I'm 25, single asian guy & live by myself. I don't smoke or drink. Transferred here to Albuquerque, NM 2yrs. ago. I have a great job. My sup & co-workers always tell me I'm the nicest guy they've ever met. Anyway, I prefer to date white girls but here in Abq, I can't seem to find even one who would go out with me. I've tried online dating (ex: match, yahoo, eharmony) but I feel like I'm throwing money in the sea because I always get rejected. I've asked a couple of girls for a date face to face, but they said "I am taken" or "I am dating someone". So every morning, I ask this to myself "WHY? WHY? WHY?". I'm 5'7" 130lbs and I'm either average or okay looking person. So what could be wrong with me? What can I do?
2006-08-27 15:28:50 · 16 answers · asked by Dr Love 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My background is Burmese. If you don't know how Burmese ppl look like, well the best comparison would be Thai people. My eyes are more rounded. And one thing is I do work Fri, Sat nights; Sun moring; Mon moring and plus that night until Tue morning.
2006-08-27 15:40:20 · update #1
there is nothing "wrong with you". though there could be something wrong with the environment you are in. the thing is, you are attracting negativity by thinking the way you are. i think a change of perspective is in order. try dating other ethnicites, just try it. also get involved in some hobbies- ballroom dancing, hiking hobbies to improve you. women will notice a difference in you because you are not even trying.
2006-08-27 15:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by tinyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 130lbs? Maybe Albuquerque girls just like a man with a little more on him. haha. not to be mean, but i guess that wasn't nice anyway... Ummm. maybe you ARE just going after the wrong girls. Or maybe girls just think of you as "friend" material. When they grow up, and start looking for a good guy to settle down with hopefully they'll come looking and find you. Give it time. And look at what your search criteria is, maybe you're looking for the wrong type of girl, and maybe the qualities you are looking for aren't the important ones, and you can redirect your search? Good luck. I'm sure you'll find the right girl at the right time.
2006-08-27 15:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING IS WRONG WITH U, U WORRY TO MUCH
All what's wrong u have to good of a job.
and must work day and night day and night.
so then u have NO time for yourselve.
U should go out more at night, to the clubs and find out what's in store
your a good guy, your just looking in the wrong places(and sometimes dating online is NOT the best thing for a guy)
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2006-08-27 15:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by The Hot Latin Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are trying too hard. I might suggest dating someone of your own race. Since all the terrorist threats and all that stuff happened as sad as it may be.. some people are afraid of branching out into other races from overseas. Maybe the terrorist stuff has nothing to do with it, however in my area, most people do shy away from those that are not born and bred in the USA.
2006-08-27 15:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 ur tryign to hard just relax make friends try to have more girls then boys and when ur friends with 1 long enuf and u feel theirs a great conection ask her out but be sutle about it trust me thats how i play it and i havent been a verjin since i was 12
2006-08-27 15:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not yet your time maybe. try developing more acquaintances and friends first without the intention of love.you will expose yourself to different kinds of women and maybe then you will find out that white girls are not really your type. maybe you're too idealistic. try opening your self to other people and not limit your criteria to this and that only.be open. dont rush things. be friends first with others
2006-08-27 15:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by snoopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be too nice, maybe you are being thrown into the friend category too quickly. I'm not saying you need to be an ******, but maybe let your intentions be known right away.
2006-08-27 15:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont want to sound like an *** but most white girls dont like asians, its unfortunate for you, why dont you try dating asians, i honestly non sarcastically feel sorry for you, but there are white girls out there that like asian men, im a big white guy and im upset that girls like me more when i act like a jerk then a nice guy, but you cant change the system
so you sort of no why, now id say keep trying and still be nice
2006-08-27 15:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
asians have the smallest ***** just kidding lol but i mean c'mon you guys have wierd customs her mom isn't gonna except you and ur eyes are kind of wierd srry if im mean but its the truth
ur really short and sound like your skinny try getting some muscle
2006-08-27 15:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just pick the wrong girls...maybe the right girl wil come and pick u soon
2006-08-27 15:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by Neutro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋