I've been dating this amazing guy for about half a year, I love him. i gave him everything,I even gave him my virginity.I'm completely devouted to him and try to make sure he knows I love him. Everything would be perfect, except he is very moody, its like dating two people., and his bad side is pretty bad. He says very mean and hurtful things to me, talks about his exes just to make me jealous, and treats me like crap. But when hes not like that he's amazing, and i love him, and i feel loved. My friends and family think i'm too good for him (hes kinda poor and nerdy(which i love) and i'm the more rich girl cheerleader type, people are always shocked when i say who my boyfriend is. neways, i used to think his good outweighted his bad, but lately he's getting worse, and i can't take it much longer.
2006-08-27 15:24:23 · 17 answers · asked by wildbutterfly48 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a pain in the *** to me. You should have someone that appreciates you. Usually a persons bad habits become worse over time, they hide it at first.
2006-08-27 15:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by Sean 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, it depends......it depends on your age, your maturity, and so many other things. Being that we are not in the relationship, it's hard for us to give really good advice.
Does he hit you? Does he cheat on you?
There is nothing wrong with him being poor or nerdy, as long as he's not lazy and stupid. People that care about you will usually always think there is someone better. But maybe your boyfriend has some sort of bi-polar disorder or something similar. It's all really up to you, you can give the relationship a break for a while to recoup your thoughts and to think straight. Give him time to see what it is he wants to do. Does he need to get help for his mood issues? Do you think you deserve for him to speak that way to you? No. He treats you like crap? It shouldn't be like that. I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because you care for him, but when I was younger, I went through the SAME thing. He was a punk and I was the prep. Total opposites, and he acted the exact same way you say your boyfriend does. But we were both young, and it ended, because it just kept getting much worse.
Some guys are immature, indecisive and hurtful, and they don't seem to care much about it. Unless he truly loves you and cares for you, he will make a valiant effort to change. Otherwise, it could just get worse to the point that a break up is inevitable and it becomes really messy. Think with your mind and your heart, and do what you think is right. It isn't his outside that should matter, it is what is on the inside....and I'm sorry, but if he treats you that way, the amazing is NOT outweighing the bad parts.
Good luck!
2006-08-27 15:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by royal_crown78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. From the way you describe him, your boyfriend sounds a lot like my father. Actually exactly like him. My father has only gotten worse with time, and I'm sure that you'll find the same with your boyfriend. You shouldn't have to put up with his crap. It's not even worth it.
I personally think that you should move on and find someone else (or stay single for a while; it's not that bad). However, it takes a lot of strength to leave someone you've been with for a long time. You may think you are in love with him, but a lot of times it's just that you're used to the person. He has become your life. I was in a horrible relationship for almost 4 years. I finally got the strength to leave him last February. I've felt a lot better since.
You don't want to waste your time with someone who treats you badly, even if it's only some of the time. As time goes on, he will just become more and more unbearable. Believe me.
Good luck.
2006-08-27 15:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by Me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he definitely knows that you are in love with him and he takes advantage of it. He feels that he can treat you any way he wants because he knows you will just take it since all he needs to do is apologize and act nice to you for a couple of days. I understand that you love him and it may seem like he is the ONE because you gave him your virginity, but this will only get worse for you if you do not start showing him that you will not accept his crazy behavior. If he refuses to change his ways then he doesn't care about you and you should get out before you're too involved and feel like you can never leave. Hope this helped :)
2006-08-27 15:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by qtee425 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I question why you would say that you are dating an amazing guy, that everything is perfect, and then state how mean he is to you and that you can't take it anymore. Don't leave him because people think that you are too good for him - leave him becaus eof hte way he treats. Sometimes all guys need is a good wake-up call, like you walking out the door. Maybe then he will sing a different tune....
2006-08-27 15:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by rain_or_shine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, I think giving your virginity to a guy is the best present you can give. Secondly, I think you should have enough self-esteem to know you deserve to be showed love all the time(not just some love and then the guy acts like a devil). You should go with someone that loves you like you love them. Third, I don't think more money makes a person above another. Money is something a person has, it's not who they are. A newborn baby is born naked and with nothing, yet is considered priceless. People who think money makes them above others, are just arrogant, and people who think being poor makes them worth less, are just depressed(both are two mental illnesses). Again, just because this guy dresses different, it doesn't make him less of a person, it just means he has his own style. Lastly, I just want to say, "a human being, is a human being, period".
2006-08-27 15:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by Zacklee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess what. He's not all that amazing! He sounds bipolar to me. If he is having two personalities and it is getting worse what do you think will eventually happen. It only gets worse from here on in, you'll never be blessed with someone that will love you ALL the time and not just SOME of the time, if you stay with him.
2006-08-27 15:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Queen J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your bf sounds like my ex! He's a fairweather friend--the bad side is a part of him too, and if that's dominating his personality right now then the best thing would be to get out. You can do better. Maybe you're devoted to him, but think about how much better it'll be to be devoted to someone who's 100% devoted to you...not just his good side, but all of him. You can be strong. Mr. Fabulous and Perfect for you is out there.
2006-08-27 15:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u just answerd ur own question,by saying u cant take much of it anymore...if he treats u like this why bother trying to be with him.seem like u have more bad days with this guy then the good..do ur self better get u someone that treats and loves u the same everyday not somtimes but all the times...no one is going bring up the past if they are with someone in the present...dont called urself stuipd just like lot of us just going through but only u can make the differnce
2006-08-27 15:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by sugarbaby 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, he's only going to get worse, since so far you basically let him get away with the bad behavior, he thinks its ok no matter what. You aren't going to change him, and this treatment will get real old real fast. You deserve someone who treats you with respect ALL the time, trust me, having been in several relationships like you've described, don't be a slow learner like I was....... get rid of him now and move on. Leopards DO NOT change their spots.
2006-08-27 15:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋