I don't have a good relationship w/ my parents, for a year I've been extremely resentful. They were too harsh on me cause I was somewhat lost and I could never get over. I respect them and I'm polite, but very distant, avoid talking to them. People consider me a good girl and praise my parents. I avoid talking about my problems w/ them but those who know can't understand how someone like me can be so resentful. Sometimes they try to force a situation for us to make up and this drives me terribly upset. I take part in volunteering acticities with children and the lady who manages it likes me really much. Next weekend there'll be a party with the presence of teens and their parents and on such events parents usually hug their kids. She invited mine and says it's a great opportunity for reconciliation, wants to see me and my parents hug. I think I wont go to the party, or I'll live a kinda sad and emotionally devastating situation. But if I dont go I'll hurt the children I deal with.
2006-08-27 16:54:00 · 6 answers · asked by Carla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need counseling, how can you help others if you can't help yourself???
2006-08-27 16:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like how the lady set you up. To me, you'd be within your rights to not go to the party. I'm sorry for the hurt children, but I don't think it would be good for them to witness a scene either. (The lady should have thought of that.)
Yes, I agree with kitkat that you could probably benefit from some counseling. I'd also recommend family counseling. In my life, I've learned that holding grudges tends to harm the grudge-holder (you) more than anyone else (your parents).
PS If your parents have abused you, you can live with a foster family. Just tell a trusted adult to get help for you.
2006-08-27 17:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My instincts tell me to advise you to hug your parents, say good-bye to that part or those parts of your past when you were very much hurt by some thing that your parents spoke or did, on one or more occasions. Act as though you love your parents, keep up the act for some time, NLP says you'll then actually start loving them! Okay, you find some shortcomings in them: who is perfect in this world? keep aloof at times, on chosen moments when that is called for, but spring back, as, I infer, you are quite capable of. One more thing: on this site, there are a few very good people, with good parental instincts and kind and loving heart, keep in touch with them, keep talking to them, you'll be all right, your need for interaction with "parents" will be taken care of. Your situation is not yet "sad" and "devastating": please don't use such extreme, drastic adjectives for your condition. Just keep saying it could be better, that's all. Good luck! Cheer up!
2006-08-27 17:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 13:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by beisler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kit kat is right you can't actually help anyone unless you help yourself.
2006-08-27 17:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too young for all this crap
2006-08-27 17:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋