you contribute money for keeping up with the household. you don't do any household chores, and your partner don't do anything like cook,.wash clothes, iron.
2006-08-27 15:19:19 · 26 answers · asked by 99CLOUD99 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
In some cultures, it's perfectly acceptable to live with ones parents after marriage, and often several generations will live together under one roof and it can be warm, loving and mutually beneficial. But in this case, it sounds like it's just a convenience and a case of extended adolescence. Unless the only reason is they're trying to save up money to buy a house and that's okay with everyone. But eventually everyone needs to be independent and stand on their own two feet.
2006-08-27 15:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by wynterwood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in the old days it was acceptable due to the shortage in housing but, not only did you have to pay for the food and household bills, you were also expected to contribute to the maintenance of the house while your husband goes out to work so he can pay for the roof over your head which your parents are providing.
I am assuming you are female??
I suggest you allow your parents their freedom and put the wedding off, using the money you would have ploughed into just a huge party as a down payment on a house. Even if you are religious and can't "live in sin" at least you will have a house if only one of you lives in it until you get a cheaper wedding and make it ok!
I have my suspicions though that this is not a real question because if it is......... God help us!! lol
2006-08-27 15:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by Gillipoos 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're married, you should definatley not be living with you parents unless vitally necessary. You should be independent, making it on yyour own, doing things for yourself, not taking the short cut, it will only harm you in the end. Think of how much of a burden this is putting on your parents. They raised you so you could take care of yourself... You are overstepping your invitation. Get a house, do your own cooking, washing and ironing, and get a life, without your parents doing it all for you!
2006-08-27 15:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you should answer is why would you want to stay with your parents. When you get married it's to start a family of your own, not to be hanging around mom and dad's. In some circumstances I would say it would be ok, like if your building a house, or just moved into town. Other than don't rely on mom and dad.
2006-08-27 15:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by NFL RULES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, moving in with anybody means you will HAVE to help out with the upkeep. Remember, two more people are under a roof, and money isn't going to suffice. Your parents have taken care of you your whole life, and to make them practically your servants when you're married is pretty low. Moving in with your parents is fine, as long as both your parents and your spouse is ok with it. But paying them to take care of healthy grown people is pretty ridiculous
2006-08-27 15:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by snooch to the noonch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most of the Eastern cultures, this is the way of life. The girl lives with her parents until she is married. The young man never leaves home and brings his bride home to his family home and lives with his parents.
In these countries parents feel abandoned if their children leave home.
In short, you should do what works for you, your wife and your parents. There is no hard and fast rule about this.
2006-08-27 15:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by amoreflowers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth did you get married???
Your parents are not "helping" you to grow up and become independant of them while they allow you and your husband to live in their home as you do.
If you and your husband are adults, you need to have the means to live independantly of parents before you get married.
I do understand there seems to be a trend for young married couples to co habit with another couple or with parents so they can save to buy their own home, but if you are living with your parents, you need to still be independant of them, sharing costs of living, and most definately do you share of household chores, your parents doin't need to have you two taking advantage of them.
You need to be sharing the duties of cooking meals, cleaning and yard chores, why not take turns of doing chores? And you should be doing your own laundry!!!!
What advantage is there for your parents in this arrangement??? I hope yhou intend to take good care of them when they are old and can no longer carfe for themselves, but it seems to me they have raised selfish offspring who would not be prepared to do this.
Go on, get out of the nest! leave your parents to enjoy some peace and quiet and freedom!
2006-08-27 15:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by Christine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK on the level that you're basically paying rent, but if its your parents you should be helping with the chores since you're probably getting a really good deal with the rent.
2006-08-27 15:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by nicholas_fahrenkopf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay for awhile to save enough money for youe own place. You both should help out with chores, though. If you're old enough to get married, then you're old enough to do things around the house for yourself. Your parents aren't your maids.
2006-08-27 15:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok as long as it is a temporary situation. If it for the long haul you better believe that your marriage is no longer your own. Mom/Dad will be in your business like white on rice.
Best advice, utilize free time to find your own space and do it soon!! Freedom is yours if you seize it!
2006-08-27 15:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by ladygramblinite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋