Ok, I met this great guy awhile ago. For a month, we've been talking about getting married, and he's gonna propose to me soon. My family found out about him, and is saying things like, he's too young, he's not the right one, he's gonna leave you one day, go find some older guys, etc. I've told my parents that he is the right one, but they won't listen.
2006-08-27 16:22:56 · 18 answers · asked by sailorjupiter172003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Listen to your parents, I wish I had. First you have to really wait until the guy actually ask you to marry him. Then if you both really love each other enough you can wait long enough for him to earn your parents respect.
2006-08-27 16:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Cali Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you both? I just ask becasue you said that one of their worries is that he's too young for you.
My fiance is 3 years younger than me, and we've been together for 4 years now. We are planning to be married next fall (early September, maybe?), but we haven't announced it to anyone yet. We can't afford a ring right now, and I want to wait until after I have that on my finger before I really say anything.
No matter who you marry, your parents (especially your dad) will think he's not good enough for you. But to be fair, sometimes they have a clearer perspective than yours, which is understandably clouded by good memories, love, and dreams. Not to say that your perspective is wrong. I just mean that you should give their worries a little consideration.
If you really know in your heart that this is the one, that perfect guy for you, then go ahead and start the planning anyway. After a bit your mom will start to get excited about her little girl's wedding, and your dad will come around. And if they don't, well, there's really nothing that can be said after the 'I do's'
Good luck!
2006-08-27 23:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hellooooooo. Your family loves you and they want the best for you. It is easy to get married, you can do it any day of the week or month. However it is hard to make a marriage work. Having kids is for life, so jumping into Mr. guy you met awhile ago sounds like you are in a hurry to a MRS. Is he a provider, romantic, or and the perfect friend and lover? Have you tried living together?
sailorjupiter my darling,
It is just as easy to marry a rich man as it is a poor man.
2006-08-27 23:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump the gun...you're talking about marriage but you should wait until he actually puts that ring on your finger. Otherwise, you'll end up looking a little silly in front of your family and I KNOW you don't want to hear them say "told you so"!
When he does pop the question, it doesn't really matter what anyone says. If you love him, that's all that matters. I'm sure if he's a really great guy, your family will warm up to the idea.
2006-08-28 03:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make sure that you aren't blowing off your parents because they are your parents...i've done that A LOT! just take what they say and honestly think about it. they usually do know you pretty well. with that being said...YOU are the only one that can tell when you are in love with someone and feel they are the right one for you. just make sure that you've been with that person long enough to know what they are all about. the first 6mo-1yr i wouldn't really say you have a good grasp on what that person is really about. it's still all new and amazing...once they "real" person comes out and the little things start bothering you...it's a whole different story if you want to put up with those things for the rest of your life....just don't blow off your parents because they are your parents
2006-08-27 23:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by Joboo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents you need to have some space and disappear on a months 'budget' holiday with your guy agreeing how much you will each spend per day in advance! By the time you come back from your holiday I'm sure you will really know if he is the 'right' one :-)
2006-08-27 23:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by zakjuan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu have to find out that will he hurt you? Does he have a good job and a great manner and personalities. If he has all of them, then he is the one. Make a meeting, invite him over to your house to meet your family, the your family should see how great he is,
Good luck
2006-08-27 23:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by DBSK LOVER! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time will tell Actions speak louder than words. I was in the same situation once and it turned out my parents were right :( darn you parents that were put on this earth before us and know many pain and suffereings that their children may go through
2006-08-27 23:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by Craig G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to convince your family until there is a ring on your finger and a date set. Wait until he proposes and you are both sure about everything and then go together to announce it to your families.
2006-08-27 23:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he proposes...then you could let them know that it is none of their buisness...Sometimes families stick their noses where they don't belong.
2006-08-27 23:27:09 · answer #10 · answered by Maggie Mae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋