Ok about a year and half ago after my mom passed away my dad and brother and I moved to Texas from Minnesota. I am 15. My sister goes to college and I am the youngest. My dad works for an oil company. He is not home much and we get along pretty well usually.
However, I am always getting yelled at by my friend's parents and by teachers and the principal and vice principal. Usually for talking back or doing something else they think is "inappropriate." They will say stuff like I am lucky they are not my mom (which is very offensive) or my dad, or I would really "get it." Sometimes they threaten to call my dad or they do and they tell him stuff like "around here if someone does not raise their kids properly maybe someone else should" or that I dress inappropriately, jeans too tight, whatever. My dad just tells me I should watch my mouth and show respect but if one more adult smacks or paddles me or even threatens to I am going to scream! I am at my breaking point! What do I do?
2006-08-27 15:33:04 · 6 answers · asked by Lori 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Moving to a new place can be hard and just after the loss of your mother. My prayers are with you. Many people like to think that they are helping if they give their two cents worth.They all know what's best for you, right. The way you can avoid some of it is try to stay out of trouble in school, then the teachers won't have a reason to get all over you. As for your friends parents, stay away from the houses where the parents can be a drag. Meet your friends on neutral ground. It sounds like you get along good with your dad and that's great. Keep that up. Just remember, you only have 3 more years until you will be just like those people, an adult. Then you can tell them to all go to he.. double toothpicks. Until then, keep smiling.
2006-08-27 15:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, maybe if there are a lot of people telling you the same thing you should start looking at your behavior and see if maybe there are a few things you should work on. It sounds as if you are being a bit disrepectful at times. Try listening to what they are upset about and ask yourself if the way you are acting is really the proper behavior. It also sounds like you have some anger issues going on. Have you talked to anyone about what's going on in your life. I mean losing your mom, moving across the country, your dad is gone all the time. Sweetie, I'd have a lot of pent up anger too! You really need to find a healthy outlet for all of the emotions that I am sure you are going through. Because even though life might be a little rough for you right now it does not give you the right to lash out at everyone you come in to contact with. And I'm sure being the "rebel" kid in town doesn't make you feel as good as you would have us believe. I am so so so sorry for your loss and what you are going through. There are a lot of good people who can help you if you just ask. Good luck, Sweetie.
2006-08-27 23:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Stacy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've had two major life changes, your mother's death and a move to a different region of the country. You need to find an adult that you can trust, and let out your feelings of fear, frustration, anger, and grief with them. It could be a school counselor, a coach, or any responsible adult. This will relieve the pressure that's been building up inside of you. Do it quickly. Also, see if you can find a mental health information hotline, to put you in touch with professional help.
2006-08-27 23:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop behaving like that. Why is this so hard to understand. You're disrespectful. You're behavior is inappropriate and so are your clothes. (I can see by some of your answers that you are engaging in adult activities that you certainly are not ready for.) I know you're going through a hard time, especially since you don't have your mom to guide you and your dad isn't around much. But you know what she would want you to do. Be the young woman she would have wanted you to be.
2006-08-27 22:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by Fall Down Laughing 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
listen to ur dad .. i just moved to a somewhat backwards place compared to what im used to also ... it takes awhile to adjust ... just lay low for awhile and dont make waves.
2006-08-27 22:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being a little wench... sounds like you were not taught how to be respectful. or youare askin this question because youwant attention.
2006-08-27 22:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by East Texan 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋