my boyfriend just left my house and he wanted to makeout with me. But i don't know how. I have no clue how to use tongue or any of that. Everyone says that it will just happen but it hasn't. Also he wants to have sex. I am super self concious. I have no clue wat to do. I like him a lot and i don't want to be a virgin anymore. I am old enough to have sex and stuff but i am kinda scared. Also how do i find ways to be with him when my parents are home? I really need your help!
2006-08-27 16:38:59 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can make out with him without having sex. you sound a lot more comfortable about makin out than having sex, so take it slowly. if he knows you aren't that experienced then he should lead the make out session, but you have to MAKE SURE that he respects and listens to you if you say 'no' to anything he is doing. if you know how to kiss then you know how to makeout. in the easiest terms, its kissing over and over while moving your hands up and down his body as you feel comfortable. remember to only do things you are comfortable with! make sure when you use tongue though not to breathe in through your nose or it makes a weird suctioning sound.. it happened to me when i was younger and was wicked embarrassing... just watching out for you. if hes your boyfriend and you like him a lot then once you get started making out youll feel more comfortable as time passes. good luck and DONT HAVE SEX if you have ANY DOUBTS whatsoever. your virginity is something youll never get back, so don't regret the way you lost it. good luck
2006-08-27 16:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by YoungNsweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The opportunity will just happen but you need to be brave enough to step in. Starring into the eyes is usually the first step. After that it should come pretty natural. There is really no bad way to make out accept to go too far. You can avoid that by deciding how far you are willing to go first.
Oh and by the way having Sex IS going to far, if you dont know how to make out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have seen too many lives altered permanently for an evening of 'a little fun' or 'doing it because I love him!'
2006-08-28 01:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by Duane L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, the way you worded things tells me you are not ready, and maybe you just wanted someone to help you realize that.
This "boyfriend" is not a friend. He is a selfish dweeb and a user of girls like you. Tell him no more making out and I bet he will be gone. If so that will prove he wasn't interested in you, the person, only in what he could get from you, SEX. You might not like that he's gone but wait and watch what he does to other girls and you will be glad he left.
YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN TO BE USED!
If you save it for the man you marry you will be so proud and the two of you can learn together.
2006-08-28 00:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Harley Charley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you're not nearly as ready as you think. Take things slow, the makeout thing will happen on its own when you are ready. And for christ's sake don't let this guy pressure you into having sex. Take your time, you will know when you're ready. Good rule of thumb, if you have to ask somebody how to makeout/have sex ect.. then you aren't ready to do those things yet.
2006-08-27 23:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is diffrent kinds of making out.. u can just go for the short and sweet.. a kiss on the lips or long and hot.. a long kiss and hugs. and sex.. if u r scared even a tiny bit dont do it.. i have done it once and i found out i wasnt really ready because after that i felt very very shy and i had almost no self esteem left in me. now i'm fine and i have a good relationship (3years) and we have agreed to not have sex until we get married.
2006-08-27 23:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by bagi2009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to the people telling you not to have sex. Only an idiot would marry someone they'd never slept with (how would you know if he even had a penis?)
Anyhow, there's only one way to learn this stuff. Don't do it all at once. Make out for a few weeks, then move on to the heavy petting, then the oral, and then the main event.
Get comfortable with each phase before you move on to the next. And make him wear a condom (VERY important).
2006-08-27 23:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by Paul J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Young Lady, A couple of things here. FIRST, although you believe that all of this is "perfectly normal", and yes, at least you're not QUEER (ie, a Lesbian which is TOTALLY "abnormal"!), still, you have been DECEIVED into believing that you just HAVE to "make out" and ESPECIALLY "have sex". But, that is the view of THE WORLD, which, if you look all around you, possibly in your OWN family, you will find where that thinking leads to: HEARTACHE, LONELINESS, REJECTION, DISRESPECT, ABUSE, DIVORCE, ETC. This world with it's "Hollywood Romance" mentality hasn't got A CLUE about REAL love and romance! SECOND, what you REALLY need is to GET YOUR HEART RIGHT WITH YOUR CREATOR, THE LORD JESUS CHRIST! You're in search of "Mr. Right", and young lady, HE IS IT! If you will repent of your sins, acknowledging that you have BROKEN GOD'S LAW (sinned against God!) and trust in the Lord to SAVE YOU FROM YOUR SINS, then you can be confident that God will PROTECT YOU from what you are NOW facing with the course that you are contemplating (ie WORLDLY romance)! And He will bless you with the man of HIS choosing who will LOVE YOU rather than USE YOU! If you're with a TRUE CHRISTIAN MAN, you will experience REAL LOVE rather than be subjected to some selfish fool's LUSTFUL DESIRES! And THIRDLY, God very plainly states in His word that "fornication" (sex OUTSIDE of the bounds of HOLY MATRIMONY) is SIN!!! You need to REMAIN A VIRGIN until YOUR WEDDING NIGHT! Please girl, STOP the direction you are going in! Contrary to what unbelieving FOOLS will tell you, being a virgin is NOTHING to be ashamed of! What IS shameful is LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY TO A GUY OTHER THAN YOUR HUSBAND! And "making out" can ONLY lead to SEX!!! Don't fall for all of the Devil's LIES! Trust me, if you will BE SAVED BY CHRIST, and allow HIM to lead and guide you, THEN you will be TRULY happy! I'm not saying your life will be "rosey" or "problem free", but it will be RIGHT, definitely a WHOLE LOT better than the direction you are NOW headed in, which is HELL-WARD! Only JESUS can give you what you TRULY need! HE LOVES YOU! That's why He died on the cross for you! I pray that you will listen to and HEAR HIM rather than those who do NOT care about your ETERNAL destiny!
2006-08-28 00:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like ur not really ready to go thru with this with this particular guy. If you are questioning yourself so much it means that maybe this is not the guy for you. Don't rush into anything ur going to regret. As for making out, it should be easy if you're really attracted to this person. Chemistry is a big factor when it comes to kissing, petting and making out. Take it easy, if is not right don't do it.
2006-08-27 23:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who ever is telling u that it will just happen , they r right. when u r ready u will know it. dont sweat it, it will happen in good time. dont let him force u to decide when the right time is; u will know. just take ur time maybe he is not the right guy for u. And how old is "I`m ready for SEX"? u need to know that sex is a wonderful thing if u and ur partner r both ready. if u do it and u r not ready u will regret it. so u dont sound ready, u better wait. talk to ur mother!
2006-08-27 23:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by "big dogs wife" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you now? Don't loose your virginity to a boyfriend. SAVE it!!! Boyfriend comes and goes. Husband is forever. Hope you would reconsider. Best Wishes
2006-08-27 23:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋