ok i was going out with this HOT girl for a week and i wanted to break up with her because i never got to see her because she kept on making up excuces why she couldnt see me but now that we arnt going out she wants to hang out.... all the time, but she wont go back out with me....she said i had my chance wtf i , i tell her i never got a chance and all that, so what could i say to get her to back out with me???
2006-08-27 16:49:22 · 18 answers · asked by D D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well its a guys job to set boundries in a relationship, and I think that maybe she really does like u, but she wants u guys to get to know eachother on a friend level, u dont need a g/f right now neways cuz u got a whole future ahead of u, dating should be if u have a purpose, and not using eachother! Id say stick to being friends with her, and try again later girls love when a guy pursues her, and what I mean by boundries is like tell the girl ur not after her for sex, u want date her for a purpose in gettin to know her, and tell u wanna hangout in groups,or sumwhere all the time where u know sex wont happen, cuz thats what will really mess a relationship up!!
2006-08-27 16:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by bettyboop344 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever meet someone that you were totally drawn to and then you got a chance to know that person and the intimate feelings just weren't there, but you could be their friend? I think that's what is happening here. It sounds as though she tried going out with you and something didn't click for her. Honey, it happens.
If that's not the case, then maybe she is just trying to punish you for breaking it off. Women are weird that way. So here's what you do. Nothing. Don't pursue her, don't bring it up again and carry on as if nothing happened. It'll either drive her nuts and she'll start chasing after you, or she's gonna start demanding answers to why you quit asking her out. I know it's childish, but sometimes the only way to win this one is to beat her at her own game.
Good luck!
2006-08-27 23:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLAY HARD TO GET! She knows right know she has you where she wants you. She is playing you like a puppet on a string.
Watch what happens when you dont 1) make time for her 2) stop asking her out 3) makes plans with another girl. We girls sometimes need to know what we lost before we know we really want it. It might be hard- but I give it 2 weeks before the tables are turned and she is calling YOU for a date.
2006-08-27 23:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that the only reason why you broke up with her is because you thought she didn't want to be with you because she kept making up excuses so you broke up with her doing her a favor.And tell her how much you like her and tell her the things you like about her,or ask her out in a very special unique way that will just catch her heart.IT ALWAYS WORKS.(make sure to say please if neccesarry)
2006-08-27 23:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by quietfighter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottem line if all you want is her to go out with you and she wont...give up and move on. If you never really loved her or had any other feeling for her other then the one in your pants then give up it's not worth it.
2006-08-27 23:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure she was really making excuses? my boyfriend used to think that, and we almost broke up over it because he thought i was making excuses not to see him, and that was not the case at all...some of us have school, one, two, or more jobs, sports, one, two, or 3 extra activites, you have to spend time with your family sometime, you have time already planned out to spend with your friends and you cant really just call them up and say 'sorry, cant come, going out with a guy' yea, a bf/gf relationship is important, but in my opinion the relationship you have with your friends is more important and you cant ditch them cuz they are all you have if the relationship ends. and you said that you were thinking of breaking up with her..did you really break up with her or what? and i think you had this one coming. sorry dude
2006-08-27 23:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by hahtnamas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just act cool about it. Don't stress it. Just act like you wanna hang out, but don't give her the impression that you are desperate to.
2006-08-27 23:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel. this sounds just like something i just did. are you sure we didn't go out recently? for some reason i really like guys until i date them. then the spark goes away.
2006-08-27 23:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by geenaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep walking in the other direction as a matter of let her see you with someone else so she will get thew message
2006-09-04 17:57:27 · answer #9 · answered by pmpforever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your time now to have some excuses like she did before, you can do it back to her.
2006-08-27 23:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by richel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋