i have a boyfriend and he great but this summer he was gone at his dads so i didn't get to talk to him or see him, he's back now but we talk less then we did before he left and i still havent seen him since he got back. While he was gone me and his friend got kinda close and i really like him alot but i don't wanna leave my boyfriend for his friend thats kinda mean but i like him soo much! What do i do!?!?!
2006-08-27 15:50:28 · 16 answers · asked by Kristy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i met my boyfriend through his friend so without his friend i never would of known him and i might of asked out his friend instead
2006-08-27 16:10:09 · update #1
tell him that you do not fell as close to him as you have previously. he may be feeling the same way. if he does, then move on. just dont be offended if he has kind of found someone else too.
2006-08-27 15:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by tinyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I've seen at least one other question similar to this one before. Once you begin to date or flirt with the guys best friend its over between you and that guy. Its kinda dating for no brainers rule 101.
Sorry ta put this to you harshly but hunny ya can't play both sides unless you're getting paid for it.
If you really cared for the guy you wouldn't have gotten 'close' to his friend. You would've respected him enough to have some boundaries. And a little common sense.
Chances are the guys friend called him during the summer and he's already moved on from you.
Friends talk. Even if its just an im.
If i were you i'd walk away from the whole situation and find another guy. Because if you date his best friend you're gonna get a reputation that you don't want. And is all this really worth the pain you're gonna cause?
*coughs* Grow up love. It's ladys like you that ruin all the 'great guys' for the rest of us!
2006-08-27 22:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by warm_champaign 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend and be honest with him. Tell him you have been feeling like he's lost interest in you (if he'd wanted to see you he would have done so by now). Tell him that you and his friend has become good friends and that you like him a lot, and would like it to be more, but until things were settled one way or the other between you and boyfriend that you could not start a relationship with his friend other than friendship. With luck he will respect that you have been honest with him and you all can be friends still. If he doesn't, and he gets mad then you will know that he isn't a friend to you or a boyfriend( not much of one anyway). You have to do what makes you happy. Trust me you don't want to get stuck in a bad relationship. So what if you stay with the boyfriend and each day you resent him more and more until the friendship part can't even be saved. He hasn't made the effort to see you since he's been home!!!!!! Get rid of him. Sounds to me like he wants you when it fits him to have you around. Sorry, but I'm trying to be honest with you. I feel you deserve that. Good Luck and I'll keep you in my prayers.
2006-08-27 23:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by sammie-john 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Tell him he was gone so long, and you can't handle being without someone complimenting you and drooling over you and telling you how much they care about you every minute of every day, so rather than stick it out and try to think about him every day and counting the days until you'd be reunited, you thought it might be cooler to get close to a friend of his and then ask a bunch of strangers what you should do next. Yeah, that should probably take care of any residual guilt and set him free to find someone who might actually treat him right.
2006-08-27 23:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by Ice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your boyfriend.
tell him the situation..
tell him you don't mean to hurt him because you clearly care about him if you don't want to leave him.
see what he thinks on the situation.
if he cares about you..he'll understand and try to help you.
i recommend giving the relationship a break and maybe see how things go with the friend..
i'm not saying date him or anything..
but learn more about him.
either that or forgot about his friend and try picking up where you and your boyfriend left off..maybe things will get back on track.
good luck.
2006-08-27 22:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by cuteycourt719 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when ever you have to say "but" in describing someone, its time to end it
i have a boyfriend and he great "but"
nothing else matters after the but, the but bothers you so much, you cant get over it, thats why you say but.
find a new boyfriend. you will like someone else just as much, if not more.
2006-08-27 22:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by gesswh0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen it's is hard for ur bf to get to talk to u bec u kinda left him alone in his journey for his friend. but if u really like his friend more then him then u should just talk with ur bf, if u think that he is mad and he should talk to u first then to be honest u have made him angry so i don't think so he is going to talk to u, u have to talk with him abt ur releationship with his friend, and if he is really understanding guy then he will understand that (he is the one who left u without talking so.....) bye gud luck
2006-08-27 22:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by Khu$hboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You grew apart and obviously he did too... it is still dangerous territory with his friend but he may care less if you guys got over each other!
2006-08-27 22:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out where your relationship with your boyfriend stands first. if you and your boyfriends relationship has seemed to start dimenishing bounce and go for the friend
2006-08-27 22:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by necie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore boys, you have alot of time, do your school work and plan for a career
2006-08-27 23:01:01 · answer #10 · answered by killbill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋