Why can't my boyfriend tell his baby mama he loves me?

Question

Okay its like this. My boyfriend told me months back that he has a baby and its been some drama behind that for example he had his words I had mine, even she had her so called words, and I forgave him for everything that has occured. Recently, I told him I still loved him, but he said he loved me too, but he said to me he cant tell his baby mother. im thinking he needs to tell her the truth unless he's afraid of what she would say.

People what should I do about this?

Answer 1

you should leave him (dont spoil his married life) you find another

Answer 2

Why would he worry about what his baby mama may think or say. If he really loves you and he's dedicated to being your man then he shouldn't have a problem telling his baby mama, or anybody else for that matter. The only dedication he has towards that woman is to be a good father to his child/children. I believe that if he feels that he can't tell her that he love you then it's probably because it's still something going on between them

Answer 3

? I'm confused. You're wondering why he misbehaves? You never discipline him! He never gets in trouble, and his mother and father don't care what he does. That's unacceptable, and that's the reason he's misbehaving in the first place. Children learn from their mistakes - so if he never gets disciplined for misbehaving, then he's still going to do it. Your boyfriend is giving up, and doesn't care anymore. I'd do something fast about this, or his future won't be so bright. You need to start disciplining this child. Explain to your boyfriend that he needs to shape up his kid. It sounds to me like he isn't a very good boyfriend, so why are you still with him? You need to have a serious talk with him, and he should understand if he loves you. When he misbehaves, doesn't eat, THROWS THINGS AT YOU, etc... put him in a room with no toys, and when he's done throwing a tantrum, make him apologize. When he doesn't, simply put him back in the timeout. I know i know, most parents say "timeouts aren't punishment" , but it isn't really a timeout if you don't just let him go afterwards. Make him apologize, make him tell you what he did, and make him promise what he did wrong. Next time he does it, tell him he promised and you're upset with him for breaking a promise. He should learn not to do things like that anymore. Make your boyfriend talk to his mother, she really needs to do something about this. Next year he goes to preschool, doesn't he? Or kindergarten? (unless he already is in preschool) I feel so bad for that boy, and his teacher in school. After all, it is his parents fault he is misbehaving. You need to do something about his behavior, it isn't going to change unless you discipline. Don't spank him, it will make him more angry & believe me it doesn't really help. It isn't his fault if he pees the bed, so give him a break! You need to take immediate action. Get him some pull-ups. I feel so bad for that kid. He may have a blador infection? Maybe that's why he's wetting the bed so much? You should really think about his point of view before you go assuming stuff. When he doesn't eat, maybe tell him he doesn't get anything else unless he eats. No treats, soda, etc. Keep him under supervision so he can't grab soda out of the fridge, he isn't old enough to be having a soda a day anyways. You should really do something about this, or it isn't going to get any better.

Answer 4

He is still in love with his baby mama. If he really loved you he would have you all sit down and have a talk and let his baby mama know you are going 2 be in his life and a part of the childs life and that's final.

Answer 5

I recently fell into this situation. First time I left the country (I live in the USA) summer 2013, went to Jamaica with my best friend and met a man, went out and spent the night. I have heard from him through SKYPE, text messages and telephone calls about 2 times a day for 5 months now. I have been there twice to see him. The second trip a month ago I went up to Green Island to meet his entire family, to his house (which he live there with baby / 6yrs old and baby momma) I was introduced to his family as his girlfriend. The baby momma didn't seem like she liked me so much. I am confused at this point why they have to live and sleep together if everyone knows about me. He tells me she or he won't leave because Jamaica is 50/50 ownership if you live together for 5 plus years. She is 26 and he is 35, I am 40 and confused.

Answer 6

if he loves you like he say he does then he will tell his baby mama that he's in a relationship with someone that he's in love with. Give him an ultimatum, but he's mostly scared because he don't want his baby mama mad with him and he want be able to see his child

Answer 7

first of all u shouldn't be with no guy that has a baby's mama, cuz he needs to be there for his kid. if he is screwing you and can't tell u he loves you, then he is still screwing his baby's mama, and he isn't any good anyway cuz why would u help him cheat? on top of that he didn't even marry the kids mom. so why do u think he would be any good to you?
get out of there and DUMP HIM

Answer 8

He's not serious about you. He lives his baby mama. You are just temporary.

Answer 9

Sounds shady to me. When a guy can't be real about his feelings, it's because his feelings aren't real.

Answer 10

I think this guy wants his cake and eat it too,I think he is playing both of you,he is in a jam and don't know what to do,for you move on and be happy with some one else.

Answer 11

Because he's sleeping with his best bud, he's bi