my ex just won't give up on me. he's done everything to win my heart back. I’ve told him clearly that we are impossible! he's vanished for a week, but just yesterday, he came over my house to meet my mom to learn making sushi!! my mom was so pleased to teach him and they were havin so much fun!. My dad was happy to see them. he and my dad were so excited talking about playing football together next time.
my parents know everything about us and also know that I’m currently dating a nice guy and we're sooooo in love.
my dad said "he (my ex) has the right to love me and do whatever he could to win me back. there's nothing wrong with that! LOVE is all about challenge!".
my ex's really pissing me off!
what should I do?
2006-08-27 16:09:07 · 16 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the best thing to do here is to not let anything he does bother you, by being annoyed and frustrated at his actions you are giving him exactly what he wants. I know it's hard but you gotta just live your life and not let him affect you, in time he'll lose hope and move on, or so I hope.
2006-08-27 16:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by Xens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your family is not his but yours. He needs to find his own. He can't buy your parents' heart -- they love you first and foremost. Ignore the jerk and continue to date the man who is right for you. You don't say how long you were dating the guy but it seems he built a relationship with your folks and they are having trouble letting him go. You have a brain and a heart, trust your gut and move on. When he sees you really are serious for the other guy, he will look a fool and give up. Seriously, if you told your parents you two are through (and don't have a history of breaking up and then getting back together drama) then tell them you are uncomfortable having him in the house and would appreciate their support in not having him there.
If your parents don't believe you, make plans to move out of your abode if you are over 18.
2006-08-27 16:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The BEST man u would EVER find, is the man who fights to win u & ur heart !
U got bad advice from most the answers. Usually here on this site , u ONLY get ..BE MEAN..BE HEARTLESS advices.
I suggest u give ur eX a chance, OR one day u might regret that u didn't.
I do regret many times not giving a 2nd chance to my eXes who tried to win me back !!! I DO REGRET !!!
2006-08-27 16:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and let him know that you are not interested. Tell him you think that if your relationship ever meant anything to him that he should give you to space and let you choose, tell him his interference and kissing up to your parents is really turning you off!
Let him know that you like another and to more he pushes the closer you get to the new guy.
Invite your new boyfriend over and let him spend some time with your family.
Ask your parents to support your decision!
Good luck!
2006-08-27 16:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the time to talk to your ex and explain to him that you're not interested anymore in him and there's no chance of you two reconciling. If he persists on harassing you, get a restraining order. Or if you do want him back, be honest with him.
2006-08-27 16:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by midnightwolf99_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy really loves you. i don't think what he's done is wrong. your dad was right. every man has the right to love you and do everything they could to win your heart. you are too lucky to realise that!
2006-08-27 20:17:41 · answer #6 · answered by #1 Girl -She's Bittersweet- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing live ur life as normal if he wants to impress ur family let him keep dating ur guy and bring him around ur folks so he can get to know them as well and hell get the point when he see u 2 as a couple if not get a restraining order
2006-08-27 16:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by 1plum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, and I know exactly what you're going through, because I went through it too. Nearly 20 years ago, I met this guy whom I made the mistake of letting move in with me after two weeks. His personality changed as soon as he moved in. He was inconsiderate, he was rude, he demanded sex, and he was a total nightmare. Prior to meeting him, I bought my plane ticket to go to Europe, something he gave me a hard time about. I went to Europe and I let him stay at my apartment while I was gone. Big mistake! He ran a $400 phone bill in 10 days and while in Europe, recovering from food poisoning (which ruined 80% of my trip) I decided to end the relationship. I was determined to go back and let him know that it was over between us. Guess again! He begged, pleaded to not do this to him, he loved me soooo much, and on and on. I told him I needed some time alone to think, and guess what he does next: Yes, he went to see my parents, while I drove to my brother's place. A couple of hours later, my father called my brother's place and when he found out I was there, he asked to talk to me immediately. He berated me about dating a lot of losers, but when a "decent guy comes along" that I reject him. He told me if I was going to expect perfection I would never have anyone. Against my better instincts I took him back, he behaved himself for several months and we got married. I didn't really love him, but after a previous heartbreakingly failed marriage, I felt that if I married for security without so much emotional attachment I would be better off. Guess again. He again showed his true colors not long after the wedding even worse than ever before, because before the abuse was only emotional. This time it became physical, and he raped me several times while telling me that "it wasn't rape, because I was his wife". After two years of this and many times of my escaping from him, even 1000 miles away, he found me and harassed the people I was staying with, and because they had small children, although they didn't ask me to leave, I felt like I had no choice but to leave and go back to him, since I was unemployed and didn't have anywhere else to go (my parents wouldn't let me move in with them). I stayed with him another year and through it, several trips to the ER. Once he broke my nose.
This was pre OJ Simpson days, where domestic abuse was still obscure and the police didn't do much of anything, especially in Texas, where the good old boys stick up for each other.
My break came when he met someone else and left me. While to most women, being left for another woman can be devastating, to me it was my liberation day. He, of course married twice after me, but he didn't quite leave me alone. He wanted to have his cake and eat it too, but eventually I met and married again and stayed married for 12 years before I moved and divorced. Now I live in Canada. He'll never find me here, LOL.
2006-08-27 16:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by imagineworldwide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don,t you know? If someone is worth having then they are worth fighting for. Him not giving up shows how much he cares. That does not make how he is doing right!
2006-08-27 16:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by james c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's tryin to win ur parents heart so hopefully u would say oh how good he is w/ ur parents and stuff and later on u'll start missin him just tell him to **** off
2006-08-27 16:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by mr.asz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋