my mom is one of my strengths and weaknesses. She has been disabled for about 15 years now. and everything got worse when my brother moved out. It's like i'm a 19 year old babysitting her. I have to stay around this area, and not like my friends going off to college. I do not like telling her what to do but it seems like I have to. Does it make me a bad person just to wish to be normal, but heck nothing is normal now a days is it.
2006-08-27 15:03:15 · 8 answers · asked by ash223 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
WANTING TO BE NORMAL DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON..I TOOK CARE OF MY MOTHER WHO WAS VERY ILL AND IT WAS THE HARDEST THING I EVER DID , NOW THAT SHES GONE , I AM SO GLAD I TOOK THE TIME TO DO IT AND YOU TOO WILL BE GRATEFUL YOU DID.. ALL PARENTS NEED CHILDREN LIKE YOU IN THEIR LIFE ... KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK I KNOW IT'S HARD AND YOU GET FED UP BUT LATER DOWN THE ROAD YOU WILL BE GRATEFUL I PROMISE...
2006-08-27 15:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by MARY B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its bad that your brother moved out. Cant blame anyone for acting the way they do. I hope he did consider you & mom.
But whats the good part in you is, you want to be there for her. Thats a nice quality many of us have lost.We like to ignore the people around us.
Yes, much of the time you will feel miserable that you are not able to be like others or with others. We are all put to the test. I feel in our life we are tested for what we stand for sometime or the other and how we react to those is what makes us.
Take care of your mother. See it this way, put yourself in your moms place and how would you want it to be. Yes, we would not like others to suffer because of us. But if you are doing your duty without any regret, you will always find ways to cope up with the worries. You will grow out of it, with your understanding.
I appreciate you for what you are doing and seriously wish you are able to do most of the the things you love to do & be happy
Regards
2006-08-27 22:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by sree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great answer Mary but you must also think about your future. What will you do the rest of your life? Do you want a career? Your brother should be helping you figure this out, so you both have a equal opportunity to have a very rich and happy future.
2006-08-27 22:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by greenlantern1999 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Taking care of them, just how they took care of me. I know, that it is hard but I know that you are strong and I am pretty sure your mother is appreciating it. And no, you are not a bad person just young. But, try to think that you should do the things on home first and then take care of friends. Good luck and remember that you are a good person and everyone loves you! :)
2006-08-27 22:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with your Mom? what is her disability? Can't you go away to school and get a nurse or someone to come in during the day to assist her.
2006-08-27 22:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by starting over 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're an awesome person for even being concerned. It means you have a conscience and you love your mother. As a paramedic, please don't put her in any kind of "assisted living" facility. As a Christian...pray about it girl. Good luck.
2006-08-27 22:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy every moment spent with you parents, some people would love to be in your shoes. Pray for guidance.
2006-08-27 22:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by learning 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please don't complain. do everything you can for her. she could have died giving life to you at birth. I have to take care of my mom too. feed her , love her . everytime I eat something my heart is bleeding because I don't want my mother to be missing anything. please email me if you need some strenght and talk about life. Please help your mom. make any sacrifice you can for her. I will pray for you so that you always be strong and blessed. Peace
2006-08-27 22:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋