Alcoholism?

Question

Has your life been affect by alcoholism? If so how did/do you handle the rollar coaster ride? If you care to share a story please do...

Thanks to all who respond intelligently

Thanks to all for all the wonderful answers! I appreciate all the intelligent answers I have so far received..God bless you all

Answer 1

I don't drink, however my life has been affected by it. My father in law was an acoholic and always in getting us involved. I loathed him because of this.. the sad part is that he was a really good guy, very knowledgeable and funny. He just could not stay away from booze

Answer 2

I have not been affected by alcoholism, but was married to someone who was addicted to METH. I didn't do a very good job handling the roller coaster ride, but it did always help to find someone to talk to.
Sometimes he would say and do things i KNEW he would never have done sober, and it was a scary thing. It was very stressing to have to wonder what kind of mood he was going to be in in another 20 minutes. Sometimes I would work 7 days a week, 10-12 hour days just to keep from having to go home and deal with it. At first, when he was sober he was just like the man i fell in love with. But after a while, it got to the point he would do anything for that next high. The best advice i can give you is TRY to get whomever is addicted to the alcohol some professional help, and don't blame yourself if things don't get better. Sometimes there is not much you can do but appear to be standing strong. God bless you. I hope everything works out.

Answer 3

Well, I rode the roller coaster ride of living with an alcoholic for 11 years .... ten years too many, someone told me. When my (now ex-) husband and I first got married he was sober and had been for quite awhile. But he fell off the wagon for a LONG time (MANY years) and didn't get back on until he got caught - DUI. And he fell off the wagon after that too.

Those 10 years were hell for me, though; I had never been that close to an alcoholic (other than having one kill a family member in an auto collision many years ago) and didn't know what to expect. There were constant arguments ... and all the lies. The lies never stopped. He never held a job for long, and all the real responsibilities fell on my shoulders. All I can really be grateful for is that we never wanted nor had children.

I finally woke up one day and decided I had been through enough hell .... and filed for divorce. It is the first sane thing I have been a part of in ages .... and am so glad I did it. I had let my own health and life deteriorate in the wake of his alcoholism, I had almost given up hope. But since the day I made up my mind to leave the marriage, things improved ... and now .... I have a life again. :)

~Eliza~

Answer 4

My whole life has been affected by alcoholism. I had an alcoholic parent who abused the family. The other parent was so affected by the drinking and the violence, that they became hard and cold. Always physically there for us, but not emotionally.

I married an alcoholic. But, he only drinks on the weekends ( Thu-Sunday night) and only beer (avg 8 a night), so he's not really an alcoholic, HA! I am a responsible, loving parent. My kids adore me.

I haven't done anything about it. I feel bad for him because the family and I are all he has.

Answer 5

Yes, my life has been pesonally affected by alcoholism. I was one and so were my husbands. The second one died because of it, I sobered up as a consequence to his death. I have been in recovery for eight years. i attend 12 step meetings talk to recovering alcoholics, have a sponsor and I dont drink today no matter what. If you live with an active alcoholic you can join Alanon. ALcoholism is a progressive disease it gets worse never better. If you are the one, seek help, if you live with one, get help.

Answer 6

Well, my father had an alcohol addiction, and it was really hard for him. I remember he used to leave the house really early, he would do very little work, and he would come home totally drunk. He actually hit my mom twice, and then she separated from him. It was soo hard for me to go through, I had to take like half a year off from school. he finally stopped and has been sober for like three years, but I never really forgave him for hitting my mom, and I really never warmed up to him because I cannot trust him. Alcohol is really dangerous and such a bad idea, it ruined my family, and has ruined so many others, so never drink too much, because you could end up hurting yourself, or everyone else you love.

Answer 7

My oldest brother is a recovering alcoholic. Alcohol has cost him so much...I could go on forever about his experiences. Anyway, for many years, I would try to just tolerate his drinking and hope that someday he would stop. Finally, I came to a point when it hurt too much to hope. He disappeared for over a year and we had no idea where he was...I just tried not to think about it. I knew if I thought about it too much, it would terrify me. Anyway, the judge who threw him in jail for a year and charged him $9,000 in fines and probation fees is the judge my brother credits with saving his life. He has been sober for a year and a half...I'm still afraid he'll start drinking again, but I love him too much to give up.

Answer 8

my husband's father was an alcoholic. my husband never really new his father as all he ever did was work and then go drinking. my husband's father died last year. although my husband never really knew his father, he was upset when he passed. however my husband never let it bother him as he just made a promise to himself not to let himself become like his father. so in that regard, i think it's made my husband a better person. i did have an ex b/f that was/still is an alcoholic. he got/gets abusive when he's drinking and needless to say i got my share of it. i like to drink occasionally but nothing like an alcoholic. it's awful when you're dependent on something.

Answer 9

Personally I have had no problem with alcohol, but my relationship with a lady friend has been ruined because of her drinking. I just go on with my life and try to stay away form the ones who struggle with that disease.

Answer 10

yes.and I'm still trying to haNDle it instead of it handling me.just had my 2nd DUI in may 2006 in 31/2 yrs.going to lose my license again when i go to court.always eventually get in trouble when i drink. usually just beer but still the problem exists.been drinking since i was 15.