I feel some great tension knowing that this girl I’m dating has already experienced sex (and I didn’t, although this is not the (only?) reason). It’s something I cannot really explain. It’s like I wanted to discover this together. Well, I do like/love her, I think at her more and more and she also likes me.
She’s a very good, sweet, tender, intelligent girl, she enjoys painting, but sometimes she tells me she dreams doing crazy stuff (she said she never experienced drugs and sex in the car). Of course, that drug thing it’s just some joke (perhaps she just wanted to test me – believe me, she doesn’t seem the person to take drugs and I know what I’m saying), but that “sex in the car” thing pulled me to thinking she had experienced sexual intercourse before. I really don’t know what to think. No, I didn’t have a conversation on this topic (yet) since we are not officially together.
2006-08-27 15:47:56 · 14 answers · asked by MrConfused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Another fact is that we are not living in the same city, but going to the same college. I haven’t seen her for two weeks now and there are even more two weeks left to see her again. Going to her city it’s not that easy for my pocket.
I can’t stop thinking at this. Can you give me some (really helpful, not theorems… please) advice that will help me be more tolerant with these thoughts? I feel like **** thinking at what that guy might have made with her.
Don’t tell me anything such as leaving (?!) her because I am really attached to her and it seems she feels the same about me. I am 18 and she is 19.
2006-08-27 15:48:15 · update #1
You're way too insecure, not to mention naive. She's 19 and you had this nobel notion that she would surely still be a virgin. Guess what, you were wrong it seems and so what? Get over yourself and accept her for those good things you said about her.
2006-08-27 15:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be more secure with yourself and what you have to offer. Don't blame your girlfriend for her past, aren't there things in your past you wish you could change? What some one does before you shouldn't matter. You said that she experienced sex, okay but if she ever really made love?
Sex is something to many people do especially women because they feel pressured or curious.
The first time with you, when if the time is right, will be your first time together. I think it is great that you haven't had this experience, stay with your convictions, but remember they are yours. Make sure that when you do have sex your are prepared in all ways and that you feel it's right.
Don't compare yourself to her past. You still care for your friends that have done things that bother you. We are just need to be loved and cared for as individuals. Good luck!
2006-08-27 22:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is gone, it no longer exists. Forget it. She did not know you when she had sex, so you can not take it personally.
If you have sex with this girl and then break up with her, how will you feel, if the girl you go out with gets upset with you because you already had sex and she didn't.
I know you think you are a man, but when you figure you want to have sex with them, ask yourself if yu want to marry them. Make it seem like a permanent commitment and it will make your life less complicated in the long run.
2006-08-27 22:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by starting over 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like an ego thing with you. Face it, you can't stand the thought that another guy got to her first. She's a great girl. Get over yourself and if you value her as a person, the sex is just the icing on the cake not the entire show.
2006-08-27 22:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you worry about that kind of stuff you're gonna have a sad life kid. Get over it, whoever she was with before doesn't matter, they are out of her life. She's with you now. Besides, take it from me, virgins are horrible in bed for about the first year or so, just think of it as skipping alot of bad sex, and getting right to the good stuff.
2006-08-27 22:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're going to stress out over it. It's a territorial thing. For all of our technology and religion, at our base, we're still animals. Your best bet is to just let it go man. If you're getting this stressed over just the hint that she might know, then dont bother talking to her about it. Some things are better left hazy.
2006-08-27 22:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by Nack Jicholson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel pressured...it's ok to wait till the right guy comes..u probably watched too much tv or u just hang out with the wrong group of ppl. There's nothing wrong and don't force urself..cause u don't want to make the wrong decision and regret
2006-08-27 22:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by Neutro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bubba,if you really care for this girl put the past behind you and concentrate on being a good man for her.The thing about the past,it's over.There is no way to change it.
2006-08-27 22:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by hott.dawg™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ,First I don't like such girls & when I know something like this I step back immediatly ,Because she is like spoiled thing ,Thats if you're thinking for real love & marriage ,It's your time to move now!
2006-08-27 22:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by my_a7lamy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey what are you going to do stone her to death , so she experienced it before , big deal , get a tissue for your issue , save the drama for your mama , get over it ,,, If you 2 people like each other it really shouldn't matter who did what first, just let it go , go with the flow my man.......................
2006-08-27 22:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by E.M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋