I've been seeing him for two years, but i recentlly cut it off. I have an urge to tell his wife, just as a final revenge stab. should i do it?
2006-08-27 15:53:41 · 45 answers · asked by stealmyface420 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Reverse situation. Would you want to know that you'd been made a fool of for 2 years?
2006-08-27 15:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Doing anything just on the basis of revenge is never a good thing and never turns out well.
You'll look even worse then he will for telling her. Chances are that she already knows. So why stick your neck out and quite possibly get it cut off?
If you've been seeing him for two years and he's still with his wife that makes you look more bad then it does for him.
If she doesn't know she'll eventually figure it out...hopefully.
IF i were you i'd pull up my skirt and be on my way. Take a nice long shower, go clubbing and make him a distant memory.
Wait no..if i were you i'd never be with a marryed man and actually expect him to leave his wife.
2006-08-27 16:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by warm_champaign 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send it in a letter, unsigned, but be sure you've booked a flight to someplace 1000 miles+ away...coz she'll come after you!
NOT!
If she doesn't, then karma will. What were you thinking. Don't do it as revenge. Do it coz she ought to know what her husband is up to! And don't be a coward, and don't be surprised if she slaps you silly. Coz what if she was a NICE woman, a good one who trusted her hubby and had no reason to suspect? How would you feel if you were so good and he were so bad, if you did everything right for him and yet he were greedy? Don't say it's impossible, coz it's not.
If your only reason is revenge, then keep your mouth shut. This could blow up in your face...coz what if she is NOT a nice lady after all...or what if HE is not so great as you thought.... Yeah, think about that too.
2006-08-27 16:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you? You commited adultery too! This guy's wife was the innocent one and now not only did you do her husband but you think you should be the one to hurt her. Get help!
Put yourself in her position, what do you think gives you the right?
I sincerely hope you will get this and that you won't cause more hurt if the guy was a jerk, well you should have seen it when he was cheating on his wife. Whatever you do remember what ever goes around comes around!
2006-08-27 15:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is over with this man. You had two years with him. Why would you want to hurt him this much? You knew what you were getting into when you got into the relationship. I say just move on with your life and forget about revenge.
2006-08-27 16:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY WOULD YOU WANT REVENGE? NOT NECESSARY. YOU ALREADY GOT HIM GOOD (by breaking up) The urge will pass. Just dont make the "other woman" thing a habit. it is hard to break. Simply suggest to him that he tell her if he wants to have his marriage succeed. Then maturely walk away. (With grace and dignity.) You already know what to do- dont you?
2006-08-27 16:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by tbaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not out of revenge, out of remorse. Tell the wife because she would need to know. How would you feel if the situation was flipped around??
2006-08-27 15:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by Country 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't date a married man, it is oxymoronic. You've been getting f@cked. With that said if you tell her, all you'll do is end up looking like an @sshole. She'll stand by her man and vow to not let you break up her marriage/family. Not worth it, but neither is getting involved with a married man.
2006-08-27 15:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. its bad enough she probably already knows, and now you are going to make his life even worse. you could ruin his life, his wife could commit suicide for feeling unwanted, if he has kids, they will all concequent from this action of telling her. think of the larger picture, not just getting revenge. the best revenge you can do to someone is move on and be happy with out them.
2006-08-27 15:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, revenge is not worth it. Have more respect for yourself and move on with dignity. Do not lower yourself to the level of dating a married man again. Have more respect for yourself to ever do that again.
2006-08-27 15:57:31 · answer #10 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋