how do i stop my son from running away. he is 16 and was reccently abused for a long time by my husband. the problem is solved but with a trial comming up i don't want any problems! help please
2006-08-27 14:58:33 · 13 answers · asked by dOnNa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well be honest with him, seek counseling for both you and him. It is not easy but you have to work hard to gain his confidence in you and other adults. It is very important that he receives the counseling and you too. It is not an easy road for either of you.
A lot has apparently happened to him and he distrusts the world right now. See professional help, his life and your are at stake.
2006-08-27 15:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way to stop him. If you try to physically, then he'll just want to go farther away. Just try talking to him, telling him that you trust him and hope he will be good... at least until the trial. You can't blame him is he isn't behaving how you want him to. He is 16 and can think very well for himself. After being abused for a long time, there is only so much more he can probably take.
2006-08-27 22:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he want to run away now? The trial? You have to be very attentive and reassuring. Maybe he doesn't trust you and thinks you let that all happen...even if you were powerless to do something...so talk it all out...better he scream and yell and get this out and then hopefully by the trial he will see that you stand behind him 100 percent. I don't know how bad it is...but abuse is very difficult to overcome if ever they really do.
2006-08-27 22:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by EVE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely go to counseling!!! Abuse can cause great problems, even after the abuse has stopped. Your son may be suffering from post traumatic stress disorder, and needs treatment so he can go on with his life. Feelings like anger, guilt, shame and low self image follow the abused and hurt for many years. Only treatment can make it bearable.
2006-08-27 22:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "problem" is never "solved".
Your son is suffering dreadfully and may become suicidal.
Give your son every support you can, get him to a therapist so he can have an outlet for his troubled emotions, lov e him and let him know that he is not to b lame for what happened to him.
Un less he can address his feelings and have them validated, he will be a victim for the rest of his life in the peison of his mind, don't let this happen. Help him to learn to not let the events of his past destroy his future.
2006-08-27 22:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by Christine M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give him a reason to stay.
He's probably thinking, "Once an abuser, always an abuser"
Would you honestly want to be in a place where you're hurt constantly, over and over?
2006-08-27 22:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Myrkr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
..you say he was abused for a long time were were you all this time. makes me wonder what kind of mother you were.did you side with him or your husband when he needed you ...it appears you weren't there for him now all of sudden you need him....how does he know he can trust you now....until you can prove your love he will never stay with you
2006-08-27 22:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by oyster bay bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope he has counseling, do you have family he can stay with out of town he needs to relocate to find him self there is to much pressure
2006-08-27 22:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by buffywalnuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leg irons can be quite effective.
2006-08-27 22:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
all I can suggest is that you really be there for him and let him know you are on his side.
2006-08-27 22:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by Angie A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋