what would you say if i told you that i was two months pregnant but you had told me that you didn't want kids but i wind up pregnant what would you do and say:) and should i tell him at all or just leave him alone and do it on my own have a good job,car,house should i just do it on my own?pleasde help
2006-08-27 15:32:56 · 35 answers · asked by GUESS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm 25..and for the people this is my frist time on here using my sister yahoo page she told me about this and i just needed some advice
2006-08-27 15:40:37 · update #1
yes i have been with him for more than two years exactly 2 years and 9months
2006-08-27 15:48:20 · update #2
definitely dont leave him alone. he is a part of this and should be there for you. i would still help you and support you
2006-08-27 15:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by dtstuff9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each guy will respond differently, of course.
Some guys say that they don't want kids. BUT, when they end up having a kid some guys turn out to be awesome dads, etc. Of course, the reverse can also be true. Some guys don't want kids and they're going to still feel that way even after they find out they're now a dad. There are also some guys who don't like the idea at first but "come around" in time. Maybe that's a few months, maybe it's even a few years. Again, each guy (and situation) is different.
Bottom line, you need to talk to this guy. There is no question in my mind about this. Just be honest with him and allow him time to process this information. Personally, I'd probably need a few days to process news that I was going to be a dad, etc.
If he doesn't want to assist raising the child I admire your desire and willingess to do so yourself. There are also MANY couples wanting to adopt a baby if you decide you cannot raise this child yourself. As well, he should be willing to support you if you decide to raise the child yourself. (Legally he would need to assist).
2006-08-27 15:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by take_me_to_the_beach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man that bites. If he said he didn't want kids (and you had both taken the appropriate action to prevent said pregnancy). A child is a HUGE lifelong comitment that you really need to think about before you have it. There are options here and you really should talk to a professional councellor. If you don't want to be with him for the next twenty years or so and all he will be doing is paying half his paycheck for the priviledge of being an absentee dad to a child he didn't want..... I wouldn't be a happy man.
2006-08-27 15:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by medic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on the type of guy we're talking about. If he's the kind of guy who takes responsibility for his actions, then he would most likely step up and help you support the child, if not marry you to give his child a good home. But if he runs from responsibility, then you're probably better off looking for a better guy. Hard as that may be, it will be better for you, and the child.
2006-08-27 15:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Right 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally i would like to know about a baby that i helped made, But then again i want kids not the other way around, but yes tell him and ask him about it sit down talk about it and find out money arrangements and if he whats to be involved,
2006-08-27 15:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm speaking from nothing but experience, both personal, as in I was that guy, and also from seeing what happens from the mother's perspective.
Take this advice with a grain of salt, but, having this child will not make anything easier for you, and it will also push him away from you completely. If I was you I would seriously consider getting an abortion.
2006-08-29 10:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by jeff the drunk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth! If he don't want children he needs to keep it in his pants or use protection! He needs to live up to his responsibilities! And you should hold him to them. you didn't do it all by yourself. To many men feel it's OK to pop kids in the world and not be responsible for their actions, By the way these are not men, they are lower than dogs! And they should be treated like the scum of the earth as they are. Now if they live up to their responsibility, that's a different story! If he want's DNA, go for it! Don't be foolish, don't let him off the hook!
2006-08-27 15:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too long and hard to live alone. Especially if you have a child to look after. The end would be a breaking point for you and/or your child. Tell him. If he takes responsibily, good enough, if he doesn't, he is not man enough. But whatever the case, don't do it alone!
2006-08-27 15:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by shafique_khan83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sorry you're having to go thru this but you should tell him regardless. Don't stay with him just because of the kid cuz he may resent you for it and next time use some birth control if you really don't want kids.
2006-08-27 15:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by Child of the 80's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. I don't know why you women don't close up shop until you're married. It would be so simple. This is really getting old answering. You can thank the liberals for ruining America and people's lives.
2006-08-27 15:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take care of my responsibility and I would love you and take care of your every need because the kid is a mixture of the two people I care about Me and You? and for the second question, Whatever your heart says....
2006-08-27 15:36:56 · answer #11 · answered by E.F. Landeros 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋