Can you help me with my problem?Pls.....................?

Question

I am Heidi Springle,a certified ugly,uncultured individual.My mother told me that I am lazy,non-considerate,not caring on others and myself,don't care for my things,hyperactive and freak.What are the rules and ettiquette of a cultured person ?And teach me some beauty tips that I can do every day.Can someone help me pls..........?

Answer 1

First of all, get some self-esteem, nothing is more beautiful then a confident person. Then pick up some books on personal hygenine, some fashion magazines, and consider going to the theater (a play, not a movie), taking an etiquette class, buying a book on etiquette, and get a hobby, something that you really enjoy doing, that way you'll have something to talk about and an opportunity to talk to other people. And don't forget to be true to yourself. If you're a slob, don't make yourself miserable pretending you're not. Be yourself- its the only way to make true friends. I'm sure you're you are already a very nice person, but there is no harm in self-improvement. There is harm in believing everything someone else (especially someone who apparently doesn't care about your feelings or well being) tells you.

Answer 2

Are you all those things??? If you are, make a decision to change and understand that it cannot be done overnight, that it will take some time, but it's possible. Do you really want to change or do you want your mom off your back?
Pick up after yourself, help around the house, go to the beauty shop, try some manners, like: please, thank you, smile more often. Ask mom how her day was. take care of your things, stop being a freak watch how other people your age handle themselves. You can do it!!!!

Answer 3

Dear Heidi,
nobody but a teenager calls herself ugly, uncultured and gets branded as a lazy, hyper and freak.It's just your growing pains. Accept it. when you make it all, a good career, family and life--you will be treated as a cultured, well-mannered and good person.Meantime, help your Mom with a little bit of housework and try to listen with patience to her.These are the first lessons to etiquette as charity begins at home.Beauty comes with inner contentment. Be with yourself, the world will be yours.

Answer 4

I gather you are a teen age:).
The most curious thing about parents is that they are usually right.
Your asking for help also signals that you are a good person who wishes to change.
Talk it over with your mom and ask for her help. Look in the mirror and see what you can do about your looks, and personality to make a change suitable to you, than your mom.
If you have bad habits in the home, (my oldest daughter did. she was terrible, she is still terrible today).
The old rule " soap and water will make you smell like you orta" still applies.
Clean your room, your self, and help around the house. Don't wait to be asked make the first move.
Pick clothes that fit you good, look decent and good on you, stay away from skin killing rings, such as nose rings, tummy rings ect which are hurting people. Dress for the occasion, but dress right.
For your looks and health after cleaness, a decent diet of veggies, fruit, meats., fish are in order, if you are serious cut out fast foods, junk foods, and soft drinks which ruin your health, skin and organs.
Deal with or have friends you can relate to who are interested in getting ahead themselves, not dead beats with no interest in life. Don't let those drag you down.Good luck; OWT

Answer 5

First of all try to bathe daily

then learn to go out of your way to do something nice for someone, whoever it is, just open your heart and mind to being peoples person, it pays off in the long run people just love you and want to be with you and even when they feel you are not so cute, they want to see you all the time.

then your hair says a lot about you, brush it at least thrice daily.

your clothes are you gurl, they dont have to be expensive, just carefully chosen and always clean, remeber, you are adressed the way you are dressed. Wear clothes that fit you, not just throwing stuff on to keep the glares away.

say nice things to people, "your eyes are so lovely" "wow your hair looks like a picture" " nice nails" etc, and mean them, everyone has a nice side to them help them locate it,

forget about rules, just act sweet and look at sweet people, not with disdain but with a good learning attitude. Learn from them, read magazines like cosmo, elle, instyle, vogue, and whichever fashion magazine pertains to you and align yourself babe,

the first step to being sweet and perfect is wanting to be sweet and perfect.
enjoy


did I say eat right and watch your weight? yeah do, and exercise.

Answer 6

First of all Heidi, you are very brave in advertising your name to the whole country like this, it is not safe......please be careful.....2nd you need to believe in something.....like Jesus Christ.....he is the way the truth and the life, and he accepts you as you are only you need to ask him into your life, we have access to the Living Creator God by way of Jesus you can read about this in the bible in John 3:16.....3rdly after you have received Jesus into your life you recieve forgiveness for all that you have done and are released from the weight and sorrow of them........that way your self esteem will heal and you will love yourself making you capable of loving others in your life in the true sense of the word love.......4th have no fear of what others think and repel what others might say that is negative,....just cuz they say those things does not mean that they are true....you are what you think you are so you better fix that right now....you are a beautiful creation that God has inspired .....respect that and fulfill your purpose on this earth and that is to live a life of love ......and then showing how others can live a life of love.....God bless you and keep up positive thoughts about God, yourself, and your life....you can do it!

oh and about beauty tips.....I find if i shower at least once or twice a day i feel better about my self.....take the time to put energy and creativity into your hair and make up and clothing it will show that you put forth the effort....all you need to do is put some time and little bit of love into it, ok?

Answer 7

Perhaps you should be evaluated for mental depression. I am NOT trying in any way to insult you-!! Not caring about yourself, which you mention, can sometimes be one symptom of depression. What you list in your question may (I repeat -- MAY) be symptoms of some underlying condition. You should and must deal with what is CAUSING your symptoms, rather than trying to correct each symptom by itself. There is no shame in seeking some help. Again - none of this is meant in any way as an insult to you-!!

Answer 8

i think all you need is SELF-CONFIDENCE and DICIPLINE...i do not have also the beauty that they want me to be, but although i can't be, i can CARRY and HANDLE myself properly.you know they say, simplicity adds beauty, always smile =) and keep your poisture. my teacher also says that poisture is very important because it can make the person looks intelligent. here in the philippines, there is an actress/model who is also ugly but many idolizes her because she has the poisture, the smile and the fashion. poisture, fashion and smile makes her beautiful. i know there is a beauty inside you and try to develope it...i think it can work.. if your lazy,try to have a dicipline. tell your mother to dicipline you if she knows how...i hope my advise can help you!!!nice day!

Answer 9

to be honest you have a bad mother this is what is defined as mental abuse - you are not supposed to be told these things these are her issues, saying you need to be more active and considerate is a different to being called lazy and inconsiderate your parents are using negative terms instead of positive ones

Answer 10

Get busy with self love; that will start you on step two. Step two means you need to think positive and start being serious about life. Beauty tips are your own expectations of yourself as far as beauty is concerned.