why do women get abortions instead of giving them up for adoption?

Question

my guess is many of us so-called christians would look down on her and scoff. we would guilt her about her bad desitions and shun her.
what do you think???

if i reply to you please reply back

Answer 1

Medically speaking, an abortion is much easier on a woman's body that pregnancy.Pregnancy can lead to gestational diabetes, preecclampsia, placenta previa, and several other potentially life threatening conditions, never mind the fact that it is still not uncommon for a woman to hemorrhage after giving birth.There are also social factors to consider.A lot of time, a pregnant woman will be pressured into keeping the child even though her intentions may have been adoption.As a result, child abuse is often a common outcome of being pressured into a complete upheaval of their life.It is a common defense mechanism to stress called displacement.And there are few things more stressful than child rearing!Adoption is a wonderful option, IF the child is healthy.Infants with disabilities often are not adopted into families at all and linger and are shuffled around in the foster care system,because of the lack of families willing to adopt a child that requires special care.Speaking from experience, a healthy child is hard enough to cope with! It's sad,but true.Check the statistics, if you don't believe me

Answer 2

I am pro-choice and a lesbian so the only possible way for me to become pregnant is if I were raped. Gay or not I would have an abortion (actually I would take the emergency contraceptive now that it's available) in a heart beat. I hate when people are all, "oh you can give the baby up for adoption." Why in the hell would someone want to carry around this unwanted thing created from such an evil crime? Not only that but I couldn't imagine what would go through a women's head if that child she gave up for adoption came knocking on her door 18 years down the road. It would be like looking into your rapist's eyes and having to live through that horrible experience all over again.

Answer 3

Because most of them are young and they don't know what options they have. They are fooled into thinking that at three months it isn't a baby. We should never look down on her and scoff or shun her. That is not the Christian way. I work with teens and shame on you for thinking that way. We would love her and help her make a right decision. If she still made a second wrong decision then we need to be there for her and let her come to a saving knowledge of Christ. There are so many options for teens. Most public schools just want to hand out condoms, they don't want to address the pregnancy problem.

Answer 4

Most don't want the embarrassment if they are young or unmarried or the pain or the inconveince of the 9 mo plus 6-8 wk of recovery taken from their lives.Most Christians I know do not look down on these girls but love them and go out of their way to encourage them and help them.Everyone makes bad decisions. It doesn't help to make another one by aborting or throwing away a baby or forcing a young couple to get married just because they made one mistake! We should all encourage ladies and men/boys to support and love their children by raising them to the best of their ability or giving them to a family who will love and provide for the child.Christians need to encourage ppl in every issue.

Answer 5

Maybe some women just don't want to give up their bodies for nine months of their lifes only to have them permanently altered at the end for something they aren't even going to keep. Especially if they ended up that way due to rape or incest.

It's her body, her business. And instead of worrying about the children not born yet, why don't you go worry about the ones who are already out there suffering on the streets and in orphanages and homeless shelters. The last thing this world needs is even more unwanted children suffering needlessly, not to mention that we already have a little problem with overpopulation as it is.

It's nothing to do with spite against any group, it's simply a decision she makes with her body that's between her, her doctor, and her God or Gods if she has any. It's no one else's business.

Answer 6

I resent the statement "women are too lazy to care", what kind of Misogynist crap is that?
I did give my child up for adoption. Her "father" was too busy shooting heroin to pay attention to his wife and child. I have mental scars, physical scars, and daily reminders I can NEVER get away from. I almost died in labor. The doctors were about to pronounce me dead. And as far as self-righteous Christians who judge me, the last one who had the nerve to say so got knocked out.

Please don't patronize me with this "oh your so brave and generous" crap. You do NOT know my pain. The only reason I did not get an abortion was because I could not afford it. So instead I stayed in an abusive marriage for far longer than I would've. I would've had the abortion, and left the miserable SOB I was married to (would've never married him in the first place). But no, that's not the "Christian" thing to do. So I am not a Christian, and never will convert.

Answer 7

I'm not a woman but here are some reasons:

- carrying to term involves...carrying to term. Pregnancy and childbirth are a major lifechanging burdon even if you give the baby away

- fear and a desire to just make it go away rather than dealing with it (basically, your position)

- the belief that a fetus is not a person. Clearly, if you don't think it's a person, you would have no motive to carry it. In such cases, abortion would be seen no differently than cancer removal

Answer 8

Given that giving up a youngster to anyone they don't know is easy as pie proper? Being adopted and raised by using strangers is effortless as pie? Get over yourself. There are live kids who need houses.

Answer 9

Suppose you had to carry the seed of the man who raped you for nine months as a daily reminder of the attack. Only a man would be cruel enough to force that on a women, Or maybe Brain washed christian women who know their men are right next to the bible when it comes to being right.
Tammi Dee

Answer 10

Consider that maybe it's the choice that makes the most sense to her at the time. Taking 9 months out of your life to have a child you don't want anyway, put yourself through the trauma of birth, possibly develop feelings for a baby that you early on knew you were not able to take care of. Perhaps it's massively defected, perhaps it's the result of a rape, or perhaps it's just not the right time to have a child.

Requiring a woman to devote her existence to another human being against her will is tantamount to slavery, and we fought a civil war to do away with that institution almost 150 years ago.