a one-sided relationship and it does not appear that she wishes to put forth any effort into it. Do you really want that?
If she is not putting any effort into it, it is not worth the effort to her. You cannot change that, but you certainly can move on.
2006-08-28 00:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are much more into her than she is into you.
Date another girl and see how fast she wants to spend time with you again.
2006-08-28 00:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by TODSHISHLER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋