How can I resist the temptation of looking at images of hot, sexy women, models online?

Question

As anyone who has been reading my posts for the past 2 weeks would know, I have been dealing with lust problems for the past 8 years in my life. It started at 16 and I thought that it was a teenage hormone thing and would go away but it never did.
My lust problem is a problem that I consider very serious that can ruin my life greatly if I don't get it resolved. The goal is clear. I wanna be a person with sexual integrity. I don't want to look at women as sexual objects.
But there are so many hurdles/obstacles that bother me on daily basis such as sensual magazines, free online porn, nudity in movies, sex-saturated cultures, etc...
Free online porn has been especially tough to resist for me as I can access to free images of hottest women, models within a few clicks. Right now, I feel like a hypocrite who watches sensual materials as a christian.
I will keep praying to God for support on this problem as it is beyond my power to handle. Can you guys offer me advice?

Answer 1

Don't be so selfish post your links and share!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

This is a, and perhaps the most challenging problem men face. The Bible is full of references to sexual immorality, so this is not a new problem. Men face this; that's a fact. And you are correct in your thinking that looking at images of women and thinking about them lustfully is a sin. Good for you; you know you have a problem and you know what it is. Now, as you know, you have to deal with it.

I am not an expert, but I am a fellow sufferer with you. I also have a great deal of temptation to look, and it is hard to not see what I am looking for. It is everywhere.

There is a book, and a seminar, called Every Man's Battle. I have not been through the program myself, but I have heard nothing but good things about it. They give you some very practical advice and tools to use to help you with your struggle. It would be worth looking into if you have not already.

Other than that, you have to pray, of course. You need to shield yourself from temptation. Have someone set up your computer so that you cannot get on the sites with pornography through use of a filter or whatever. Have someone you trust set it up with a password that you do not know.
Get an accountability partner, if you don't have one. I think this should be another man, and it has to be someone you can trust with this kind of intimate information. You have to be able to be truthful with him. And he has to come to you and ask you point blank, out front, no beating around the bush, if you have let him down. That's the idea; you make yourself accountable to someone else, and if you screw up, you have to face them. Meet, or at least talk, often. I am not sure, but I think weekly is a pretty good idea. Maybe more often at first. Later, you can decrease.

There will be more suggestions, I am sure. Hope this helps and I am praying for you right now.

Answer 4

??? OK, here's a fact for you... I live in Brooklyn NY where there's 1 million people living at or below the poverty line. (of course, there's also 3.5 others, that are above to well-above that detemination.. but, let's just say that people/incomes interact here, like NO OTHER PLACE on God's Green Earth.. by the millions). Plus, I've got a decent eye for the ladies... and I don't mind saying so... in this context. There are 1,000s of stunning women (of all ethic backgrounds), that out-do and would out-model most of eveything we see on a Victoria's Secret catwalk, a Hawaiian Tropic beauty contest and many times, "blows the doors" off the Miss America, Miss Whatever contests.. just standing on NYC subway platforms... Many, many of the most beautiful will somehow become mothers, as well... in poverty. In fact, maybe 2-3x by the time they are the age of say, 20-21 years old. I'm going to say/think that THIS is also the case, across the world. The trick to keep these most beautful SHELTERED in an odd way, and away from bad-influences of the clubs, streets, men promising this/that, and even.. you, if you met a young, 17-yr old mega-hottie on a subway platform.. in NYC.. because WHAT WOULD YOUR INTENTIONS be? and what's the difference? But, as far as your perspective.. you know what you see on TV and the media isn't the place to find Real People. You have to walk and live among them -- like where YOU live. Your impressions, are obscured by your experience.

Answer 5

the Bible teaches us to flee immorality, not play around with it, not just avoid it, FLEE it. If you keep going back to the poisoned well, you will keep getting poisoned. If the Internet is a problem, disconnect it. Lust is a very powerful force and the only hope to break this addiction is remove anything from your life that causes you to stumble. When your thoughts start to drift that way, pray, fill your mind with Scripture, find another brother to whom you will be accountable to, do not put yourself in a position to fall. I don't know your living situation, but often the time you are most vulnerable is late at night, limit that time on-line. If you focus your mind on God, read and memorize Scripture and spend your time on useful things, it will fade. But it will take effort on your part, learn to say no to yourself.

Answer 6

Perhaps you are a highly sexual person. That isn't wrong, that's how you are made. And there is nothing wrong with seeing women as sexual beings because all humans are sexual beings! As long as you are not abusing women or you can only relate to them as sexual objects. That would be a problem. I believe that people are made to be sexual.

Your actions, though, are your choice. If you truly believe that what you are doing is wrong, then seek guidance from your spiritual leaders. Or even go to addiction counseling. If you only feel it's wrong because you fear other people's judgment, then you'd have to question how you really stand on this subject.

Answer 7

Accept that you are a guy.....and that you are a sinner.
Maybe take away your toy: get rid of the internet. But I don't think that is the answer. It's all around you.

Remember you are made the way God intended you to be. Look on the bright side....you could be gay. Not that I believe being gay is a negative....as my son is gay. But since you are so guilt ridden about something that is just nature, then at least you can have less guilt than if you were gay. THAT would be horrible for you.....as you have a problem with sexuality in the straight world.

Answer 8

i actually used to have this problem and what i did was for like 2 or 3 weeks i just totally stayed off the internet and watched funny but clean movies as for magazines just stop getting them like if u get them from the store then dont even go in there if u have to get a friend to get a clean magazine for you but just stay away from any source possible and then pray hard for those weeks and then go back to your life and do ur best to resist temptation as soon as u see sumtin just turn your head instantly and look at sum thing stupid or a little thing and start thinking about it if this doesnt work just pray hard

Answer 9

why would you want to resist temptation
women arent just sex objects, but that is a part of who they are
dude the free online porn will fill your computer with viruses
if you dont look at this stuff and beat off, you might go out there and be tempeted to get a prostitute or rape,
nothing wrong with looking at women, if there was god would not have made them so beautiful

Answer 10

James McDonald (www.walkintheword.com) recommends putting having someone--like your mom or grandmother, if you must!-- put a password lock on your computer. Or even find a way to put up a block or firewall on certain sites. You may even have to find a way to get through life without a computer, if you must. But come up with a plan, or else Satan will use this sin to destroy your life. You know that.

Answer 11

The problem is in how you look. When you look at a women say this...

"She is my weakness, She is my strength"

Take your lust for her and put that energy into what you really want to do. Make your weakness your strength.


That's what soldiers do. They attack for their wife, for their children. When you look at a woman focus on ...

"How can I protect her"

You are certainly not protecting her by exploiting pictures of her naked body.